Autistic children are considered stars in the sky. They fall from the starry sky, but are addicted to their own world and cannot sense the existence of light sources.
In the popular Korean drama "The Strange Lawyer Yu Yingyu" some time ago, the heroine who likes whales can be said to bring the deep-sea whale-like coolness to many people in the hot summer. She suffers from autism. Before entering the door, she will raise her hands and count from five to one before entering the door. She will walk like Penguin and don’t know how to pass the revolving door. She is afraid of noise on the subway, so she must wear headphones, and everything must be placed neatly like obsessive-compulsive disorder . She is not used to looking at people, is unwilling to get close to people, and will not rely on others. In her world, the only thing she is interested in is the little whale.
When watching this drama, I saw many barrages saying, "So this is autism." Yes, in daily life, we often have prejudice and misunderstandings about autism, believing that autistic people cannot speak or understand, behave weirdly, always like to do something repeatedly, and even have a tendency to violence.
In fact, these behaviors of autistic patients are caused by congenital neurodevelopmental disorders. They are not unable to speak or cannot understand words, but are often addicted to their own world, so they are called "children of the stars".
According to one data, about 1 in every 68 children in my country suffer from autism. With the increase of autism patients, since 2008, its United Nations has designated April 2 as " World Autism Day " to increase people's attention to autism and related research and diagnosis, as well as autism patients. But even so, everyone knows very little about autistic patients, let alone get along with them.
In the book "Rolla Diary: Entering the World of Lilu", the author uses the first perspective of a child to describe the details of communication between himself (Rolla) and Lilu who is autistic, allowing readers to intuitively feel that the world in the eyes of autistic patients is different from ours, and thus breaks the prejudice against autistic patients and truly enters the psychological world of the autistic population.
1. Walking as you move, your heart is going, and your heart is going to be something
In the park, the eight-year-old girl Luola met the autistic child Lilu. She was very happy that someone finally played with her, but Lola found that Lilu ignored her at all. She was motionless like a power-off machine. She couldn't help but pat her on the shoulder, and Lilu screamed loudly.
Later, adults learned that Lilu was autistic, but in Rolla's eyes, everything about Lilu was cute, but it was difficult for others to see, so she followed her heart and "does not care about it".
Rola wanted to get close to Lilu. When she felt that Lilu likes sand very much, the two of them started playing the "plop" game and prepared gifts for Lilu. Before leaving, she taught Lilu to wave goodbye to herself, but she didn't expect that she would really teach Lilu.
In this way, Rola approached Lilu little by little, taught her to call her own name, taught her to blow bubbles, and even used games to soothe Lilu who was frightened by the sound of the fire truck. Every time she completed one, Rola felt that she had achieved full results.
Finally, Rola really walked into Lilu's heart and got Lilu's words "Love you, Lila".
2. It is said that you are the child of the stars, and the child of the stars needs to love more
. In the whole story, the author consciously interspersed with the words and deeds of autistic patients. For example, when Rola and Lilu met for the first time, Lilu was motionless. After finally playing together, the next meeting seemed to be unrecognizable. When there was noise around him, he would cover his ears in fear. The details portrayed in the book can be delicate, giving people a feeling of an onlooker, but in fact these details are not fiction, they are all true portrayals of the behavior of children with autism.
But even though Lilu has so many strange behaviors, Rola still tried little by little to slowly understand Lilu's world. Under Rola's patient guidance, Lilu mastered many skills and learned to respond to Rola's kindness.Invisibly, the author also conveys a concept: autistic children have the ability to love, they also need love, and they can also break through themselves with constant practice and encouragement.
When I finished reading this story, I once remembered Deshan in " Please answer 1988". She is like a little angel like Luola. When she learned that her deskmate had epilepsy, she did not look at her with a strange look. Instead, she helped her at a critical moment and asked her classmates to close the classroom door so that more people could see her as a patient, and protect her self-esteem. When the deskmate was ashamed of being seen by many people because he was sick, Desun borrowed the deskmate's meal spoon as if nothing had happened and used this behavior to tell the deskmate: You are not an alien. When the mother of the deskmate learned about this, she hugged Deshan on the way from school and thanked Deshan for everything she did. The same is true for Lilu's mother. When she saw her daughter waved to Rola and said goodbye, she also said thank you to Rola.
Neither Deshan nor Luola understands why this thank you are, because in their eyes, all this comes from their kind heart.
3. The child will not grow into the way you want, he will grow into the way you
So what exactly makes Luola and Deshan have an angel-like heart? In this book, I found the answer.
When Rola and Lilu met for the first time, maybe Rola's mother didn't know that Lilu was an autistic child, but in the communication between the two mothers or Lilu's words and deeds, Rola's mother must know the specialness of Lilu, but Rola's mother never let Rola stay away from Lilu, and when Rola suggested that she wanted to buy a doll for Lilu, she also agreed happily.
When Rora wants to use the making cards to help Lilu communicate, her mother will also help her. The teachers at the school also recognized Rola's behavior very much. They didn't care that she did not do her homework, but listened to her plans and encouraged her with a smile.
When Rolla told Dad that Lilu was sad because the sand was gone, Dad gave him a big bowl of hot cocoa and said that everything would be fine, and gave Rolla a big hug.
Through various details, it can be seen that Luola's family and teachers are very gentle and kind people. They influence Luola with their words and deeds, making him an empathetic child.
German philosopher IELTS Bells once said that the essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, and one cloud drives another cloud. One soul awakens another soul. Education is not preaching, nor is it control, but parents use their own words and deeds to awaken a young seed.
At the end, Rora comforts the sad Lilu, which is based on empathy: I can feel your sadness, I understand that you need comfort at this time.
In addition, a lot of writing is spent in the book to describe the scene of Rola seeing fallen leaves. Her brother thinks winter is coming, but Rola thinks these strange fruits are like charming helicopters, which are particularly beautiful. When I first watched it, I was wondering why Rola’s spiritual world was so warm, happy and positive. Now I think this is also related to her family education .
Some people say that there are two types of parents in the world. One is to be a role model for children to dream of throughout their lives, and the other is to let children understand that they should not live like their parents. Rolla's parents are the former, so what kind of parents do you think you will become?
4. With kindness, you will definitely meet the angels on the way. When you read this book, you can feel that the author has been weakening the concept of "autism". By the way, if it is not mentioned in the book, many people think like Rora, Lilu is just a child with a weird behavior. I think this is what the author wants to convey. We should not look at these "star children" with tinted glasses, nor do we use condescending mercy, but treat special "he" with a normal attitude. When you get close, you will find that they are not that different. Perhaps your unintentional heartwarming actions will become a light in the lonely world of these children.
In addition, when I was reading a book, I once thought that the illustrations of this book were too realistic. When it comes to "smile like two bananas that can't stand up", I really had to draw two bananas there; when it comes to "mixed potatoes", I really painted a potato, which is completely different from the illustrations of other books.
, etc., will only realize that when you see the part of the appendix, you will know that this painting is actually to conform to the cognition of children with autism, because in their world, words only have their original meaning, no extended meaning. For example, when you say "the heart is confused", it will not think that you are irritable, but will really think that there is a mess in your heart.
Based on these characteristics of autistic children, illustrator Eloise Salter has also designed many communication cards to help them understand metaphor and word games, which is quite heartwarming. Parents can play this communication card game with their children and experience Lilu's world.
Last:
In my opinion, this book "Rolla Diary: Entering the World of Lilu" only uses autistic children to make everyone pay attention to the special group of people that are usually ignored, whether it is autistic patients, Parkinson's syndrome, ALS . When we encounter them, please understand him more and tolerate him, so that they will bravely step out of their lonely world and move closer to society.
In addition, I suggest that parents and children read this set of books. Although this set of books is not a book aimed at "cultivating children's empathy", as long as you and children understand the details in the book carefully, you will definitely understand others better and know how to communicate with others and communicate with others.
