When the older generation takes care of their children, they are often used to "pissing" their children. In their eyes, being able to "smash and pee" for their children is a very fulfilling thing.
In their opinion, by urinating shit and urine, it not only saves the cost of diapers, but also allows children to "feel less suffering". However, as the scientific concept of parenting gradually becomes popular, more and more families are aware of the harm of "smashing and urine" for their children.
Xiao Cai is very grateful to his mother-in-law because his child is raised by his mother-in-law. Since having children, my mother-in-law has hardly slept all night and has worked so hard.
But there is one thing that Xiao Cai actually minds very much, that is, her mother-in-law is too frugal. Sometimes, if she saves too much, it becomes a bad thing.
Let’s use the child’s training on self-urination and defecation. After the child was born, Xiao Cai’s mother-in-law insisted on letting the child use diapers. She felt that she was not bothered and could wash the child.
After Xiao Cai tried his best to convince his mother-in-law to use diapers for his child, the mother-in-law began to think about "frugal" again and occasionally gave the child shit and urine, saving a lot of diapers.
After Xiao Cai discovered what her mother-in-law did, she began to do ideological work for her mother-in-law. Fortunately, my mother-in-law is an understanding person and has a great respect for young people's parenting concepts.
During this period, Xiao Cai's child was just the age to "quit diapers". Xiao Cai found that his mother-in-law began to "piss" for the child again, but this time "pissed shit and urine" was not in the traditional sense, but in the "new type".
This is the thing. Xiao Cai's child has started training in the toilet and can no longer use diapers during the day.
But Xiao Cai found that his child was surprisingly "obedient" and had almost never ede his pants. This made Xiao Cai a little confused because she heard her colleagues talk about it when her children quit diapers, washing pants for children is common.
This also made Xiao Cai feel confused: Did the mother-in-law start to urinate the child again?
After observation, Xiao Cai found that although her mother-in-law did not hold the child and urinate, she was very diligent.
One day, Xiao Cai found that her mother-in-law would remind her child to "sheep" every half an hour. If the child has no desire to pee, her mother-in-law would insist on letting the child sit on her small toilet until the child has a desire to pee.
After observing this phenomenon, Xiao Cai suddenly understood why his child did not hesitate his pants easily.
It turns out that the mother-in-law is using a new way to "paste and urinate" the child. Xiao Cai fell into deep thought. It seemed that it was necessary to talk to her mother-in-law about the harm of this matter.
With the popularization of scientific parenting concepts, more and more people are aware of the harm of traditional "small shit and urine" to children.
However, for this "new type of urine control" method, many parents do not realize the seriousness of the problem, and some parents are even happy to use this method to train their children to go to the toilet independently.
frequently reminds children to go to the toilet and force them to sit on the toilet when they are not urged to urinate. Such behaviors are all "new type of shit and urine".
For children, whether it is the new type of "pissing" or the traditional "pissing" are harmful.
So, what harm will this "new type of urine picking" cause to children? It is very necessary for parents to understand.
This "new type" method of urinating shit and urine has a lot to do with children, but unfortunately parents are happy with it
●Physical: it is impossible to control the urination and urination
A very direct benefit to remind children to go to the toilet like Xiao Cai, which is very direct. Because after frequent reminders, the frequency of children peeing their pants is much reduced.
But behind this benefit, the child needs to pay a certain price. That is, although the child seems to have mastered the skills of using the toilet independently, children are actually "passive use of the toilet" , and they only know when they need to use the toilet after being reminded by others. Children like
are prone to peeing their pants after entering kindergarten. This is not because the child's ability to use the toilet independently has regressed, but because the child has no skills to use the toilet independently and does not know when he really needs to use the toilet.
Therefore, if wants your child to truly learn to go to the toilet independently , parents should not think it is troublesome . They would rather wash more pairs of pants for their children than use the "new urine" method to destroy the child's excretion system.
●Psychologically: Being afraid of toilet training
The reason why the "new urine" method is destroying the child's excretion system is by no means an alarmist statement. For children, this kind of destruction is not only physically but also psychologically.
Some parents are very strong. In order to prevent children from peeing, Even if the children have no desire to pee, they force their children to sit on the toilet.
Children are often very reluctant to be such "forced", and some are even afraid.
When the child is emotionally out of control and is unwilling to sit on the small toilet, if parents still stick to their own opinions and enjoy it, then the child will be afraid of the training of self-use toilet over time, and even unwilling to use the small toilet.
Children's independent toilet training is a gradual process. Parents must not use the "new urine" method to destroy their children's excretion system by trying to save trouble and love to be clean, so that their children's physical and mental health will be hurt.
written at the end
Every child's growth has its own rhythm, and the same is true for children's toilet training. Some children have successfully quit diapers at the age of one year and know how to use small toilets, while some children still can wet their pants until they are a few years old.
Parents should follow the rules of their children's growth. When it comes to the growth of children, parents’ best mentality is to “wait for flowers to bloom”, and the most undesirable mentality is to “rush to quick success and instant benefits.”
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