One day the child is disobedient, that means the child has grown up!
One day the child said that I can be independent, mom and dad, don’t worry! That means you are old!
If your child said: Mom, I finally grew up! You will be discouraged! Because your education has completed the task. Isn't it? The child grows up, you are old! When you see that your child will do something, you will realize in consciously and unconsciously: I am really really old!
The annual rings of time are so ruthless. Similarly, education is ruthless. Some people educate their children as talents, while others educate their children as mediocrities. In education, as long as you are good at summarizing, you will find that education has two categories and four states: hard work and easy! That is: some people work hard to educate their children very well, some people work hard to educate their children very poorly; some easily educate their children very well, and some easily educate their children very poorly! Think about what kind of education do you belong to? What kind?
When a child completes a task independently, you will feel that your education is effective, no matter what the child does, because the child does it independently. You are here again at this time: Are you worried that your child will do well in the future? The proud child will finally be independent! That's the mentality. Don't you know that the child's heart is no longer on you, because without your obstruction, the child will still live a wonderful life.
Looking forward to the growth of children, but do not want them to grow up, your mentality has always been this way.Looking forward to your children growing up is that you have to hurry up and get out of the confusion of education; do not want your children to grow up, but you want to keep your life in the original forever. Can?
One day when the child finally grows up, you will regret: Why couldn’t I educate my child like so-and-so? Why didn’t I do something like so-and-so in the first place? If I had another baby, I would definitely be so and so and so, so regretful! ……Hey! I'm depreesed! Once you have lost something, you want to keep it, it's too late, everything is too late, because your child has grown up. The child doesn’t listen to you, and you regret saying: I didn’t.... The child talked back to you. You regret saying: I didn’t... and the child didn’t do homework. You regret saying: I didn’t... There are countless people I don’t have, and you will die and live with regret. Is there any regret medicine in the world? So for those children who haven’t grown up yet, don’t let time affect your education. What you should do and what you should give has to give, because education grows up in the process of giving and doing, right? ?
When the child grows up, think about it, education is very simple, sometimes you don’t say it is the best, but can you do it? Seeing that something happened to the child, you can't shut your mouth, and the nagging floodgates are leaking again, even if you add bad words, use your hands and feet together, punch and kick, it is the child who suffers, and you are the one who is angry, why bother? Everything has a cause. Since something happened to the child, do you think that something happened to you too? The problematic children are actually problematic parents. If the parents have problems, the children have problems. Too much complaining about the child, complaining about the child, that is the performance of your incompetence.
When the child grows up, many parents are good at comparing their own children with the children of other families: Zhang San is better at learning than you, can talk better than you, has better eyesight than you, and I am down. I have to ask, have you improved compared to the past? No,Not at all, and the child has regressed. Just last night, something like this happened in your home: your husband drank alcohol, and when he walked in, he said to you: my wife, my wife Zhang San is more prettier than you, better at talking, better at doing things than you, better than you... …I dare you to say that if you don’t fight with him or tear it apart, it means that you are not an individual. If you scold her severely and fight with him, you will say this sentence without reservation: You look good at her, Go live with her! Even if you have to doubt her, do you and her have that...Because he has severely hurt your self-esteem, can you tolerate him? Your tantrums couldn't be more normal. Because of his injury, it led to a family war. Is there any woman who hears her husband saying that someone else’s wife is better than her, and she will not be angry, gentle, kind, and considerate: Is she? I want to learn from her. If this is the case, then she has a mental problem. But is it a child? You are better than the past, the child can only think that he is unlucky-hey! It's such a mom and dad! When your child grows up, don’t compare it with other people’s children. The child is yours. Comparing to the past can only harm the child. Other people’s children will not raise you old. You have to understand this-advice you!
When the child grows up, you will find out: Why does my child have so many stinky diseases? You blindly pick faults and find faults, but you can't see the shining points on your child. Let's do an experiment: Please tell me how many advantages the child has in one minute? After you hear it, you will say: What are the advantages of my child! Then I will turn the question again: Please tell me within a minute how many shortcomings the child has? You have come to the sea, and you will talk endlessly, unobtrusively listing many so-called shortcomings of many children. This is the parent. You raised the child yourself. How could you suddenly see so many shortcomings? When you find that your child has shortcomings, especially in the bud, what did you do? We often say that we must eliminate the disaster in the budding period. Where did you go in the budding period when the child had problems? Thousands of mistakes are your fault. Does the child have a problem at birth? The same sentence: only problematic parents can nurture problematic children. Do you have any questions? Have! There must be—I’m not looking down on you,I don't have the right to scold you, besides, is there any good for me to scold you?
When children grow up, when they have grades, you will naturally dismiss them-you should. In your life, have you ever thought of a scene like this that will never be erased: What was your mood when a child learned to call your mother for the first time? You will cry with excitement, and you will madly pick up the phone and tell your family and even friends aloud: My baby will call her mother! My baby will call her mother! Your madness, your intoxication, your joy, your happiness, and your unscrupulousness are all because the child can talk. But think about reality again. When a child learns to do a certain thing, solve a question, and read an article, where is your madness, your intoxication, your joy, your happiness, and your unbridledness? Would you like to show how your child would call your mother for the first time? You can't let go of it!
The child grew up, and one day, the child came back excitedly and said to you: Mom and Dad, I took the test today 90 points! What would you say? Three manifestations appear in your home again. One: 90 points, you still have the face to come back and tell me, the distance from 100 points is not enough, 10 points too! What proud of! Second: 90 points? You can test 90 points unless the sun comes out from the west! Say, whose copy? If you don't tell the truth, I will kill you today! Third: 90 points? Which place do you rank in the class? What is your mentality? Did the child commit a serious crime after taking the 90 score?
the child has grown up,You can finally be different, because he is liberated. Please don't be sad, it's a movie that you directed and acted without ending. I hope that the protagonist in the story can reflect on this article well, and I don’t want the ending of this movie to be sad! What do you say?
