We often say: The family is the first school for children, and parents are the first teachers for children.
Educating your children well is the most important cause for parents in their lives and a glory that cannot be surpassed by any success.
Educator Rousseau said:
"Human education begins when he is born. Before he can't speak or listen to others, he has been educated."
It can be seen that parents' words and deeds are of great significance in children's education.
In Family education , the father is a role model for the child, and the father's pattern determines the height the child can reach in the future;
Mother is the child's coach, and the mother's cultivation determines the child's future character and how far he can fly.
The pattern of fathers,
determines how high a child can fly
In family education, the more fathers participate, the better the child is.
Psychologist Gerdi once said: " Fathers are a unique existence, which has a special power in cultivating children ."
From the father, children observe what a husband is and what a father is, and at the same time they will also think about what independence and courage are.
A good father is better than 200 good teachers.
Fathers are the guide for children to go to the world. 99% of children's success comes from 1% of changes in fathers.
everyone says that Liang Qichao teaches children well. Among the nine children, everyone has their own strengths.
Liang Qichao's eldest son Liang Sicheng . When he went to the United States to study, he wanted to learn architecture, but at the beginning he was practicing basic drawing for several years.
He once worried that he would become a painter , and wrote a letter to complain to Liang Qichao.
Liang Qichao wrote in his reply:
"Don't ask about the harvest, but ask about hard work.
What will happen in the future? What if you think of him now? What if you are anxious about him?
On one side, you should not be complacent, and on the other side, you should not be timid and discouraged."
He told Liang Sicheng that you don't have to rush to prove yourself. Focusing on the present, the process is always more important than the result. Only by being down-to-earth can you move forward step by step.
The big picture of the father is the most precious asset of the family.
Only when a father has a pattern can the child stand high and look far.
The father's pattern is the ceiling of the child's growth, which determines the height that a child can reach in his life.
Psychologist Eilver once said:
"The father has a huge impact on the child. He will seep into the child's blood bit by bit and embed into the child's soul."
Children often have a strong admiration for their fathers, treating the father as a symbol of wisdom and strength.
html Before the age of 310, children often regard their father as their idol.
will subconsciously imitate the father's behavior.
Only a father with a pattern can become a real guide on the road to growth of his children.
mother's cultivation,
determines the child's character
mother's cultivation often affects the child's character throughout his life.
The influence of the mother is irreplaceable during the child's growth.
When everyone is born, the first thing they see is their mother, and the first thing they receive is also the education they receive from their mothers.
When people grow up, some people become politicians, businessmen, scientists, and engineers; while some people become homeless people, drug addicts, perverts, murderers...
The reason for these differences is the difference in family education, especially the mother's education of children.
There was once a little boy who was jumping happily towards the moon.
Seeing this scene, my mother asked curiously: "What are you doing?"
The boy pointed at the moon and said excitedly: " I want to jump to the moon. "
Facing the boy's childish words, my mother did not laugh or deny it, but smiled and said: " is very good, but you have to remember to go home for dinner !"
More than a year later, the first person to land on the moon was played on TV. This person was the little boy back then, Armstrong .
Former US President Obama , deeply influenced by his mother.
Obama's mother - Ann Dunham , after two failed marriages, he did not complain about life, but continued to improve himself.
She insisted on raising her children while raising her children and studying for her master's degree in anthropology from the University of Hawaii.
Obama once recalled that his mother never reasoned for them, but only used actions and positive attitude towards life to infect his children.
Writer Mo Yan , on the Nobel Prize Literature Podium of the Swedish Academy of Literature, he spared no effort to spend a quarter of his writing,
deeply remembered his mother and recalled every detail of his life with his mother in childhood.
Mo Yan reveals his heart: Mother is the person I miss the most at this moment.
shows how tall the image of his mother is in his heart, and how huge the influence of his mother on him!
He once used three words to evaluate his mother: Kind , Strong and Tolerance .
Looking at the growth experiences of celebrities from ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, it is not difficult to find that mothers are important figures that truly determine children's life.
The success of many celebrities is inseparable from the mother's training. The mother's cultivation, knowledge and enlightenment have injected unparalleled and abundant nutrition into the children.
Complete family education,
indispensable
Absent father is a sorrow in the education of his children and a deep regret for a family.
I have to admit that now after the child is born, almost everything is given to the mother.
However, a complete family education requires the joint efforts of parents and is indispensable.
There is a saying that goes: Parents and children have always been in a state of mutual fulfillment.
While the child has not grown up and while we have not grown old, parents must accompany their children, educate them carefully, and strive to achieve their children.
1. Suggestions for mothers:
1. Mothers usually have delicate feelings, must have a stable mood, give children a sense of security, and accompany their growth with rich emotions.
2. Mothers are good at observing and can detect children's emotional changes. They should listen patiently to their children's voices, recognize their emotions, and guide their children to express their emotions through appropriate methods.
3. When a child encounters troubles or setbacks, mothers should interpret the child’s spiritual password in time, give the child the support of spiritual strength, comfort and encourage him to get out of the predicament.
2. Suggestions for dad:
1. Dad should be the instructor of his children's life and give him guidance on the direction of his life.
Help children establish various learning and growth goals, establish life ambitions, and help children find the endogenous motivation for growth.
2. Dad should take care of his children more and cultivate his hands-on ability.
The famous educator Sukhomlinsky once said: "The intelligence of a child is on his fingertips."
Children have strong hands-on ability, which is more conducive to the development of intelligence.
Repair broken chairs and electrical appliances, conduct scientific experiments, and the hands-on and demonstration role of fathers will drive children's interest and stimulate children's desire for exploration and creativity.
3. Dad should read more books, tell stories, and visit the library for his children. The voice of his father is different from that of his mother, and is deeper and more magnetic. The diverse experience can enrich the child's feelings.
4. Dads take their children to exercise more often, and men's athletic talent is more outstanding than women.
Mothers are always worried that their children will be injured, afraid that they will accidentally hit them, but their fathers are usually more calm, and they are more willing to teach their children about rules and competition.
Countless parents hope to send their children to the best schools, receive the best education, and do their best to create the best educational environment for their children.
But it is often ignored that parents are the best teachers for their children.
On the Internet, I saw this sentence:
God gave you an absent father, and will give you an anxious mother, and in the end it will only raise an out-of-control child.
The best way to educate is to have parents' participation and guidance on the road of children's growth.
Children's education has a long way to go. As parents, we must also grow up with our children.
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