Adults can cry, but they cannot have bad emotions. Children do not even have the right to cry.
people will inevitably encounter various contradictions and problems in their lives.
, such as many stress, interpersonal allergies, failed test promotions, family conflicts, marriage frustration, financial difficulties, loss of relatives, etc.;
, will produce bad emotions, such as anxiety, depression, tension, fear, anger, jealousy, and other bad emotions.
Everyone should have experienced the trouble of bad moods to more or less.
These bad moods may sometimes come from bad news from the outside world, and sometimes from inner worries and anxiety. They all have one thing in common:
is always pervasive, stubbornly penetrates our minds, destroying our state, leaving us unintentional to work, and falling into an emotional low point.
is like casting a shadow on our hearts, making everything seem to lose its color in an instant.
Sometimes it may be able to adjust and recover by itself in a few hours. Sometimes this bad mood may last for several days, bringing haze for several consecutive days.
You feel emotions every day, but do you know what emotions are?
The core of emotions is a subjective experience.
When a person develops a certain attitude towards something or someone, there will be an experience.
For example, some people or things will make us happy and happy;
Some people and things will arouse our anger;
Some people and things will arouse our very sad experiences, and these are subjective experiences.
Emotion also includes many parts such as physiological arousal, external manifestations, cognitive evaluation, and behavioral tendencies.
What impact will long-term negative emotional experience have on people?
has a long-term bad mood.
If self-regulation cannot be carried out in time, "depressed" and "depressed" will hinder the individual's normal psychological function;
such as the ability to pay attention, memory, think, and make choices, and at the same time lead to a decline in social functions, such as weakening of school, work, housework, and social skills;
If further deteriorates, severe depression will not be effectively intervened, which can easily lead to suicide tragedy.
People are born with some abilities, such as feeling joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness.
This ability does not require people to teach or practice, so it will naturally be available, and this ability will accompany us throughout our lives.
. In some special circumstances, our ability to feel joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness will also be disordered.
For example, there was a patient who suffered a head injury due to a car accident.
After that, sometimes they will "cry" inexplicably, and sometimes they will "silly smile".
When asked why he "cry" or "laugh", he said he didn't know either.
did not feel sad or happy, but just had a "cry" or "smiling" expression, but didn't feel anything in my heart.
What is depression:
"I'm so depressed", "Don't pay attention to me, I'm annoyed", "Why didn't do this well, I'm very depressed~" Now words like depression have become everyone's catchphrase. If you are unhappy when you encounter something, you don't want to speak, and you say you're depressed, and you're almost depression .
Depressive emotions are more like a set of emotions, including sadness, distress, and depression. This is something that anyone will encounter. We can collectively call this set of emotions "unhappy".
When people encounter mental stress, life setbacks, painful situations, birth, old age, sickness and death, natural disasters and man-made disasters, they are prone to develop different degrees of depression, which is a very common emotional component.
Almost everyone may feel depressed at some point, which is often due to some unsatisfactory things in life.
study shows that about 60% to 70% of adults experience different degrees of depression throughout their lives.
Depression is based on certain objective things. Things have causes and have certain time limits. Usually short-term. People can fully utilize their own psychological defense function through self-adjustment, which can restore psychological stability, or naturally relieve it when life events are resolved, which will not have a significant negative impact on normal life and work.
Behind the epidemic of depression are economic, social, and business factors, and phenomenological factors of our current understanding of depression. We look at depression with a more scientific, cautious and rigorous attitude.
From the perspective of psychological counseling and treatment, each depression has different causes.
Pretentiousness is fighting for, depression is giving up,
Depression and pretentiousness In my opinion:
Pretentiousness is fighting for, depression is giving up;
Pretentiousness is releasing outward, depression is attacking inward;
Depression and pretentiousness are separated by two sides of the glass.
Depression is a real disease: It is just like hypertension , stomach disease , and skin diseases are all diseases.
What it shows is the continuous depression of emotions, lack of motivation, no longer feeling happy, inferiority, fear and other symptoms of what you like in the past.
When I meet depressed people, the first impression I give me is that they have depressed faces, but never allow themselves to be sad.
For example, for them, when they encounter something very depressed, their first reaction is to grit their teeth and hold on and not allow themselves to cry.
From a psychological point of view, crying is sad, and what cannot cry is often depression.
Depression is a lack of pleasure. In fact, depression is not just a lack of pleasure, but also a lack of expression of other emotions.
They are depressed inside, but this emotion cannot be regulated and cannot be expressed.
Many depressed people are like this.
Their reaction is like many people often fail to cry when they are facing huge pain. Because they may be deeply stinged by the huge grief in front of them, far beyond their reaction threshold. The special reaction method of
is normal to manifest in a specific situation, but if it becomes the daily life of a depressed person, it is abnormal.
Depression is a disease that consumes your life, erases everything else, and conceals happiness, reason, motivation, ability to sleep or eat, and even the will to live.
The emergence of depression:
comes from environmental stimulus factors, such as conflicts in interpersonal relationships, love breakups, failure in exams, deaths of relatives, etc., which are just the triggers of depression, not the real cause of depression.
Facing the same psychological traumatic event, some people can become positive and healthy again after a brief sorrow, while others are in depression for a long time, which proves that external factors are only non-essential factors caused by depression.
The real internal factors, or essential factors, that cause depression, are a person's personality characteristics.
From a deep psychological perspective, in the personality structure of of patients with depression, there is a severe punishment. This punishment will monitor his or her words and deeds at all times. Once even a little mistake or mistake occurs, the punishment will impose sanctions and condemnation in an extremely severe way.
The self-blame, self-deprecation, self-worth, and reduced vitality in patients with depression all come from such self-aggressions.
For patients with depression, the mental burden as light as a feather will bring unbearable psychological pressure. Social activities can be stressed, such as gatherings with unfamiliar people, excessive attention from others, such as family concerns about marital status, sudden changes in life can be stressed, such as leaving pets from childhood to adulthood.
These pressures are really right for ordinary people. Depressed patients do not have the strength to fight against these even extremely mild negative emotions, which will push him more and more to the deepest part of the mental dilemma.
Don’t force them to do anything. A stable environment is very important for people with depression.
Many people attribute depression to personality or psychological problems, thinking that only introverts will suffer from depression.
In fact, depression is not a simple psychological problem, cheerful people can also suffer from depression.
It is related to the functional disorders of neurotransmitters such as norepinephrine and dopamine , which causes the brain to always transmit some unpleasant information. adverse events are just a trigger.
You see that you usually smile very happily, how could it be depression?
Smiling Depression:
The last scene in the big talk of the West: "Look at that person, he smiles like a dog."
This may be a portrayal of a smiling depressed patient.
looks sunny and pleasing.
But behind the stiff smile, they faced their suppressed selves tiredly, and were in a hurry to fight against the increasingly intense depression.
is full of sadness like a thorn in the throat, but it is impossible to say. I can only cry helplessly at night, and then continue to smile every day.
"Depression" and "smile" seem to be something that cannot be solved. It is difficult to associate "depression" with "smile" in habit.
"Smiling Depression" is manifested as the patient's external manifestations are as if nothing had happened and had a "smiling" face despite feeling extremely painful, depression, sorrow and sadness deep in his heart.
This "smile" is not a true feeling from the bottom of the heart, but comes from "the need for work", "the need for face", "the need for etiquette", "the need for dignity and responsibility", and "the need for personal future". The essence of the
problem is: How long can they last? Can
be used to pretend for the rest of your life? The answer is obviously no. Their disguise is temporary, overly rationally reintroducing negative emotions in the heart to avoid venting emotions. When suppressed to a certain level, the relationship will rebound, which not only causes mental tension and anxiety, consumes a lot of psychological energy, leads to psychological imbalance, and causes mental collapse.
For smiling depression, the smile on the outside is fake, but the depression on the inside is real.
Looking at the essence through the phenomenon, we must see that the mind of patients with smiling depression is uneasy.
The inner dissonance will inevitably be reflected in the face. Although it has not been shown for the time being, the illusion cannot cover up the truth after all.
Facing our emotions:
There are no bad emotions, only emotions that are disrespected.
There are no terrible emotions, only emotions that lack understanding.
Emotions are real, allowing existence, allowing emotions to be expressed without "emotional" expression, to know it, where comes from, where to take us, and then you will find that there is no real bad emotion, only the view of "bad" emotions...
Try not to deny it and reject it, otherwise it will be like the express you do not accept, and will keep notifying you, making you even more upset
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