Haohao is 3 years old. No matter where he goes, you can always see him holding a toy in his hand . When other children want to exchange or borrow a toy with him, Haohao will hold the toy in his arms.
Mother said that once when I went to the toilet, my mother said that she would put the toys on the table outside first. Haohao agreed. After coming out of the toilet, Haohao cried loudly at the empty table and the toys in the child's hands. It turned out that the child took Haohao's toys to play with. When he heard Haohao crying, the child's mother quickly asked the child to return the toys to Haohao, and then stopped crying. From then on, Haohao would never put down the toys in his hands again when he went out.
In fact, this phenomenon will occur whether it is autistic or ordinary children. always holds a toy in his hand when he goes out. If he forgets to take it out, when he is playing at someone else's house, he will also hold someone else's toy in his hand when he leaves. No matter how parents enlighten or persuade them, the child must hold it. Why do children behave like this?
1. Lack of security. Autistic children will be nervous and afraid when facing strange environments or strangers. At this time, the children will look for familiar things or people to seek a sense of security, while the toys in their hands become comforting for children.
2, Positioning. Autistic children sometimes cannot distinguish the direction, and the toys in their hands provide children with the role of GPS in a certain sense to help children distinguish the direction.
When children have these behaviors, parents' handling methods are particularly important. If they are not careful, they will cause chain reactions and make their emotions out of control.
Our suggestions
1. Respect the behavior of children
When the child is stubborn and insists on holding an item, as a parent, Don’t try to compete for the child’s toys, this will cause the child’s emotional collapse , causing an uncontrollable situation. If the child wants to hold it, let the child take it and don't snatch his belongings.
2. "Sosure" to protect children
Whether autistic children or ordinary children, they will pay special attention to the items in their hands. Parents should also protect their children's private property. Do not take anyone without their consent, or throw away their children's items , so that the child's physical and mental health will be greatly traumatized.
3, Parent-child time
Children keep holding toys in their hands may also cause excessive dependence on , so parents should consciously find ways to minimize this behavior for their children. For example, if your child’s hands are not free to get toys, parents can accompany their children to pinch plasticine , build building blocks, and go to the park to pick up stones and leaves after dinner, and observe the differences between stones and leaves.
4. Mainly choose the child
When the child cannot stay away from the toy in his hand, when parents train their children to get rid of the toy, should put the toy within the child's sight to avoid sudden situations in the child. Moreover, it is best for the child to decide the position of the child himself. This will not only prevent the child from losing control of his emotions, but also temporarily freed from the toy.
When parents want their children to get rid of the toys in their hands, the process is very important, so the most important thing is to remember that should not try to steal the children's things. Slow guidance and companionship can help children reduce their dependence on the toys , or even leave.
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