Developmental psychologist Eyejie once proposed that in childhood, children had two worlds, one was the world where mothers and children interacted, and the other was the world of companions. They believe that peers play an equally important or even more important role in the dev

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Developmental psychologist Eyejie once proposed that in childhood, children had two worlds, one was the world where mothers and children interacted, and the other was the world of companions. They believe that peers play an equally important or even more important role in the development of children as mothers.

Peer relationship can make children feel safe. More importantly, by observing the interaction between peers, children can learn the skills of communicating with others and how to play games. Peer relationships are so important, how should we cultivate relationships between children and peers? Look down!

Family training diary

Xiaoyu especially likes to play with others. Last time I went to a park for a picnic, there were a few children playing next to me. Xiaoyu ran up, and my sister enthusiastically gave Xiaoyu a merry to play. Xiaoyu took the merry to laugh, and the merry to laugh. The sister said, "If you don't play with you, go away." The father said that the children in the

case were willing to integrate into the group, which is a particularly good phenomenon, but because the children lack experience, they don't know how to get along with their peers, and they don't know how to play games, and are rejected by their peers, which will make the children very frustrated. If parents cannot solve this problem in time, they will cause the children to be unwilling to contact their peers again, affecting their children's social interactions.

Autistic children have certain obstacles in peer interactions. Many autistic children are unwilling to play with others. Even if some children like to play with others, they will be rejected by their peers because of developmental disorders and lack of understanding of the rules. The role of peers is very important for autistic children. Children can learn many skills and correct behavior through observation and imitation.

Our suggestions

1. Mastering game skills

Not playing games according to the rules is the main factor that autistic children are rejected by their peers, so helping children master the rules of the game is the most important thing at present. one-to-one round trial teaching is a good method . For example, when playing on the slide, tell your child to queue up first, wait for others to slide down, and others walk away, and then you slide down.

2. Choose activities that are interactive and children like

For example, children like to play with sand, Parents can prepare several models that children like , such as small animals, and let children use sand and models to create various things. When children begin to lose interest, make changes in time and try new ways to play.

3. Encourage and praise your companions for their cooperation

Prepare some snacks for your companions in advance as rewards, so that their companions prefer to play with their children. In this process, parents should "disappear" and not let your existence become their obstacle. When your friends complain to you, let them find your children to solve the problem. Don’t stop children when they follow their elder brothers and sisters, but make sure that children are in your sight and the surrounding environment is safe.

4. Choose a companion older than the child

Older children will have a sense of protection for younger children, and older children will consider their needs and feelings . For example, when running, older children will deliberately wait for him, teach him more patiently during the game, and will also provide more care for children with weak safety knowledge. For example, when approaching the water or on the road, older children will take the initiative to bring their children to safe areas.

5, cooperate to complete tasks or works

After the relationship between children and their peers is stable, we can prepare a game or work for them that they need to complete together.

Game: Two-legged , eagle catches a chick, and carries a sedan chair (two people hold each other's arms crossed, one person sits on it)

Works: Pin a 20-piece puzzle (select the number of puzzle pieces according to age), and use plasticine to make an amusement park, with seesaws and slides.