Author | All the worlds and happy double-winged students
Coordinates | Guangdong Yangjiang
Inadvertently, I have been studying at home for three months. The learning content of home for home is quite abundant. I can’t finish learning in two years with infiltrated learning in .
talk about the learning experience in the past three months. Although it has not been fully recognized by my teammates, I know that this learning path is a very difficult task! Only by working hard can I reach the peak.
Similarly, children accept emotions
Before meeting the happy wings, I am a typical who is acute and seldom ! There is no slow word in my life dictionary. Only by being fast can we complete all the tasks set in my life.
I think time is very important! Every day I have a lot of things to do! I never thought about letting myself calm down for a while! I hope I will keep working hard, working hard, and making money...
It seems that only by working hard can I go further and further, but I don’t know that when I work hard, I ignore the company of my children, and even more so that I have changed my body!
When I drag my tired body home from get off work every day, I see my children with all kinds of rubbing , and various slow , and I will get angry! I urged, accused, and denied all my children's behaviors!
So, My relationship with my child becomes worse and worse ! As soon as I opened my mouth, the child covered his ears with both hands, and I was so angry...
At the beginning of June, at an accidental moment, I met the anxious mother's transfiguration plan! From then on, my fate with the wings of happiness was opened!
Through 14 days of training camp study, I deeply felt my ignorance on the road of parenting for the first time! Because of my ignorance, I not only dug a lot of pitfalls for my children, but also because of the differences in the way of education of my children and my relationship with my teammates has reached a deadlock !
It is time to reflect on my behavior, and I began to learn eagerly! In the training camp, I learned to accept, accept my own imperfections, accept the current situation of my children, accept the emotions of my teammates, etc. .
In early July, I started to learn home learning and first learned the self-confidence course. The self-confidence course includes knowledge points such as Hain's Law, 341 affirmation method, 0-100 acceptance method, and ability to form four-step method .
I applied these theoretical knowledge to my children. My children like to play with their mobile phones. I no longer face the mobile phones like I used to, but I happily accept the fact that my children play with their mobile phones on vacation.
After all, children are still children, and often they cannot seize the time to play with their mobile phones. For example, it is fun for 30 minutes, but sometimes it will take more than an hour. The reason is that the game he played was not finished in one game, so he could not quit halfway.
After I understood this fact, I felt relieved and I should trust my children. If the child often times out, I must gently and firmly ask the child to put down his phone immediately. This is the agreement between us.
Because I respected the child and stopped nagging to the child , so the child was also willing to make a contract with me and execute it.
In terms of learning, I often give my children encouragement and affirm the part that they have done well. You can use 341 affirmation method to affirm the children. This is the biggest gain from learning self-confidence courses!
August is the time for the children to have a holiday. The children are learning Go throughout the holiday. In order to make the finals at the end of August, the children also work very hard.
trains three hours a day and two hours a night. The child has no complaints. I think the child has done a very good job.
However, at the last moment of the breakout on August 28, the child unexpectedly failed.
In the face of the child's crying, I expressed my feelings towards the child's the same as . accepts and lets the child's emotions flow. After the child's emotions are stable, he will analyze the reasons for the failure with the child, so that the child can learn from it, rather than criticize, accuse and suppress it.
Because every failure of is an experience ! As long as the child knows how to review the story, he will learn lessons next time, and experience is accumulated slowly. With the experience of failure this time, I believe my child will do better next time.
All changes stem from the acceptance of
Children start school in early September and are promoted to the fifth grade. This is a new growth ladder for children. Looking back at what happened to my child in the fourth grade, I still feel heartache.
This is the case. From the first grade to the third grade, the child’s head teacher is very good to the child. In the fourth grade, he changed to a young teacher and had limited management experience. Something happened during this period that had a great impact on the child.
Children can have lunch breaks in private schools. Once, during lunch break, the socks fell under the bed, and a classmate picked it up and placed it on the child's nose, and the other students were laughing.
When the child woke up, he thought the classmate did it on purpose, so he threw the other person's quilt into the toilet after getting up.
teacher directly complained to the parents without asking the truth about the incident, and criticized the children indiscriminately.
Since then, the children have not liked teachers and did not like Chinese classes. I recorded my own voice in my diary, saying that the teacher violated the Law on the Protection of Children, Teacher Law, , and Article 1030 of the People's Law, venting my emotions into my diary.
However, the teacher ignored the child's privacy and privately looked through the child's diary. When he saw it, he was angry and complained to the parents, saying that his heart was getting cold and he felt like the sky was about to fall.
From then on, the teacher treated the child differently, and publicly criticized . He only called the child's school number in school, not the name.
Before I learned to learn, the communication between at home and school was not perfect.
When the teacher complained, I was exhausted after get off work. When I saw my child playing with his mobile phone, I felt emotional. I fell down my child's mobile phone, and the preaching mode was also turned on.
Now the child is in the fifth grade. The new teacher likes the child very much. I also study hard and the child’s self-confidence is slowly recovering.
What children experience in the fourth grade will gradually fade away. I hope that the children can grow up healthily in the fifth grade!
At the beginning of the school year, I encouraged my children to recommend themselves to class cadres. The first time the child has the courage to go to the podium to recommend themselves to class cadres. This is a very happy thing, proving that the child’s self-confidence has returned and the child’s learning status has also recovered!
This is due to my own changes, because all changes come from acceptance. Only if you accept the child happily and accept the child’s current state, your mother is the stabilizing needle at home! Mother is stable, and the child will definitely be stable!
About the changes between me and my teammates
At the beginning, my teammates did not support my study. He saw that I watched classes so actively and wrote so seriously every day, and he even thought I was brainwashed!
When I accepted 's child, he thought I was indulging the child; when I saw him digging a hole for the child, I used my action to slowly influence him...
Finally, he put down his standards for the child, no longer labeled the child, and also recognized my studies and gave me great support!
After we formed an educational alliance, our relationship also heated up. As Teacher Huang said, family affection is the first, and the relationship between husband and wife is better than parent-child relationship .
Now, in terms of how to educate children, teammates completely respect for me, and most of the time they discuss with me, and they dare not vent their emotions towards their children in person.
Teammates are worried and anxious, and they also chat with me privately. I accept the emotions of my teammates , and I must be anxious about the motivation behind , and I must be good at .
Teammates' personality traits are college koala, they are more patient, they are more careful in doing things, and pursue perfection. I will also be sure that teammates still have room for improvement in .
For example, when teammates criticize their children, they should let their children feel their love and feel it for the good of the children, rather than venting their emotions. Now, under my influence, the emotions of teammates have become more and more stable!
Thinking about learning for the past three months of learning, I went from being a mother who was nagging, constantly digging holes for her children, constantly denying her children, and a mother who failed in the eyes of her children, and now she is a mother who stops nagging, learns to shut up, stop losing in time, and exudes positive energy from her whole body.
The child gave me 9.5 points in performance. This is my transformation!
If I had not met the happy wings, I don’t know where my parenting path would deviate; if I had not met the happy wings, my husband-wife relationship with my teammates might have become further and further.
Remember Teacher Huang’s 23-word education formula in mind: Family affection first, personality second, knowledge third, proceed in order, and no one can be left behind.
The road is long and arduous, and I will search up and down. Learning is a process of never ending . Only learning can change yourself. Two years of immersive learning is too important to me.
In the following days, I will cherish every day, work hard to practice, apply what I have learned from home and what I have learned from , and strive to cultivate my child into a person with happiness .
His impatient, watching her child procrastinate and procrastinate, and often urged and accused her. Her relationship with her child became worse and worse. She was anxious and began to reflect on her behavior. Now she stops nagging, learns to shut up, stops losses in time, and is full of positive energy!
What do you think after reading today's article? How many points will your child give you?
