Many times, we cannot explain clearly whether it is lucky or unfortunate to be a woman.
God gave women uterus, giving them the function of giving birth. Is it a kindness and gift to women, or a tease and punishment to them?
There is a Jiai Hospital in Shanghai that provides assisted reproductive technical support for families who cannot have normal childbirth.
一个号 There is a "child-seeking apartment" opposite the hospital. Aunt Chen, the owner of the apartment, is almost 50 years old. When she was 38, her son died of an accident. Three years later, Aunt Chen is 41 years old. In the next five years, she will undergo dozens of egg retrieval and transplant, try 10 test tube fertilization, and finally become a mother again at the age of 46. With rich experience, she found business opportunities from it and opened this "child-seeking apartment".
Picture: Documentary "Wonderful Eggs" | Picture source from the Internet, the same below.
Couples who want children but do not allow their own conditions come from all over the country, with old and young.
Some people only want to experience the happiness of being a parent and enjoy the joy of family in their lifetime.
Some people actually don’t think clearly about why they must have a child.
Maybe they think there is no need to think at all. When a man gets married, when a woman gets married, when a woman gets married, when she gets married and has children.
has always been like this, and it is natural.
The families who come here have different circumstances. Some people succeed and everyone is happy; some people fail and they are dejected.
But for women who come here, they are all very passive.
They seem to have to choose to obey the arrangements of fate.
Faced with the injustice of fate, struggled and endured the double torture of the body and the spirit.
both powerless and helpless.
is both pitiful and sad.
Will a woman's life be incomplete if she doesn't have children?
Many women think that no matter what, you must be a mother in this life, otherwise life will be incomplete.
This sounds very reasonable, but it is actually worth discussing when you think about it.
Must have a baby, of course.
No one has the right to stop a woman from becoming a mother.
But this has nothing to do with whether life is complete.
If we break down life, we will find that it is composed of many parts, having children is just one of them.
Life cannot be perfect, either here or there, more or less will always be flaws.
But some people just stare at giving birth, thinking that it will be incomplete without giving birth.
Ms. Kuang is already 51 years old.
Normally, the topics you pay attention to should not include the issue of having children.
But in the past 6 years, Ms. Kuang went to Jiai Hospital to retrieve eggs more than a dozen times, transplanted five or six times, but failed to get pregnant successfully.
She didn't give up and kept taking medicine to promote ovulation.
She said: "As long as I can still ovulate, I will never give up."
Artificial egg retrieval and implantation are a very painful process in itself and are very harmful to the body, especially older women like Ms. Kuang, which is even more irreversible. The money spent by
is even more amazing. Many families have exhausted their savings and even put a lot of debts on them.
In six years, Ms. Kuang has invested more than 500,000 yuan.
If you say that Ms. Quotes, this kind of voluntary persistence is understandable.
More women are forced to accept the stereotype that "if a woman does not have children, her life will be incomplete."This kind of persecution is not only real coercion from husbands, in-laws, relatives and friends in reality, but also invisible pressure from traditional concepts, inner fear, and blind follow-up.
so many women trap themselves in the prison of "fertility" and are not free.
Since I witnessed and experienced the process of my wife's pregnancy, childbirth and raising, I feel moved from the bottom of my heart.
A woman who is a mother is really great.
But we can't make the final decision because of this matter.
There is no childbirth, but there are also many women who are so wonderful that everyone envies. For example, Sister Deng, who is familiar to the whole world.
For women themselves, there is no need to regard having children as a hard performance indicator for their lives.
After all, God has given women a fertility function, but it is just that women can have children, not that they have to have children.
"Yes", it is a choice, it is a right; "must" means kidnapping, it is forced.
For others, they should not vote to reject a woman just because they refuse to give birth or are unable to give birth.
If you have children or not, it can determine the right or wrong success or failure of a woman in her life.
On the other hand, in life, can women not do anything else, just need to have children? Obviously not.
Naturally there is no reason to say that if a woman cannot have children, she will be useless.
Women are not a fertility machine.
Follow the success or failure of a person's life, and the merits and demerits of a group, all of them are on the matter of childbirth or not. It makes no sense and is too narrow-minded.
Is the family that requires children to maintain, or is it home?
There are always people saying that only if there is a house can you have a home.
But I think people are more important than houses.
People who live together, rent a house can also be home.
people are wrong, and the house I bought is just cold concrete.
children too.
Many people think that home is home with children.
More people think that children are the bonds that maintain the family.
With children, the family will be stable. Without children, the family will disappear at any time.
Based on this cognition, a woman who cannot give birth is prone to deep guilt.
I feel sorry for my husband and family.
It seems that all the misfortunes are just because you can't have a child.
Wenxia from Sichuan, has been married for many years and has not had children.
traveled thousands of miles to Shanghai Jiai Hospital to do IVF.
Over the past three years, she has retried and transplanted eggs many times, spending all the savings of more than 600,000 in the family, but the God of Luck never took care of her.
Wen Xia deeply blamed herself for this. She said: "It is my duty to have a baby for him, and it feels like I owe him."
She began to be careful in life and please her husband everywhere.
Walking, eating, and speaking, you must always observe your expressions, just like some places where subordinates always want to please the leaders.
The husband always acts as if he should be cold.
In order to save money, when retrieving eggs, Wenxia chose not to take an anesthetic, so she let the tube as thick as a little finger be inserted into the uterus.
Someone cared about her, and she said, "It doesn't hurt. I hope to do a few more times. I'll have a follicle , which will realize my husband's wish."
A reporter asked her, what if she still fails?
She replied, "Then let him find another one. Find someone to give birth to him.""
The husband was right next to him, without saying a word, as if he was a default.
paid the double price of body and money, but it still failed.
The husband and mother-in-law drove her out of the house.
Wenxia filed for divorce, and her husband agreed, but asked her to pay more than 600,000 yuan in compensation.
Reality seems to be as worried as he can't give birth to a child, Wenxia's family is gone.
But is this true?
I don’t know how many people have thought that the foundation of a family is never a house or a child, but love.
Children are the crystallization of love. Not on the other hand, only with children can there be love and home. This logical order cannot be confused.
There is love, and children can bring family happiness and harmony to the family.
No love, and with children, that is, the family is at home. There is only one more person.
We think children can maintain the integrity of the family.
Little do we know that so many families with children still have all kinds of chaos, but they can't escape the ending of a mess.
Children who have no love and barely give birth not only bring pain to adults, but may also be a tragedy for the child's life.
There is a question on Zhihu: What is the last thing you regret?
The answer that gets the highest like is actually: Being born.
What makes a person regret coming to this world? Most of them are because they did not grow up in a family full of love.
With love, there is power to defeat the suffering of life.
lack of love, and birth itself is suffering.
We think children can maintain their families.
But is the family that needs children to maintain, still home ?
In the face of domestic violence and cheating, I want to divorce, but for the sake of the children, I endure it.
Is this the so-called maintenance? But the cost of divorce has increased.
Life is difficult, and home should be a harbor for healing. Home that needs to be swallowed and maintained is still home.
Maybe, in the life of some people, children are just obstacles to seeking liberation and pursuing freedom.
Otherwise, why does a peak of divorce occur every year after the college entrance examination?
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How innocent is the child!
The meaning of inheriting the family line?
What is the meaning of inheriting the family line?
When it comes to the necessity of having children, the most ingrained idea is to inherit the family line and continue the incense.
The subject has always been a man.
Women give birth to children to continue their bloodlines for men.
If this premise is true, in principle, in one thing, whoever benefits the most will naturally bear more responsibilities.
But the facts are exactly the opposite.
Once a family cannot have children, women will always be the party that is discriminated against and criticized.
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0 Xinxin is born with chromosomal abnormalities, Uterine , ovarian function is not sound and cannot give birth.
The husband said he loved her very much and could not have children.
But in fact, he still asked his wife to accept egg donation and do IVF.
This means that Xinxin is going to give birth to a child that has nothing to do with him in blood.
The reason for the husband to do this is very good: "The world is not a world with only two people. Do you not visit relatives during the Chinese New Year, right? "
The reason is not worth refuting.
The world is indeed not a two person, but only two people know the well-being of life.365 days a year, how many days does it take to visit during the Chinese New Year? The rest of the days, we still have to live two people.
My husband's family even issued an ultimatum: if you don't get pregnant within one year, you will get a divorce.
claims to love his husband and agree.
Xinxin also accepts it, even if it is helpless.
Another couple who is unable to give birth due to congenital reasons is because the husband is born with azoospermia.
But my husband and the in-laws have been struggling with each other for ten years on whether to accept sperm donation for IVF.
Ten years without children, my wife had no complaints.
Ten years later, I saw that my wife had passed the childbirth period and finally barely accepted the child who was not related to me.
Can't have children, it's the woman's fault.
It doesn’t matter whether a child has a blood relationship with a woman; it is unacceptable if it has a blood relationship with a man.
The child was born, and the husband's clan was passed down and the husband's clan was followed.
What is the reason for this?
Women do not have the qualifications to pass on their family line?
Women should have their children and grandchildren?
Has anyone ever thought that from a biological definition, chromosome women also account for half of the proportion of having a child.
If a woman cannot have children, it is already a kind of incomplete misfortune.
As a lover or relative, you should have taken good care of it. How can we treat each other coldly and force each other to each other!
Women really don’t need to blame themselves for being unable to pass on their husband’s family.
famous singer Li Jian couple are dink family.
He said: It’s not an excellent gene anyway.
How many people dare to stand up and say that their genes are better than Li Jian’s?
If there weren't thousands of miles of land, if there were hundreds of millions of assets.
Transfer the family line, what is passed on?
Why do women blame themselves?
What right does a man have to blame?
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Survey of the integrity of life, maintain the stability of the family, and pass on the family line for the husband's family. It should not be a reason for women to have children.
should not be the only reason at least.
The most basic and most important reason for giving birth to a child is the most important reason, and it is what I said before: loves .
Function is deep, and when you are ready, you will be born.
Once fate arrives, it will naturally come naturally.
is not ready and doesn’t want to give birth, especially if you can’t give birth, don’t force others to do so.
The world is vast and life is long, and there is great potential. Why bother with whether to have a child?
Just like a book written by a Tibetan Lama Jiacuo: "Everything is the best arrangement."
The meaning of life and life all come from life and life itself, and should not be placed on the arrival of another young life.
This is not fair to us.
is not fair to children.
