went to the mall to see a pair of parents. Their way of educating their children is to roar. The mother is emotionally unstable, and the father also shouted, and it seemed that a volcano erupted to the children.
I really don’t agree with this kind of yelling parents. With such parenting, the child will only become more cowardly, even hurt the child's brain and affect the child's intelligence level.
The following aspects may change greatly in the following aspects. Parents should not underestimate the side effects of yelling their children. Even if your child is very smart, he will become stupid because he is often yelled at by you. At , the University of Michigan , some researchers wanted to use a small experiment to verify the changes that may occur in various aspects of a child after being yelled. They installed EEG and electrocardiogram to observe the changes and reactions of various areas of the child's brain through different emotional changes in the child. It turned out that the sub-region of the brain responsible for language in the roaring child will be damaged, and different children will suffer from damage to different brain parts, which shows that there are huge differences in the brain after the child is often roared.
After the child is yelled for the first time, his brain capacity will become smaller. As he is yelled many times, the child's brain cells will suffer varying degrees of damage. This will definitely come at the cost of the child's intelligence.
So how should we educate our children as parents?
1. Think about why we are angry
Do we feel that our children are not good, or that our parents are not good, or that we think that we are not good? Finding the cause can effectively solve the reason for yelling at the child, and then prescribe the right medicine and gradually correct it.
2. Understand your own psychological needs
Do we want to help children grow up, or do we want to vent our anger with children, or just because we don’t know the method, we can only make children become our self-criticism agent tool? In short, as parents, we must understand our psychological needs. This is very helpful in correcting your bad emotions.
3. Changing behavior
is not just thinking, but also taking into account changes in behavior. This is the key point. How to change
? First of all, you must be patient and persistent. Secondly, we need to set small goals for ourselves. We can use the method of creating a plan to complete a small goal and then complete a big goal. This will easily have a sense of strength and a sense of accomplishment, and it will be easier to complete the established goals and achieve the most fundamental purpose of changing behavior.
In fact, if parents change, the children will change. Don’t use emotions to educate their children, don’t put pressure on your children, and don’t use yelling to affect your children’s intellectual development. For the healthy growth of children, it starts with parents.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
