I think every parent is afraid of this day, but in the end they have to face this day.
On the first day of entering the kindergarten, Xixi hugged her mother's neck tightly, and cried and said, "I don't go to kindergarten, I have to go home ," Seeing the teacher coming over, she cried louder and hugged her mother's hand and pushed harder. After the teacher hugged Xixi, her mother hurriedly ran away.
Under the comfort of the teacher, Xixi calmed down a little. The teacher was organizing outdoor activities to let the children throw sandbags together. Xixi didn't play with it, and kept saying, "I want to go home and find my mother." The teacher was not careful, Xixi rushed to the gate, and was lying at the gate, looking around looking for her mother's figure, and crying at her mother.
refused to eat lunch, and the teacher said, "Eat well, my mother will come to pick you up after get off work later." Xixi still refused to eat. The teacher fed her a little, but she cried while eating. Soon Xixi vomited, and the teacher gave up. She cried for 2 hours during her nap, refused to go into the bedroom, refused to take off her clothes and shoes, and was extremely repulsive to the kindergarten bed.
In the end, the teacher had to carry the child to the classroom, and Xixi was in a better mood. When the children were playing with toys in the afternoon, Xixi looked at them blankly. The teacher talked to her and she started crying.
Xixi's manifestation is a typical anxiety disorder in kindergarten, also known as separation anxiety , which is a common phenomenon among new students in kindergarten . Because the newly admitted children leave their parents and come to a strange environment, uneasy emotions arise naturally, and they are not familiar with the people and things in kindergarten, and they don't have familiar friends around them. This emotion will become more and more intense, showing symptoms such as crying.
What are the manifestations of separation anxiety
1, refuse to enter the park. Every morning, I tried my best to delay the time I went to kindergarten, crying all the way, and saying things like, "Don't go to kindergarten", "Are you going to pick me up? Come and pick me up early".
2, crying. Some children will cry loudly, attracting everyone's attention, some children will cry silently, some children will punch, kick, roll on the ground, spit at the teacher, and they will hold on to their mother's clothes tightly, and sometimes even cry for a few days.
3, comfort material. Some children have just entered the kindergarten and are not familiar with the things around them, so they will take a doll at home to accompany them and hold the doll when they sleep.
4. Refuse to eat. is unwilling to eat, nor accepts the teacher's feed, and keeps crying.
5. Refuse nap. Many children do not have the habit of taking naps at home, so they are somewhat repulsive of the habit of taking naps in kindergarten. There is another possibility, recognize the bed or the person, and only someone should sleep with him at home, but there is no familiar person to sleep with him during the nap in kindergarten, so he will be particularly resistant.
6. Self-care ability is regressed. For example, if you don’t want to go to the bathroom, you say you don’t pee and you will pee your pants the next second. Similar situations will occur at home.
7. It is easy to get sick. Have parents noticed a phenomenon that their children's resistance was pretty good. After entering the kindergarten, they got sick and cold every three days. After raising them for a week, they recovered. They caught a cold again less than 3 days after entering the kindergarten. There are two reasons for this: one is cross-infection, and the other is the stress response of the child to kindergarten.
What aspects should parents deal with the anxiety problems that their children will have?
1. Cultivate self-care ability to enhance self-care ability
Parents should let their children learn some essential skills in advance. Children have strong self-care ability and will not be frustrated in the environment of collective life of kindergartens and are willing to go to kindergarten. For example, learn to wear and take off clothes and shoes, be able to eat independently, and learn to abide by the rules.
2. Familiar with the environment in advance
Nowadays, many communities are equipped with kindergartens, and parents will also choose nearby for convenience. In fact, this situation is a very good choice for children. Parents can let their children familiarize themselves with the environment in kindergarten in advance, tell their children that kindergarten is a place to play, there are many toys and children, which arouse their children's desire to go to kindergarten. Moreover, the kindergarten in the community is close to home, and the children's sense of strangeness will be reduced compared to . There are also many familiar friends in the community, which would be even better if you are in the same class.
3. Understand the child's uneasiness and empathize with in time
When the child says he doesn't want to go to kindergarten, parents should not yell at the child, but understand the child's uneasiness . For example, tell the child that the mother knows that you are sad, and I will come to pick you up early. Once you agree to the child, you must ensure that you can do it and do not let the child stay until the end, as the child will feel forgotten.
4. It is normal for new children to cry and refuse to go to kindergarten because their children cry too fiercely. Parents should not give up letting their children go to school because their children cry too fiercely. This will make children think that they can not go to kindergarten by crying. The time for children to be familiar with kindergarten will be extended infinitely. In addition to special circumstances other than illness, parents must persist. Some children can adapt to kindergarten for only 2 weeks. There is a saying in the early childhood education industry: "5+2=0". What does it mean? It means that the child went to kindergarten for 5 days and started to get familiar with it. Then he was at home for 2 days on weekends. When he came back on Monday, he returned to his original form. So persistence is the most important thing.
5. Adjust your own anxiety
In addition to the anxiety of separation, parents will also have anxiety of separation, especially mothers who take care of their children. When they see their children cry every morning, they are actually very uncomfortable as parents. After entering the kindergarten, will the children worry that their children are still crying? Have you eaten? Have you been calling mom again? Parents should adjust their emotions, communicate with teachers in a timely manner, believe in the teacher's major, believe in kindergarten, and communicate more with their children, such as asking their children what they eat today? What game did you play? Relieve your child’s anxiety and your anxiety.
Every parent will experience the anxiety of separation of children. What parents should do is to insist on letting their children enter the kindergarten and slowly become familiar with everything in kindergarten. Kindergarten is the first step for children to integrate into society. Children will encounter various problems when entering kindergarten. The reason is the lack of sense of security. Before children enter kindergarten, parents and teachers need to learn how to deal with anxiety about entering kindergarten and help children better welcome the first step into society.
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