Brief description of the case: Xiao Li, female, 26 years old, married with a daughter, said that her family relationship was not harmonious, she felt lonely and helpless, unwilling to go home, felt that life was boring, anxious, sensitive to interpersonal relationships, fearful,

Brief description of the case:

Xiao Li, female, 26 years old, married, has a daughter, said that her family relationship is not harmonious, she feels lonely and helpless, unwilling to go home, feels that life is boring, anxious, interpersonal sensitivity, fear, Work is not going well and there is a lot of pressure. I don’t trust psychological counselors, and I hesitate to give it a try. This is my last hope.

consultation process:

case analysis:

Xiao Li lived a carefree life when she was a child. Later, when her younger brother was born, she felt that her younger brother had taken away all her love. She also resented her parents and only loved her younger brother. Xiao Li's childhood was unbalanced. She felt insecure. She felt abandoned by her parents and had no home. She even wanted to run away from home. Because her parents were busy with farm work, they left her younger brother to take care of her. At a young age, she could not control her younger brother and felt very helpless. , and was very worried. She was afraid that her brother would still cry when her parents came back, and her parents would scold her for not taking good care of her brother. Therefore, she developed a personality that is prone to anxiety and worry. In addition, the anger and resentment towards his younger brother and parents have been carried to the present and transferred to the current family relationships, resulting in disharmony in family relationships.

Counseling stage:

The first stage: mainly to establish a counseling relationship, so that Xiao Li can trust the counselor and accept psychological counseling. Mainly citing humanistic therapy and positive psychology, understand Xiao Li's needs, respect the visitors, do a good job of understanding, empathy and positive attention, so that Xiao Li understands that he is accepted and realizes that he can pass Feel happy in psychological counseling. And help her build confidence in psychological counseling, so that she can firmly follow our rhythm to start a journey of exploring herself.

The second stage: A good trusting relationship has been established. Xiao Li also understands that psychological counseling is an experience of "helping others to help themselves", and she is fully able to cooperate with us in exploring her own problems.

During a consultation, I asked Xiao Li to use oh cards, select a few she liked, and then choose the one that best represented her current state, which was a maze diagram. After reflection, Xiao Li realized that she had trapped herself in it. She was trapped in a prison, and it was like she was imprisoned in a prison of her own mind. In fact, her family and friends around her were very good to her. They were nothing special. They just chose to be alone and independent of their family. outside.

Speaking of this, Xiao Li shed tears. I knew that they were releases, and they were tears of awakening... Finally, we used mindfulness meditation technology to let Xiao Li come out of the maze and see the sunshine, grass, mountains and rivers, everything beautiful... …

In another consultation, we used a story about the second child to guide Xiao Li, and he talked endlessly about his childhood grievances and resentments, accompanied by tears, sadness and despair. Through the sand table, I saw that the home in Xiao Li's mind is devoid of love and warmth. She and her brother are like enemies and rarely talk to each other. Through the sand table, we left a picture of a beautiful home in Xiao Li's heart.

The third stage: Xiao Li is already on the road of exploring his own problems. He is getting happier and happier as he goes. He slowly gains the confidence and courage to face all the problems around him and no longer avoids them. In the end, Xiao Li will be guided to take a cultural route and the whole family will be rich in culture and art, so that the family relationship will get better and better.