[ Education is a complex project, and the responsibility of mothers is particularly important. They not only need to impart moral knowledge, but also coordinate educational concepts with humanistic care. However, some mothers work tirelessly to educate and cultivate their children and put a lot of effort into it, but often fail to achieve the desired results. The reason is that mothers do not start from the child’s own reality and are still educating their children with traditional concepts. The following are some elements for mothers to refer to. ]
1. Learn to praise children, good children are praised.
If mothers often ignore their children's strengths and blindly emphasize their weaknesses, it will make the child lose confidence in themselves. Of course, they cannot praise them one-sidedly and excessively. Sincerity and sincere praise are the most touching. Since we can sincerely appreciate children, we should expose the touching and loving friendship in our words as much as possible.
2. Avoid overprotection.
Mothers cannot and do not need to protect their children's life. Children must have the courage and ability to face life alone. Excessive protection of their children will make their children rely on their mothers helplessly, or cause their children's rebellious mentality.
3. Give your child some space to let him grow up on his own.
There is a motto called "hast desire will not be achieved." In order to make children like to learn, some mothers take some urgent methods to achieve success, put pressure on their children and force them to learn, which will only cause psychological burden on their children. Children are also independent individuals. They have the right to choose the lifestyle they like and have their own space. Only in a complete space can children form their complete and sound personality. We can imagine that tigers grown up in zoos do not have the ability to hunt.
4. Treat children like friends and grow up with them.
As individuals whose thoughts and personalities are not yet perfect, children need their mother’s care and guidance. Only by intervening in their lives, understanding their joys, sorrows, and feeling their happiness and unhappiness, can you truly understand the child’s heart and his needs.
5. Control your emotions.
The relationship between mother and children is a kind of control and being regulated, so conflicts are inevitable. Therefore, we must be a skilled mother, cool down the contradictions step by step, and turn them into nothingness. When you face any irregular behavior of your child and when you are angry, you might as well use the pause method. You can let him go back to the room, or leave here temporarily, and tell him: "You can stay for a while, calm down, knowing that you think clearly what to do and then come out before you get out, I also need to calm down, I am angry, I don't want to lose my temper." On the one hand, I told the child that your approach is unreasonable and needs reflection. My approach is also unreasonable. I deal with it in a calm way.
OK, that’s all for today’s sharing!
