When a person is depressed, he really doesn’t want to do anything. Sometimes he is lazy to do even basic food, drink, defecation and urination? If you don’t want to do anything, your work will not be able to be carried out. Day after day, year after year, you can only squat at home. How to solve this problem?
1. When you are depressed, you will feel that you can’t do anything. You will sometimes feel that you don’t want to do anything and you don’t have any energy to do anything. If you were a workaholic or very energetic person before, if you were letting you experience such a situation, I think you will go crazy. Being in this state will make your psychological condition worse.
I used to be unemployed and I experienced many times when I didn’t want to do anything. Although it does not happen often, it occasionally happens once or twice a month. At that time, I really didn't have the energy to play with my phone. I felt that I was even unnecessary to eat. Sometimes I would lie on the bed, but I would toss and turn when I lay on the bed and couldn't fall asleep. Sometimes I would numb myself by playing games. At least at that time there was a game that I was very interested in. I played it when I didn’t want to do anything, and I spent a difficult time relying on this game.
2, three psychological types that are easy to cause you to do nothing
2.1, Psychological style: scare yourself.
If you imagine your work tasks as a behemoth and spend a lot of time and energy to do it, then the probability of you being scared by your work is very high. In fact, any major event can be divided into small things step by step. We can break them into pieces and defeat them one by one. And patients with depression are easily frightened by big tasks.
I used to see a book called "Zizhi Tongjian ". Since I read a lot of history books before reading this book, I was very interested in history readings, and then I tried to read Zizhi Tongjian. Unexpectedly, I read it intermittently and finished it in less than a year.
Others saw such a thick book in Zizhi Tongjian, and it was written in classical Chinese. They would definitely be scared by themselves and dare not try it.
But I was very interested in history at that time and was motivated to read one by one. After persisting for several months, I finally finished reading it. So from this point on, I truly believed that nothing is difficult in the world, just afraid of those who are determined. Don't be intimidated by big tasks.
2.2: Fear of failure
There are two situations for fear of failure.
The first type is that if you fail once, you will feel that you will fail in doing anything else. This is a typical over-generalization.
The second type is only concerned with the results and ignore the efforts of the process. The doctor gave his own example: He treated every patient according to the method he mastered, but some people reported that it was effective, and some people were ineffective. Do they object to all the results of the doctor for these ineffective people? He did save some people, but he couldn't save everyone who came to him. He can only control his input, and the patient's results need to be experienced by the patient themselves.
Don’t be too conscientious about everything. For example, when you send leaflets, it is impossible for everyone to pick up your flyer. If you are pursuing everyone to pick up your flyer, then you won’t feel better. As long as you can send the flyer within the specified time, one of the three people may not answer. You must make such plans to be happy.
Just like a hospital cannot cure every patient. If the hospital's goal is to cure every patient to treat, I guess the hospital will definitely not be able to achieve its goal and cannot continue to do it.
I once took the civil service exam and entered two interviews. The first time was a fresh graduate. At that time, I passed the exam and was recruited in the third and 9. Naturally, I lost my confidence and went to the interview with the idea of seeing the world. In the end, I made a fool of myself. I couldn’t answer one of the three questions, which became a joke. After 5 years this year, I took the exam again and entered the interview again. This time I didn’t even have the courage to go to the interview.This is my typical fear of failure. Due to these two negative experiences, I have no confidence in the public examination, so I turned to studying self-media writing, hoping to make a name for myself.
2.3, afraid of success
Sometimes you think you are a loser, you are afraid of doing something yourself, making others think you are very capable, and then let you do other things, exposing your loser's nature. So you try your best to restrain yourself, avoid doing anything, and avoid getting involved.
Sometimes "fear of success" may be a benefit. Everyone knows that there is a kind of "old ox" in the workplace. Because they don't know how to refuse, everyone does all the rough and dirty work for him, and even has to work overtime every day, while others get off work early. This person is thankless, either tired and sick, or he can't stand this treatment and resigns. Especially within the system, such people often appear. If you don’t want to be a leader, you can just lie down.
Actually, I am working in the village now. Sometimes I try to do half of the tasks of the village committee. I am afraid that I will do too well. I will do similar jobs in the future, so try not to be too active. Being active will sometimes lead to bad consequences.
3, don't want to do anything: solution.
3.1, what is the daily activity schedule
Recommended to people who are depressed and those who don’t want to do anything, make a daily activity schedule.
The first step is to design a daily schedule first, record what you want to do in the day in the table, and do not plan for more than 5 minutes.
Step 2, you can review it in the evening and see how many tasks you have completed. Or tasks that are not planned can also be written in the review table, such as dazed, playing games, etc.
also needs to be scored for various activities. M represents difficulty, P represents happiness, 1 to 5 points represent degree, M5 is the most difficult, and M1 is the simplest. P1 is the most unhappiest, P5 is the happiest.
Why is this activity table useful? Because he lets you get out of the state of not wanting to do anything, and finally act. When you act, your depression will gradually improve.
I am not too depressed now, I am just occasionally depressed. I already have a fixed task in the morning, which is to read the secretary’s notes and then go to work on weekdays. I feel that this method of the author can also be used for people without depression. This schedule can help you complete tasks and make you more efficient.
3.2, Daily activity schedule, " Holiday Depression Syndrome "
If you were unhappy on the weekend and didn't know how to pass the time, you may have been depressed on the weekend, and you will spend a lot of time staring at the wall in a daze, and don't know what to do. It is recommended that you use the daily schedule to plan your time. Maybe you think that you did this and that the weekend is not alone. Actually, it’s not. When you have plans, people will follow the plans, so that they won’t be prone to random thoughts. If you don’t plan, it’s easy to random thoughts, which will lead to depression.
I also have holiday depression. I often feel that I am in a good mood when I go to work and I rarely have inferiority and depression. However, I am prone to problems on Saturdays and Sundays, especially from the afternoon to the evening. I usually spend my study time in the morning and complete most of my studies in the morning. In the afternoon, I start to do nothing and cannot control myself. Sometimes I think that the world is boring.
The author said that the daily activity list table can solve this problem, I want to try it.
4, written at the end
If a person isolates himself for years and cuts off all activities and interpersonal communication, he will definitely be depressed. So I hope that when we are depressed, we can go to work, and if we can't go out for more walks at work, you will recover faster.
