After 25 years old, when you start to consider real problems more, you suddenly realize that many people around you have reached the "peak of life", and you seem to be still standing there. So, inferiority, self-loathing, depression, anxiety, and fear of the future... the inner demon takes the opportunity to attack you.
What should I do if I know that anxiety can’t bring you any benefits, but I can’t control my emotions?
What you need more at this time is a good story that warms people's hearts and rejuvenates. Everyone can find a story that suits you, and the following story is suitable for me...
" Friends " season 1 interprets the dilemma of life, female independence and "magic beans" (many pictures warning).
In order to fight for freedom, Rachel, a rich daughter, left her wealthy father and fiancé, found a job as a waitress in Manhattan , and started her first independent life. All the luxurious life she used to was gone, and despite her hard work to overcome difficulties, life never stopped attacking her.
For example, in episode 04 of Season 1, Rachel endured a payday with great difficulty, but found that she only received a meager salary. At this time, she felt a breakdown and complained:
"The hard work every day, wiping the table, hot milk... all this is really not worth it!". She made money for a month and spent two minutes of life making her look like a deflated ball. After all, she lived a life of food and clothing without worries, and she didn't have to do anything every day. She just needed to dress up beautifully and buy by brushing her father and fiancé's credit card.
As for now, she is just a waitress in a coffee shop. She is called around all day long, but she can't afford a hard-earned money she earns.
What’s worse is that when working in a coffee shop, you will encounter the former “plastic sisters” from time to time to finish the fight. Rachel's three former rich and beautiful girls came to the cafe to watch her work:
"Wow! Your mother said that you are working here is real! Look at how you look in an apron, it's like acting."
The rich and beautiful girls are all bright and beautiful, and are at the peak of their own "life". Their rich and happy lives make them show off.
Then, the three of them asked:
"When will you go home? Are you really planning to be a waitress for your whole life? Just like that?"
Rachel hopes to prove himself. But the only thing she could do was a pale defense:
"I am not just a waitress here...I am also responsible for writing down the daily special meal on the special price tag, changing the dead flowers, and, uh, tidying the table..." After returning home, Rachel of course fell into extreme depression.
Roommates Monica and Phoebe tried to comfort her. They comforted:
"You should be proud of yourself! You are studying an amazing independent life."
Rachel said in a crying voice:
"But, I gave up almost everything! My life was arranged in the past, from One comfort nest to another... And now, I don’t even have a plan! "
At this moment, Phoebe suddenly interrupted:
"I understand, you are no different from Jack."
"What? ? "
So Phoebe made a classic interpretation of life difficulties and beliefs. She said:
"You know the story of "Jack and the Magic Beans". Jack also gave up something, but he exchanged for a magic bean. The next day, he found that a huge bean stem grew outside the window where the beans were sprinkled, leading to the sky, full of all unknowns and possibilities. You are like Jack."
Monica quickly added:
"We are all the same, often not knowing where to go.Maybe we don’t know what we want now, but at a certain point in our life, everything will be on the right track and everything will be suddenly enlightened. "
Rachel, who was in doubt, thought for a while, and felt that she had not been completely convinced. She raised questions:
" What if, just say, what if we got the Magic Beans but only got the ordinary beans? What if we can't get on track? "
The other two girls were silent. Their belief in getting out of the predicament of life is also shaking.
They cannot guarantee Rachel that Jack and the Fairy Tale will be fulfilled. If the dream does not come true, can they still hold on to the courage to persevere?
The most tormenting thing is this. Things are not as they imagined. As long as they work hard, they will move towards light?
However, all frustration will have a magical turning point. The power of "Demon Bean" is a powerful psychological hint, and it will accumulate strength quietly in places where everyone cannot see it. Rachel thought that he did not believe in the fairy tale of "Demon Bean", but in fact, there is no In her figure, she believed that things really got better.
In order to force herself to be independent, Rachel cut off the credit card given by her father and decided to live on her own. Her credit card company saw that she had not used a credit card for several months and felt that this situation was abnormal, so she called her to ask if she was safe and whether she was in danger.
Rachel finally realized the value of independence at this time. She had been with herself for several months and lived a good life! She looked at her friends around her with a sense of accomplishment and smiled with curved eyes.
Then, she proudly told the credit card company:
"Thank you, I'm fine, really. Because, I have magic beans. "
She finally realized that she believed in the fairy tale of "magic beans" and could have a good ending. Independence and hard work are the best things in the world. Jack's "magic beans" have magic power because of his courage and unwillingness. The good friends around her are also real treasures, constantly bringing warmth and strength to her.
Every adult has an inner child in his heart. They all need fairy tales like real children.
After all, the confusing real life often confuses us, and fairy tales clarify the chaos state, help us understand ourselves in the world, and teach us how to deal with the world in a way.
Just like the educator and philosopher G.K. Chesterton said:
"My initial and final philosophical thoughts, the consistent philosophy I firmly believe in, is what I learned in kindergarten. What I believe most are those things called fairy tales. "
Fairy Tales can help us solve real difficulties.
Everyone who suffers from anxiety needs a good story that warms people's hearts. It can give us confidence and is the spiritual fuel for our brave and uncompromising.
I hope you can find your own fairy tale as soon as possible and build your firm and gentle spiritual core, starting from now on.
