Each of us yearns for a happy life, but as we walk, we suddenly lose the ability to be happy.
Some people look very sunny, but in fact they are often unhappy inside.
Some people are depressed, have decreased interest, pessimism, slow thinking, lack initiative, self-criticism, poor diet, poor sleep, and worry that they have various diseases...
According to statistics from the World Health Organization , the global incidence of depression is about 11%, and there are about 340 million depression patients around the world.
Although some people do not develop diseases, these conditions will truly affect our quality of life. Robert Daibod's book "Mr. Toad Goes to See a Psychologist" can allow ordinary readers to understand profound psychological theories and understand what psychological counseling is.
Listen to the book title is like a children's book, but it is actually a very in-depth book of spiritual healing for adults. The author borrowed the characters from the well-known British fairy tale " Liulin Fengshen " to simulate the entire process of interaction between the patient and the consultant.
The toad in this story is a passionate, fashionable and adventurous guy who has caused a lot of trouble and jokes. He seemed to be the kind of person who was inseparable from depression, but he was such a toad, now deeply in depression and unable to extricate himself.
What exactly do people with depression look like? We can see the standard symptoms of depression in the toad: he often has insomnia and is too lazy to dress up. He stays on his sofa all day long, making himself sloppy and even emits a stinky smell. No matter how beautiful the scenery around him is, it has lost its former color in his eyes...
Under the pressure and begging of his friends, the toad came to the consultant Heron, waiting for the Heron to start a long admonition. But what happened next was completely beyond the imagination of the toad. One of the major features of this book is that it puts the basic knowledge and theories of psychology into the story of Toad. Through this book, many readers have come into contact with the most important and basic terms of psychology, and master these theories and gain the power to further action without any difficulties.
Toad shapes the strongest emotions experienced in childhood, and inevitably becomes the feeling that often has in adulthood.
Because everyone's life is different, when you know its causes and rules, you will find that everyone's scripts are actually the same, but the way of acting is different. In this way, you can explore the missing parts in a targeted manner and find the root of your problem.
Of course, you can follow the scripts set in life, so that you can blame the environment, parents or others all the way, but you can also throw away the script, break the causal cycle that continues from the past, get rid of the constraints of past experiences, and become a true self in freedom.
Consultant Heron told Toad: The essence of growth is to reduce and ultimately break the dependence on every past experience, so that he can become an independent person. "Don't blame it, but take responsibility - how about this?"
Finally, Toad completed his ten consultations, and his score on "emotional temperature agent" was a very benign 9 points - the reason why this self-evaluation was not a full score of 10 is because Toad has better expectations for the future, and he wants to leave better things for the future.
Isn’t every ordinary person who comes to this world just to experience more and eventually become himself? Human growth will always be a battle. Each of us wants happiness, and it is the kind of happiness that arises from the heart rather than relying on external forces. It is endless and guides forward at the trough of life, so that we no longer fear or be sad.
At the end of this book, the party ended, and the toad said goodbye to his friends - what a peaceful and confident day it was. The toad was riding a bicycle and galloping on the country road in the warm night wind, singing loudly along the way. He sang like this:
Heroes emerge in the world, and all historical books have their origins.
If you talk about the great name that attracts all the time, you have to count me toad!
This is a toad that defeated sadness, or in other words, a hero in ordinary life, an ordinary person who has worked hard to find happiness.
Below are 9 words from the Heron to the Toad in the book. They are warm and thorough, and will bring confidence and courage to unhappy people:
1. If I don’t believe that everyone has the ability to get better, I will not do this job.
2. I will devote my whole heart to you, and I hope you will devote yourself to consultation. But at the end of the day, it all depends on you.
3. To fully understand yourself, you can only connect with your emotions. Emotions are not optional, but the core of the self.
4. You asked a good question. Just like all good questions, the answers will cause you to feel painfully self-aware. Are you ready to understand?
5. From the moment you become the self you want to be, you must go through a change in behavior and attitude, it requires hard work, courage and determination.
6. You should be responsible for your own behavior, including your own emotions. You have the power to change your situation, and more importantly, you have the power to change yourself.
7. The person who can help you is yourself, and only you are yourself.
8. There are many questions you need to ask yourself. For example, can you stop criticizing yourself? Can you be kind to yourself? Perhaps the most important question is, can you start loving yourself?
9. This door to learning leads to a difficult road and may also lead to profound understanding. That's why we are working together and moving forward on the same road.
