Parents with adolescent children are hard. When people reach middle age, in addition to enduring the pressure of work and life, they also have to face moody, get angry at others at any time, and are "fission" at the intersection of life.
At this time, the parent-child relationship often enters a new stage. Parents who give their children room to grow and maintain their own growth will be more likely to get along with their adolescent children, while parents who are in control and stay in place will be more likely to have serious conflicts with their children.
Some people say that the highest level of communication is to speak well. So when facing adolescent children, how should parents communicate with their children?
1. Don’t play the role of an omniscient and omnipotent parent in front of your children. Behave stupid properly and no longer pay attention to authority. When communicating, cultivate your children’s authority and dignity, otherwise why should your children buy your account? Many children are picky about their parents during rebellious periods. At this time, you should learn to make concessions and put your children in the position they want. Parents first learn to show weakness.
2. Show appreciation and interest in things that children are interested in. Don’t judge children’s appreciation by their likes and dislikes. Even if you don’t like what children like, you should not show disdain. You should know that children are very sensitive to their parents' value judgments. The more parents oppose what they have to do, the more they will do it.
3. No matter whether the child’s request is reasonable or not, don’t refute or attack him immediately, and don’t refuse without listening. Parents should calm down, listen to their children’s ideas more, and discuss plans with their children seriously and weigh the pros and cons. As long as you refuse your child rudely, the child will definitely be reluctant to the end.
4. For adolescent children, they must treat them with respect to adults. Without respect, there is no communication. Communication is not about speaking with their mouths. The most important thing is peace of attitude and support in behavior. Let children still feel that their parents understand and accept themselves when they are irritable and painful, so that they can win the hearts of their children.
In this world, parents are a special profession, and everyone goes to work without training; so sometimes we will be at a loss when facing our children, but don’t give up anyway.
No child is a miracle that emerges from nowhere. The so-called miracle is about the degree of care, guidance and education pattern of parents!
On the road to education, we are all students.
