28 years old - Male
Recently, I realized that I was indifferent to people and things around me, and lived in my own small world. This mentality has had a great impact on my work and life.
It is difficult to establish friendly relationships with leaders and colleagues at work. When talking to others, it seems very stiff, formatted and official, which gives people a bad experience of being close to them. At the same time, the problem will be more serious when working with colleagues, and lacks coordination. The same is true in life. It is impossible to establish a long-term contact with friends. There are no friends who are particularly close to each other and can chat with them every day. They cannot remember what happened with others. They are not close enough with their lovers. They are full of indifference to her, what she has experienced and what she says. They can only be touched when they can have intimate relationships with her, and they are difficult to form a good relationship with relatives except their parents, and they are not interested in what happened to them.
feels that I am increasingly marginalized in this world and my emotions are becoming increasingly indifferent. I want to condemn myself and force myself to get closer to others and get closer to others, but after trying, it will rebound further, and the relationship with others will further retreat. I feel extremely painful and struggling inside. How do I change myself under such circumstances?
teacher reply:
Psychological and emotional mentor_Teacher Mingzhe:
Hello
You are indifferent to people and things around you. It may be related to excessive rationality in your personality, and it may also be a manifestation of self-protection. If it does not significantly affect your life or work, it will not be a big problem, but you should pay attention to whether there is any emotional disorder. For example, if you have depression , it will lead to indifference to the outside world. In addition, you should also pay attention to whether there are some stimulations of life time. This kind of situation is similar to emotional depression. If you think it has been on for a while, it is recommended that you find a professional person Evaluate and give you some suggestions for adjustment methods. You need to learn more and provide further detailed information and suggestions
Psychological and emotional mentor_Teacher Zheng Huipeng:
Hello, do you feel that you have encountered a low point in your life, you can't be passionate in anything you do, and it is difficult to make yourself have any ups and downs. Life is like a pool of stagnant water. Although you know this state is not good and decadent, you don't know how to change it. You understand your current situation very well! I don’t know if your depression is frequent or has happened recently. This may be related to childhood experiences. I was ignored or could not feel love when I was a child. First of all, you must know that you are not lonely. Many people will also have this situation. The core is whether you are willing to try to change and act!
suggestion:
1. First of all, be willing to tell your own problems and see your own situation, which is also the beginning of change. This is great! Find a continuous participation in interests and hobbies, and you will gradually receive some positive feedback. When people receive positive feedback, their energy will continue to increase, and their spirit will also adjust. They also participate in more reading clubs or outdoor sports to get to know some positive energy friends. This will be very helpful. Get out of your comfort zone.
2. Contentment and gratitude: Check out what you get and what you have every day (list your own list, which is actually much richer than many people)
3. Do more things you can control, such as cleaning your home well and making it very neat... Start with the small things around you, and whether you have joy in your heart. Joy comes from the rise of your inner self.
