9 good habits to stop mental internal friction
There is a question on Zhihu: "What is the root cause of a person's tiredness?"
replied with a praiseworthy answer: "It's not a problem of ability, it's not a problem of appearance, but a failure to handle the relationship with oneself well."
Indeed, many times, the reason why people feel pain is not the matter itself, but the conflict in our hearts.
is too sensitive to something, and any slightest movement will cause emotional turmoil. Over time, not only did I become less confident about myself, but I even felt bored in life. Sometimes, even if you don’t do anything at the end of the day, you will feel so tired.
In fact, these all represent a serious internal consumption personality. The process of internal friction is like using a spoon to slowly empty yourself. If you want to get rid of internal friction and return to vitality and enthusiasm in life, you must give it a try.
Stop living in the eyes of others
Schopenhauer said: "Human nature has one of the most special weaknesses, which is to care about how others view themselves."
In life, many people are unhappy because they care too much about the reactions of people around them. A colleague's unintentional look will make him feel lost for a long time; a friend's unintentional word will be silently entangled for a long time. If you care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations, the consequence is often that you feel wronged by being sensitive and pleasing.
You must understand that life is a process of pleasing yourself. Those 99% of the things that happen to you have nothing to do with others. What you really need to care about is not the eyes of the people around you, but the feelings of your own heart.
Learn to let go of your attention and expectations for others and leave your time and love to yourself. Only when you learn to shift the focus of life to yourself can you live the most shining life.
Stop Regret
There is a psychiatrist who has been practicing for many years and enjoys a high reputation in the psychiatry community. He said that he had many patients who spent all his time remembering the past and regretting what he had done or did not do. "If I had prepared better that time...", "If I hadn't made such a mistake at the beginning..." Repeated regrets eventually made me fall into endless mental exhaustion.
People will inevitably have regrets when they live their whole lives. Temporary reflection can drive us progress, while long-term regret will only make us difficult. You must believe that there is no way to go in life. What you lost yesterday will be compensated in another way tomorrow. Instead of indulging in an unchangeable past, it is better to let go calmly. After all, we have no way to change our past regrets, but we can decide whether we can leave regrets in the future.
Stop demanding perfection
Beside us, perfectionists often have two types of people. One is to have high standards and strict requirements for oneself and do everything to the extreme; the other is to have many requirements for others and be strict with others, and not allow people around to make any mistakes.
No matter which one it is, they are destined to live a very tired life. Because in this world, everything cannot be as you wish.
The Tao Te Ching says: "If a great success is lacking, its use is not detrimental." A perfect thing seems to be lacking, but its effect will not fade.
Instead of exhausting yourself on the road to demanding perfection, it is better to relax and leave a little gap in life. Keeping that regret may not be perfect, but it becomes more complete.
Stop thinking too much
Blogger has talked about his own experience. After graduating from college, he joined a company and the leader found an old employee to help him get familiar with the company's business. However, every time that colleague talked to him, his voice was very loud. Sometimes it sounds like a quarrel. Because of this, he was depressed for a long time, thinking that he had done something bad enough and offended the other party.
Later he discovered that the colleague often couldn't hear others' words clearly. So when speaking, the volume will inevitably increase.
Many things are like this. It’s nothing, but because I think too much, everything becomes complicated.
As the saying goes, “Those who are mindful will feel tired, but those who are not mindful will have nothing to do.
9 good habits to stop mental internal friction
There is a question on Zhihu: "What is the root cause of a person's tiredness?"
replied with a praiseworthy answer: "It's not a problem of ability, it's not a problem of appearance, but a failure to handle the relationship with oneself well."
Indeed, many times, the reason why people feel pain is not the matter itself, but the conflict in our hearts.
is too sensitive to something, and any slightest movement will cause emotional turmoil. Over time, not only did I become less confident about myself, but I even felt bored in life. Sometimes, even if you don’t do anything at the end of the day, you will feel so tired.
In fact, these all represent a serious internal consumption personality. The process of internal friction is like using a spoon to slowly empty yourself. If you want to get rid of internal friction and return to vitality and enthusiasm in life, you must give it a try.
Stop living in the eyes of others
Schopenhauer said: "Human nature has one of the most special weaknesses, which is to care about how others view themselves."
In life, many people are unhappy because they care too much about the reactions of people around them. A colleague's unintentional look will make him feel lost for a long time; a friend's unintentional word will be silently entangled for a long time. If you care too much about other people's opinions and evaluations, the consequence is often that you feel wronged by being sensitive and pleasing.
You must understand that life is a process of pleasing yourself. Those 99% of the things that happen to you have nothing to do with others. What you really need to care about is not the eyes of the people around you, but the feelings of your own heart.
Learn to let go of your attention and expectations for others and leave your time and love to yourself. Only when you learn to shift the focus of life to yourself can you live the most shining life.
Stop Regret
There is a psychiatrist who has been practicing for many years and enjoys a high reputation in the psychiatry community. He said that he had many patients who spent all his time remembering the past and regretting what he had done or did not do. "If I had prepared better that time...", "If I hadn't made such a mistake at the beginning..." Repeated regrets eventually made me fall into endless mental exhaustion.
People will inevitably have regrets when they live their whole lives. Temporary reflection can drive us progress, while long-term regret will only make us difficult. You must believe that there is no way to go in life. What you lost yesterday will be compensated in another way tomorrow. Instead of indulging in an unchangeable past, it is better to let go calmly. After all, we have no way to change our past regrets, but we can decide whether we can leave regrets in the future.
Stop demanding perfection
Beside us, perfectionists often have two types of people. One is to have high standards and strict requirements for oneself and do everything to the extreme; the other is to have many requirements for others and be strict with others, and not allow people around to make any mistakes.
No matter which one it is, they are destined to live a very tired life. Because in this world, everything cannot be as you wish.
The Tao Te Ching says: "If a great success is lacking, its use is not detrimental." A perfect thing seems to be lacking, but its effect will not fade.
Instead of exhausting yourself on the road to demanding perfection, it is better to relax and leave a little gap in life. Keeping that regret may not be perfect, but it becomes more complete.
Stop thinking too much
Blogger has talked about his own experience. After graduating from college, he joined a company and the leader found an old employee to help him get familiar with the company's business. However, every time that colleague talked to him, his voice was very loud. Sometimes it sounds like a quarrel. Because of this, he was depressed for a long time, thinking that he had done something bad enough and offended the other party.
Later he discovered that the colleague often couldn't hear others' words clearly. So when speaking, the volume will inevitably increase.
Many things are like this. It’s nothing, but because I think too much, everything becomes complicated.
As the saying goes, “Those who are mindful will feel tired, but those who are not mindful will have nothing to do."The happiness of life sometimes lies in letting go. Don't think too much, and don't make trouble for yourself.
When you look at the world with a simple heart, you can enjoy the peaceful happiness of the years in the complex world.
Stop falling into negative
There is a saying: "Things cannot crush people, but the attitude towards things is OK. " Optimistic people can always walk through the years easily with calm and hopeful steps. But negative people are always stuck in the shadow of failure and confusion.
For example, if you are rejected for confession, you will feel that you are destined to be lonely in this life; for example, if you fail the exam once, you will feel that your future will be dark. Negative small problems cause negative emotions, and negative emotions further amplify the problem. The last little thing becomes a disaster.
A truly excellent person is not that he cannot encounter difficulties. Instead, when difficulties come, he will not put himself in decadent and pessimistic emotions.
Because they understand that blindly indulging in negative emotions cannot change the status quo. Instead of making things worse and worse in a depressed mood, it is better to face the ups and downs with a more positive attitude.
keep a smile, take everything lightly, and good luck will meet you unexpectedly.
stop setting limits
Sometimes people suffer because we do not have such strength, but psychologically default to a high level of "unsurpassable".
Because they are not professional, they give up their original dreams; because they are still a newcomer, they dare not fight for the opportunities they want.
Over time, whenever they encounter some difficulties, they will choose to retreat; whenever they encounter some opportunities, they will be ruthlessly missed.
Dong Qing There is a saying that goes: "The meaning of life lies in pioneering rather than sticking to it. No matter when we are, we should not lose the courage to move forward. For those who have pursuits, every stage of life is fresh, energetic, and has infinite possibilities. ”
only has 30,000 days in a lifetime, only 24 hours a day. If you blindly set limits for yourself, you will be destined to be a prison. You might as well be brave and break through the cage that imprisons yourself, and break those "impossibility".
When you break through the limitations of rules and regulations, you can see a bigger world and enjoy a different life.
Stop hesitating repeatedly
Is this the same thing? I wanted to lose weight, but when I thought about the tiring exercise, I was a little confused; I wanted to travel, but when I thought about the homework and preparations I had to do before departure, I was a little shaken; I wanted to start a business, but when I thought about the difficulties I might face, I was a little hesitant. I hesitated until the end, I often found that I had done nothing.
Writer 号 once said: “There are always many things that are difficult to deal with in life. If you are struggling between doing and not doing it, then don’t deduce it repeatedly, do it immediately. ” The so-called thinking twice before acting. If you only stay at "thinking twice", all beautiful visions will become regrets.
give up the thoughts that sway in your mind and throw away the unstable plans in your heart. While you are young, while you still have dreams, boldly chase and toss freely.
There are many things that you don’t try decisively, and you will never know what the result will be. Whether it’s success or failure, as long as you take the first step bravely, you will surely get unexpected surprises.
Stop self-attack
“I’m so bad because I can’t speak and my emotional intelligence is too low;
, and I still have nothing to do now; ” “I don’t deserve to be loved because I’m not outstanding enough. ” One of the major reasons for internal friction is that you cannot accept yourself and then attack yourself.
When you are not satisfied with yourself and picky about yourself, you are destined to be difficult to get happiness. The most difficult and most important course in life in the world is to reconcile with yourself. Maybe you are not good at speaking, but you have excellent action and can replace all sweet words; maybe you are average, but you have always worked diligently to allow your family to have food and clothing; maybe you are ordinary, but you have good character, which is enough to be loved and respected by everyone.
So, from today on, don’t belittle yourself.Learn to believe in yourself, appreciate yourself, and see the shining points in yourself. Only when you embrace yourself can the world open its arms to accept you.
Stop delaying
Obama When he was elected president, someone asked him: "Where do you think your advantage is?" He answered four words: Always ahead of time. Why do
in advance? It is because the habit of not wanting to procrastinate has become a stumbling block on my way forward. Procrastination is the accumulation of snowflakes to avalanches, and procrastination will only cause us to fall into anxiety and tension. Defeating procrastination is also very simple, you only need to remember two words: action.
Today's business, today's end, never drag the problem until tomorrow before dealing with it. When you develop your own motivation, the problems that make you uneasy and irritable will be resolved one by one.
Only by taking action can those beautiful visions not become verbal imaginations. The change you desire needs to change from now on. Only by not procrastinating, not waiting, or escaping will the life you want come to you.
Yang Jiang said: "Although people are small and life is short, people can learn, cultivate themselves, and improve themselves. The value of people lies in people themselves." At any time, we are the creators of our own spiritual internal friction and the only terminator. Saying goodbye to internal friction is a battle between oneself and oneself. When you overcome inner obstacles, you will see different scenery and experience different life. From now on, change yourself, get rid of the shackles, and spend every day of your life with relaxed and joyful steps.
Stop delaying
Obama When he was elected president, someone asked him: "Where do you think your advantage is?" He answered four words: Always ahead of time. Why do
in advance? It is because the habit of not wanting to procrastinate has become a stumbling block on my way forward. Procrastination is the accumulation of snowflakes to avalanches, and procrastination will only cause us to fall into anxiety and tension. Defeating procrastination is also very simple, you only need to remember two words: action.
Today's business, today's end, never drag the problem until tomorrow before dealing with it. When you develop your own motivation, the problems that make you uneasy and irritable will be resolved one by one.
Only by taking action can those beautiful visions not become verbal imaginations. The change you desire needs to change from now on. Only by not procrastinating, not waiting, or escaping will the life you want come to you.
Yang Jiang said: "Although people are small and life is short, people can learn, cultivate themselves, and improve themselves. The value of people lies in people themselves." At any time, we are the creators of our own spiritual internal friction and the only terminator. Saying goodbye to internal friction is a battle between oneself and oneself. When you overcome inner obstacles, you will see different scenery and experience different life. From now on, change yourself, get rid of the shackles, and spend every day of your life with relaxed and joyful steps.
