"The wood is revealed in the forest and the wind will destroy it", Jealousy is sometimes terrible and also an unhealthy psychological state.
When you meet someone who performs better than you, lives better than you, and is better than yourself, you can't help but become jealous. This phenomenon is more likely to occur in the closer relationship. So how can we avoid falling into jealousy and being jealous? How should we deal with it?
first, stay humble and hide your sense of superiority. Since ancient times, humility has been a virtue, protecting oneself and comforting others. When we get along with others, we should maintain a humble attitude and hide our sense of superiority. We should know that "there are mountains outside the mountain, there are people outside the sky, and there are heavens outside the sky", "there are even more powerful hands in the strong", and keep your sharpness. When unnecessary, do not show your own sharpness, be humble and polite to others, learn to respect others, appreciate others, and become a beauty of adulthood.
Second, discover the advantages and strengths of others, sincerely appreciate them. Usually, when people are envied, people will give praise or say some sour words. At this time, we can find the advantages, highlights, strengths of others and combine them with the actual situation, truly, truly, sincerely praise and appreciate the other person, let the other person turn their attention to themselves, and also discover their own highlights and advantages, without staring at your highlights, ignoring your own strengths, and being psychologically unbalanced, and jealous. Or by "belittling" your own shining points, you can reduce the other person's admiration for you and break the other person's imbalanced psychological state. You can also sincerely encourage the other party and let the other party know that through appropriate methods and unremitting efforts, he can also do it, thereby enhancing his self-confidence.
Third, telling the hard work behind you and the bitterness you have experienced. Many people only see the brilliant achievements of others and are glamorous, but they never think about the efforts, the hardships and hardships they have endured, and always see the appearance, but they cannot see the efforts behind others and the hardships they have endured. Then they think: Why can she live so well, but I can't, but I don't. The heart will be unbalanced, and therefore jealousy will arise. When the other party understands the ups and downs you have experienced, you will not be so jealous. Instead, you will feel that this is the honor you deserve after you make your efforts. You may also admire you, admire you, and hope that he can learn from you like you, take you as an example, and work tirelessly.
Every person who has achieved something, who is considered successful in your opinion, will inevitably make hard work behind it. People are prone to jealousy, this is the so-called human nature! People will only see your superficial scenery and achievements, but never think about the hardships you have suffered and the bitterness you have experienced behind you. It is like people only see the pearls crystal clear, flawless and dazzling, but they never imagined that they have experienced many winds, rains, big waves, and endured many tortures and physical separations. No one can succeed easily and achieve outstanding results. Behind every outstanding success is a painful struggle history.
Many people have this mentality. The closer people are to you, the more likely they are to become jealous. Getting with such people will lower your energy. Therefore, we are still Stay away from jealous people and get close to positive and positive people, because we have to move forward, rather than being pulled down by them, which becomes a resistance to progress.
So, I won't be jealous of others. On the contrary, you will follow the excellent people, learn from them, absorb their highlights and advantages, constantly enrich yourself, improve yourself, make yourself better, become your own light, and be able to illuminate others one day.
For those who are better than you and those who are superior to you, you should respect rather than be jealous.Jealousy is of no use, and it should turn jealousy into the power of self-improvement.
You must understand that a person’s biggest enemy is himself. You have to compare with yourself and with your past. There are no two identical leaves in the world. Everyone has their own unique characteristics, their own fields, their potential, and their own world. Therefore, people cannot compare themselves with each other. This is inequality, not based on the same level or the same foundation. You can learn from them, appreciate them, learn, but you cannot compare them. Don’t compare your own shortcomings with others’ strengths, as that will only make you more disappointed and less confident, and the conclusions you draw are also wrong. Comparing with yourself, defeating yourself and surpassing yourself is the greatest success and greatest transcendence. Compared with your past, become a better self, constantly surpass yourself, be the best self, and become the best self!
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