Since my daughter entered kindergarten, not only did she feel uncomfortable, but I was more anxious than her, especially when it comes to communicating with the teacher. I always think that I am afraid of being disliked because my child is messing with all kinds of trivial matters; I don’t ask anything, but I love to think about it at home.
Sometimes I feel even more anxious when I hear my child come home and tell me that "I've been beaten by XX", "I don't want to go to kindergarten", and "I don't like to go to kindergarten". I opened WeChat and wanted to ask the teacher something. I said a lot of polite words, but in the end I still didn’t get the answer I wanted. Instead, I felt that if I asked too much, I might be disgusted. What should the teacher do if I treat the child differently?
After the child enters the kindergarten, I believe that most parents may have the same mentality as me. When communicating with teachers, I often don’t know how to communicate to get the answers I want, and I won’t be disgusted by the teacher. In fact, this question is not that difficult. You just need to avoid three types of "fake politeness" when talking to the teacher. Just talk about it if you have something to do and contact less if you have nothing to do!
"Pretty polite three-piece set": I'm troubled by the teacher, disturbing the teacher, sorry for taking up the teacher's time!
In the eyes of many parents, these three sentences are a polite term, and they are also to express their "sorry" when communicating with teachers and trouble them. But in the eyes of teachers, they do not care much about whether you say this polite word, and they may even ignore this sentence directly, because in their responsibilities, it is their responsibility and obligation to cooperate with parents to educate and take good care of their children.
Compared with this "fake polite" language, the teacher prefers you to say these words to her:
- You can talk about what aspects your child has made recent progress, and this progress has a lot to do with the teacher. For teachers, this is the communication language they like to hear very much. They can get a "sense of accomplishment as a teacher" from your feedback, and will pay more attention to your children in the future;
- As a parent, you can see the efforts the teacher has made for the children's progress, which is the "sense of identity" that teachers are very eager for.
For example:
Teacher: Good evening, Xixi Mom! Now their teacher wants to share with you the baby's performance in kindergarten. When eating breakfast today, Xixi ate three bowls (´-ω-`). She also wanted to eat one bowl, but the teacher was afraid that she would not be able to eat at lunch, so she did not let him eat it. She ate two bowls of lunch and ate it by herself. After eating, she would take the initiative to ask the candy teacher to check and study very actively. She raised her hand very actively during class today to answer questions and praise!
Me: Thank you for your praise from the teacher, so happy! The teacher is good at discovering and affirming the behavior of children! That’s why the child will be full of confidence and get better and better! And I recently discovered that Xixi has eaten more since she went to kindergarten. Thank you for your careful care!
How to communicate effectively with the teacher? 3 tips:
is applicable to
from kindergarten to high school. There is no need to lower your posture, and there is no need to say too much nonsense. Because the teacher is very busy every day, he has to take care of his children, communicate with them, lead them to play games and learn knowledge. Therefore, the simplest way to communicate with the teacher is: respect your attitude and language, talk about things when you have something to do, and talk less nonsense.
First: A respectful attitude and language are indispensable
The first sentence you communicate with the teacher can be: "Hello teacher" or "I have a question, please ask me." Similar words, there is no need to be too polite. Don't be careful and afraid of offending; don't be arrogant and instruct me at will. Then throw out the questions you want to consult or what you hope the teacher will help you do. 's respectful attitude and language will allow the teacher to patiently read your questions and give a reply.
Second: Normal communication will be more effective than communication with problems
Never wait until the child has problems before going to communicate with the teacher. For example, if you know that your child likes to lose his temper, throw things, and hit people at home, it is best to communicate more with the teacher when you take time. is to let the teacher better understand the child's personality and habits; secondly, we can work with the teacher to find ways to solve problems such as improving children .
Don’t ask these “soul questions” to teachers:
- The child was thirsty when he came back today, why didn’t anyone remind our children?
- Why don’t you pay more attention to my children?
- Why do children have so many strange problems when they arrive in kindergarten?
Third: Pay attention to communication time
Some parents do not consider the time at all when communicating with teachers, such as if they like to communicate face-to-face when entering the kindergarten, when picking up their children home, or when the teacher is in class.
does not mean that these times are not allowed, but that these times are the time when the teacher is busy. Teachers should pay attention to and take care of every child. If every parent communicates for a while, it will disturb the teacher's overall work. It is also difficult for the teacher to reply clearly to what you want to ask.
If you sincerely want to talk to the teacher about your child’s affairs, you can choose these 2 times:
① After the child finishes school, the teacher will not be busy and communicate in person with the teacher;
②If you cannot communicate in person, you can communicate by phone and WeChat voice. However, before asking, it is best to find out if the teacher is free and tell the teacher how much time it needs to communicate so that the teacher can give the teacher some preparation time.
Specific ways for parents to communicate with teachers
First: The specific question is
Instead of asking, "Does my child perform well in kindergarten?" the teacher is more willing to hear your specific question: "Does my child have a fixed playmate in kindergarten? Can I sleep on a nap by myself?" try to concretely define the problem so that the teacher can pay attention to, guide the child in detail, and communicate in a targeted manner.
Second: Avoid a question repeatedly emphasizing
Don’t ask the teacher the same question every time. If you told the teacher, they will basically remember and follow it. If you always ask and keep asking, the teacher will think that "whether your guidance is invalid." If you find that a problem has been mentioned and has not been improved, you can consult the teacher in another way.
For example, for the first time you ask the teacher: "How is the child eating in kindergarten?" The second time you can ask "Does the child not like to eat vegetables in kindergarten?" In this way, the teacher will quickly understand what you mean.
Third: Children’s shortcomings and advantages all involve
Communicate with teachers, and you must talk about both advantages and disadvantages. In this way, the teacher will know how to make full use of the child's strengths and increase his confidence; at the same time, he will also find ways to guide and correct his shortcomings. You must understand: teachers, like parents, hope to gain growth in kindergarten.
CiCi mother's message: Follow CiCi mother talks about parenting, Focus on Family educationKnowledge sharing. If you like this article, please like CiCi mother and share it with more people! If you have any questions, you can follow and send me a private message and reply to me when you see them.
