01--Anxiety and Insomnia
There are always some things in life that make us feel helpless, confused, confused, despair, sadness, pain, etc. When we can digest it, we will be calm and relaxed, and when we cannot digest it, we are easily trapped in a state of internal mental distraction.
There was a time when my father had a few calls every day, and I often ran back and forth to my workplace, home, hospitals, and traffic police. During that period, my whole body was in a low state, I couldn't cheer up, my energy was low, and I felt extremely anxious. I often thought and insomnia all night because things were not resolved.
But I also know that my anxiety and insomnia are based on inner sensitivity and lack of understanding of things themselves. Most of them are not caused by the external environment, but are restrictions I set for myself.
Anxiety is because things are beyond my cognitive comfort zone and safety zone, beyond my control, insomnia is because of feeling helpless and powerless, and even more because of fear of unknown things happening.
Too much accustomed to being in the comfort zone and safety zone of one's own cognition will make oneself ignorant and vulnerable, which can easily become an excuse for one's own escape from reality and become more likely to become self-enclosed and stubborn.
Endless anxiety and insomnia will collapse if I continue. I also began to realize that I needed to make changes, so I tried to find some things to relieve anxiety and some ways to help me sleep.
02--But inner awareness and action
Meditation--Keep inner awareness
Try to participate in the meditation course, follow the teacher to practice meditation, let yourself empty and return to zero, including cognition of yourself, maintain your inner awareness of yourself, break away from your role and perspective, and stand in the role and perspective of a third party, and be aware of your thoughts and behaviors.
I will find that some things are not as serious as I imagined, but the anxiety and fear caused by ignorance.
The inner comfort state is not the comfort obtained by escaping the fragments and worries of life, but still maintaining self-awareness and cognition in the fragments and worries of life.
Practice meditation to meditate on your own awareness, to make yourself withdraw from specific things, and to look at yourself and the things themselves from a different perspective, to maintain a correct understanding of yourself and your correct understanding of things.
Emotional vent--Looking for emotional vent-
When you feel pain and helpless when something happens, you need to have an emotional vent. At this time, you need to put away our sensitive hearts and put down your arrogant attitude and worthless face.
can confide in your trusted friends. Maybe friends may not help you during your confide, but it doesn’t matter. What you need is someone who can listen to you.
You can find some professional people to consult, so that you can have a more professional understanding and judgment of things. Don’t feel anxious because of your lack of cognition, reduce your fear of what has not happened, and avoid putting pressure on yourself.
You can try to do some exercise. Exercise is a way that can make people decompress. During the exercise, your mind is more focused on the present and reduce your random thoughts.
Stop internal consumption--Action immediately
The most direct way to stop internal consumption is to act immediately. There are too many ideas and too perfect plans, which are difficult to implement and implement.
I wanted to write some online articles before, but because of my poor writing style, I bought a lot of books to improve my writing. I read the books for five or six years, but I still felt that my writing style was not good, but I really wanted to learn piano. I heard that piano was too difficult to learn, and I really wanted to learn sketching, but I was afraid that I would not learn it well...
This year, I also consciously tried to make some changes. One night, I started writing an article and publishing a public account. After thinking about it for five or six years, I suddenly felt that it was a very simple thing.I started to buy only electronic piano , and learned the piano by myself. After learning a few songs, I found that it didn’t seem that difficult to learn piano. I started to buy sketch tools and learned by myself, and found that sketching was not that difficult to learn.
The things that you consider and consider too many things and look back on the front will hinder our path forward. Some things are actually not as difficult as we imagined. Don’t plan too perfectly, because some things are not that complicated and do not require a perfect plan.
Facing your true self--get friendly and harmonious with yourself
No matter it is the past, present, or future, the fragments of life will always exist. Too much pursuit of ideal state and escape reality, staying in the comfort and safety zone of one's own cognition is the self-enclosure. This is not a friendly way to get along with yourself, nor is it a solution to the problem.
Getting along with yourself is to accept your ordinaryness and be able to bravely pursue extraordinaryness.
Get along with yourself is to accept your shortcomings and be brave enough to change them.
Get along with yourself in a friendly manner, you need to see the real problems and be able to solve them bravely.
Get along with yourself in a friendly manner, you need to see your emotions and maintain self-awareness.
Getting along with yourself is a compromise with yourself and an uncompromising yourself. Keep a deep conversation with yourself, keep getting along with yourself, and avoid your spiritual internal friction.
