We often say "Learn from one mistake to another". In fact, this is true for those who are mentally healthy. People learn from one example and understand it with one example. For those who are mentally unhealthy, not only will they not be able to gain wisdom, but they may also have to retreat wisdom, such as "I am afraid of a rope when I am bitten by a snake for ten years."
I think for people like me, they are a little aware of their consciousness but always have bad changes. Taking advantage of one's mistakes means not having wisdom. As the saying goes, "Where to fall, get up from where to fall", my experience is "Where to fall, you will continue to fall from where to fall."
Give an example of playing cards.
card game is something that many people like to have fun. The so-called "not sucking eggs before meals means not eating." If you observe a little, you will know that those with high card game levels are high, and if my card game levels are bad, they can't improve. Everyone knows the rules of playing cards at
. This is like theoretical knowledge. Everyone knows it clearly. It can be done by knowing it. However, the level of playing cards is very different from people.
I often laugh at myself for not remembering cards. This is not humility or not hard work. It is because I have tried to remember cards but can't remember them. I have made up my mind to remember a few big cards many times, but after a game of cards, I either forgot the awareness of remembering cards, or I was clear at the beginning and then disturbed by playing cards.
Once I laughed at myself that I couldn't even remember the big king, but I was so funny that I rolled my eyes and said, "Do you still need to remember the big king?" Look, this is difficult, it won't be difficult.
I know the rules of playing cards, I also know how many big cards I need, and I also know that the problem lies in not paying attention to what cards the opponent and the other party want, and don’t want them, so that they can deal with it properly, but I just know where to fall from, and then continue to fall from where to fall!
A few days ago, I played cards. A friend who is good at speaking and observing his expressions was as good as mine. He was as good as me. After every game, he was beaten up by the opponent. He could not show up or not. Fortunately, he was thick-skinned and could still catch it.
This really surprised me. Card gamers are also psychological experts. They observe their words and expressions and plot against themselves. There are still some mismatches.
Compare yourself and your friends around you to see if it is difficult for people who play cards to improve to the level of masters, and whether they fall from where they continue to fall from where they fall?
If playing cards is entertainment and you don’t work hard to improve, then look at emotional management, carefully learn psychological theory, and have experience of emotional out-of-control reflection. Once again, I encountered a similar emotional environment to stimulate emotions. Is it not going to be repeated in the same situation, right?
What will happen? I don’t think everyone knows that a person who is not well-managed in emotions often knows that he cannot do it. He is activated by the stimulus and who will encounter it.
Why? Because he is such a person, because he is already used to such a way of expressing behavior, even if rationally knows that it is necessary to change, it is difficult to change when things come to an end.
This is reality, this is also a paradox. People with mental health do not need to listen to the truth. People with mental health need to listen to the truth but listen to it is ineffective. Similar to a group of audiences who need to exercise, they encourage players to constantly defeat their opponents.
Maybe you have to ask, since you have fallen repeatedly in the same place, will you just accept your fate and lie down? Of course not. If you can keep a little bit of awareness while falling again and again, don’t rush to change. The heart is really touched. In time, there may be a miracle that will happen one day. What if it happens? Who knows? This is what hard work means!
