The son has always been well-behaved, but suddenly one day he seemed to have grown up and no longer listened to his mother's nagging. As a mother, her first reaction is that the child is starting to get bored of me, and the second reaction is that she can no longer control the child.
In fact, we all know that mothers’ nagging comes from their inner desire to protect their children. But for children, it has different meanings. When your child is still young, your nagging child is very happy. This is the interaction between mother and herself, which can increase the harmony of the parent-child relationship.
But as the child gradually gains his own experience, the child will have his own feelings about the content of the mother's nagging. If it is some kind opinions and suggestions, the child will still accept it very much, but if it is the mother's urging, the nagging with a bad tone and an incorrect attitude, they will gradually develop a sense of resistance. Of course, when a child enters puberty, any kind of nagging of mothers sounds like a kind of suffering to the child.
Therefore, as a mother, you must understand the child’s mental journey and developmental laws. You must have different ways of dealing with it in different periods. Stubborn nagging will only make the child crazy and eventually become a rebellious person in your eyes.
But then again, the child just treats procrastination as a habit. How can he solve the problem if he doesn’t nag if he is a mother?
First of all, it is recommended that mothers not focus on their children. The more you pay attention to the children, the more vigilant you are, the more helpless you feel. This is because the child cannot do what the mother and father want to achieve. After all, they have their own unique personality, they are themselves, not their parents' shadow or expectations.
Secondly, we need to change our commanding language habits, because children will reject your commanding tone, which will make it difficult for children to interact with you during communication. So change your habits and attitudes of issuing orders as soon as possible. Instead of scolding your child for not loving to study, it is better to ask yourself if you are a role model for learning. Instead of worrying about whether your child loves to do homework, it is better to figure out why your child does not love to do homework first. Being a parent is indeed a chore. If you take hard work, you may not get better. Maybe you can use up all your children's emotional connection to you.
Finally, it is also very important to let children have a sense of participation. Parents should not hide things in life, but tell them openly, so that their children feel that they are also part of the family and play an equally important role as their parents. In this way, children will change from the output model of their parents to the spontaneous model of their children in terms of life and study. In this way, children will not feel that life is not easy to be unhappy, and will not resist because of their bad attitude towards them. Instead, they will clearly know that this is a part of life. They must share the burden for their families, and parents work hard and study hard to improve themselves.
When we learn to shut up and slowly guide our children to become self-disciplined people, our children’s future will not be broken into the hands of our parents.
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