The famous "Murphy's Law" tells us: If you worry about something happening, then no matter how small the chance of it happening, it will always happen.
can be seen that the destructive power of negative mentality is huge.
Everyone yearns for a better life, but those who can truly live a wonderful and interesting life are those who always respond to life with a sunny attitude.
One day, US President Roosevelt's home was stolen. After hearing about it, one of his friends immediately wrote a letter to comfort him.
Roosevelt replied to a friend and said, "Thank you for sending me a letter to comfort me. I am very calm now, thank God. Because:
First: The thief only stole my things, but did not hurt me; Second: The thief stole part of my things, not all of me:
Third: The most fortunate thing is that he is the thief, not me."
This is how Mr. Roosevelt always maintained a positive, open-minded and sunny mentality, which made him achieve an extraordinary life.
Face the world with a healthy, positive, enterprising and caring attitude. If you give the world a smile, the world will give you the most beautiful smile.
So how to shape a sunny mentality? There are six ways to share with you.
1. Change attitude
If we can't change the things themselves, change the perspective of our thinking.
A person suffers more severely from what is happening than his opinion of things.
In ancient times, two scholars A and B went to take the exam, and saw a coffin on the way.
A thought to himself: "It's so unlucky. I ran into a coffin. This exam is over."
B thought to himself: "Coffin, get promoted and get rich. It seems that my luck has come. I will definitely pass this time."
When they answered the questions, the two of them had different mentalities and different levels of seriousness. In the end, B passed the exam.
Both of them said to their wives when they came back, "That coffin is so powerful!"
The same thing, different people have different mentalities, and different mentalities have made different lives.
Mentality can affect people's abilities, and abilities can affect people's destiny. Therefore, maintaining a good attitude at any time is the key to success.
2. Enjoy the process
Life is a process, not a result, because everyone's results are the same.
What we need to do is to focus on positive things with a wonderful life and a good mood, and spend every day fulfillingly.
There are two people A and B who go to see the scenery. They walk slowly and appreciate it slowly at the beginning. Both of them are in a very happy mood.
Later, A played a clever trick and walked faster than B, in order to take a look at the scenery earlier than B. When
B looked at it, she thought to herself: How can you let you take a look earlier than me? So he walked faster than A.
The two of them walked faster and faster, and finally ran, turning into a race. They didn't see the scenery of the last journey at all. They both regretted it when they reached the finish line.
Life is actually a journey, a period of mud and bumpy, a period of colorful flowers, a period of smooth wind, a period of wind, frost, snow and rain.
Enjoy every minute and every second of life, which is a happy thing in itself. The process is also the result, and the result is also part of the process.
3. Living in the present
Writer Paul Coelho said: Life is always, and it is only the moment we are experiencing now.
In life, the most important thing is what you do now, the most important person is the person you are with you now, and the most important time is now, which is called living in the present.
Someone asked the Zen master: "What does it mean to live in the present?"
Zen master replied: "Eating is eating, sleeping is sleeping, this is called living in the present.”
The man retorted disapprovingly: “The same is true for ordinary people every day. What’s so special about this? "
Zen master smiled and shook his head and said, "It's different. Practitioners eat when they eat, and sleep when they sleep. Most people don't eat well when they should eat, and they think about everything in their hearts. They don't sleep well when they should sleep, and they always have all kinds of troubles. "
If you just regret the past, you will be depressed; if you just worry about the future, you will be upset.
If you live in the present, you must learn to discover every good thing that happens to you. If you don't live in the present, you will lose the present.
4. Spiritual independence
Don’t base your source of happiness on other people’s behavior. Being angry is punishing yourself with other people’s mistakes.
Whether it is feelings or career, just have a clear conscience on yourself. All we can grasp is ourselves.
Su Dongpo and Zen master visit the temple and found that Guanyin Bodhisattva also held a rosary in his hand.
Su Dongpo asked: “Who do people hold a bead to recite Guanyin, but who do Guanyin hold a bead to recite? "The Zen master replied, "I also recite Guanyin. ”
Su Dongpo asked again: “Why does Guanyin have to recite himself? "The Zen master's answer is: It is better to seek others than to seek others.
Therefore, if you want to keep your heart in a good state, you must learn to be emotionally independent and not let your heart become someone else's racetrack.
5. Learn to be grateful
British philosopher Locke once said: "Gratitude is a spiritual treasure. "
Live with a grateful mood, and life will give you brilliant sunshine. Gratitude is the bond connecting people's hearts and the spiritual bridge connecting the world.
Thank you parents, they give us life and work hard to pull us up; thank you teachers, teach us knowledge and teach us to be a human being;
Thank you friends, who have helped us in times of difficulty, and bring us so much joy; thank you lovers, who give us love and warmth, and accompany us through life.
Thank you for being on the bustling platform, helping I picked up the heavy luggage strangers; I am grateful to my former leaders and colleagues, who gave me care and comfort when I was not happy....
Thank you for making us feel happy, happy and harmonious.
also thanks you for your readers who sincerely appreciate me, and wish you good health for your life.
6. The environment is created by the heart
so-called "a thought of heaven, a thought of hell." "The heart can create "heaven" or "hell".
There is a person who said, "I am in a bad mood. My colleagues in the office are my opponents, and I have many good buddies, but they are in Xinjiang, and they cannot quench their near thirst. "
He was wrong, because the people who can help you at critical moments are still the people around you. If you regard everyone around you as devils, you will live in hell.
If you can regard everyone else as "angels", you will live in "heaven".
How to turn others into angels? That is, you know how to be grateful, appreciate, give and tolerant.
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adapts to the environment if you cannot change the environment;
cannot change others if you can change yourself;
cannot change things if you can change your attitude towards things.
wish you all to live a sunny life with a sunny mindset and move towards a sunny future!
