This is a conversation that happened in the psychological counseling room:
Client: "My leader is married. Even though I know it is impossible, I can't live without him."
Consultant: "You may get a sense of strength from him, right?"
Client: "Yes, I feel that I am no longer empty and braver around him."
Consultant: "I feel that I am no longer empty and I will be braver."
Consultant : "This is very similar to what you have been looking for after your father left?"
client: "That's right, no one has given me this kind of strength after my father left." What the consultant revealed to the client was exactly the "idealized empathy" in autologous psychology . The consultant used empathy to tell the client what she had always wanted to express in her heart.
has classic psychoanalysis , why do you still propose autologous psychology?
because of "empathy".
The founder of autologous psychology Kohut , once came into contact with a clinical case. Whenever he uses classical psychoanalytic theories (such as the Oedipus complex) to explain to the client, the other party will be disgusted and resisted.
Kohut felt the treatment was in a deadlock.
Later He decided to put aside all theories and listen to what the client really wanted to express , clarify the pain the client said, and say what he had always wanted to express. Finally, the client's attitude changed and the treatment work became smooth.
He began to think that he should not be in a hurry to label the client with theory. If the understanding at the beginning is not right, then change the way of understanding, instead of putting some labels such as Oedipus conflict first.
is different from Carl Rogers 's "empathic reaction". The empathy in autologous psychology refers to the counselor's understanding of the client's subjective world. Based on this understanding, he says what the client wants to say but never says, which makes the client feel "resonant". The resonance of
can ultimately make the visitor feel understood and resonated. And this is the "empathy" from the perspective of 's autologous psychology.
What is autologous?
autologous, in fact, there is no perfect Chinese word that can provide a perfect explanation, but it can be understood as a combination of a person's physiological and psychological characteristics.
Teacher Xu Jun once said that we can describe the word "self" vividly. When we stand on a 1-meter-high table, we may feel more at ease, but when we stand on a table next to a 10-meter-high platform, we will feel that our self is about to collapse and our fear will rise. The example of can help us understand the meaning of self very well.
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Everyone has the need to develop their own self, so that they can have a stable personality in their lives. Kohut proposed that in order to achieve the goal of self-stability, people have three needs since babies, including exaggerating themselves, idealized themselves, and twin themselves. Next, I will explain it to you one by one:
01 The need to exaggerate the self-organization
It refers to the child’s sense of competence and control in the process of establishing a stable self. For example, some children suddenly start to like to tear paper, and by expressing themselves and asking their parents and others to give affirmation. This is the embodiment of “exaggerate self”.
Children need parents to respond to their children's exaggeration. Children who receive full responses will have ideals, ambitions, and believe that they can achieve it.
02 The need for idealized autologous
Idealized autologous refers to the child who is with a strong person. When the child sees that this person is powerful, he suddenly feels that he has power.
This powerful person usually starts with his parents. The strong image of his parents can bring children a sense of security and self-confidence, and will make children feel that they can be protected and not be hurt.
03 The need for twin autologous
Twin autologous needs refer to children doing the same thing as the person they like, or finding resonance in similar people. This need manifests later in life than the previous two poles, but it is also an indispensable link in stable autologous development.
The key to autologous psychology treatment
treatment lies in transference assessment , finding the client's autologous object experience frustrated.
is next related to the tripolar autologous mentioned above. When the consultant talks to the client, he determines which autologous need the client is missing through the client's empathy.
On this basis, the consultant helps the client find the self that fails to develop, reshape this experience, so that the client can redevelop this extreme self and ultimately form a healthy personality.
In addition, in the course of autologous psychology, teacher Xu Jun will also explain in detail the complete theory and application of autologous psychology to you, such as:
. The manifestation of failure of autologous development and the sign of successful development . As consultants, how we identify the client's various forms of transference . How to help the client reshape the self-object experience and ultimately form a healthy autologous
From theory to application, you will learn about autologous psychology. This psychoanalysis of with humanistic colors is a practical methodology for to significantly reduce the client's fall off and make it easier for the client to make changes.
If you want to systematically learn autologous psychology, you must not be able to avoid one person: One of the representatives of domestic autologous psychology - Mr. Xu Jun.
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is different from the common classic autologous psychology courses. Among these 55 courses, as one of the representatives of domestic autologous psychology, Teacher Xu Jun will combine more modern autologous psychology and focus on cutting-edge interpersonal psychoanalysis related research to ensure that the content is classic and keep pace with the times!
Through this course, you can:
System master the theoretical framework of classic autologous psychology
Grasp the learning, working methods and practical skills of introductory autologous psychology
Keep up with the latest international progress and understand the most cutting-edge theories and technologies in clinical work of autologous psychology
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Why do you want to apply for this course
You can see this, I believe you have a rough understanding of the course content, but you must also have a question:
There are so many professional books online and so many free courses, why do I spend more than 1,000 yuan to register for an online course?
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