Echo column
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Questions for this issue
Depressed and took a five-month leave of absence from school. I have already forgotten my words because of my physical symptoms and I cannot learn it. I am very confused about the future. What should I do?
Every year, 0.5%-1% of middle school students choose to take a break due to various psychological problems, and the proportion of depression among these psychological problems is the largest.
Every student who is off-study and their family are quite difficult to make the choice of off-study. It must be a helpless move that has been working hard and struggling for a long time. Life after school breaks is even more worrying. Some students have obvious physical or psychological symptoms, their work and rest are upside down, their mental state is depressed, their thinking is chaotic, and their mood is depressed. They want to do something in their hearts, read books or study with them, but they do not have such a state at all. Leaving the group of peers, people are like kites with broken strings, with no support. The most unsettling thing is that we don’t know how long this state will last, can we keep up with the homework we have been able to return to school, and it is not known whether the new environment can still be adapted.
I think this state is a challenge that many students who are off-school students have to face. But there are still some students who have passed one level after another, and finally returned to school smoothly and continued their studies. How did they do it? What kind of resources do you need? Here I will share some practical suggestions.
First of all, life after school break needs to be faced by the whole family. Often when the child gets sick, it is because there is a problem with the family. The whole family needs to receive regular psychological treatment together.
Secondly, after school break, the pace of life completely changes, but there must be fixed things to do, and you can develop a hobby. It is best to be able to participate in a course, such as painting, dance, gymnasium, reading club, psychological growth group, etc. There are 2-3 such fixed group activities per week. For games and drama-watching things like addictive things, you must control your time. Healing slow-paced activities such as handcrafting, painting, cooking, gardening, reading, writing, etc. are all worth trying.
Third, arrange family communication time every day, which can be long or short, share with each other today's status, what have you done, what have you felt, etc. Or family members read a book together and share their reading experiences.
Fourth, if possible, you can go out to work, do some simple work, and earn some pocket money.
Fifth, go to the scenic spots to relax every weekend, and you can go out for a trip during holidays. If you have the conditions, you can arrange a longer trip and experience different lives.
No. 6. When friends have time, they can ask friends to chat and share their lives.
7th, maintain aerobic exercise for more than 30 minutes a day.
8th, you can start learning moderately after you feel that your condition improves, but don’t rush it. After resuming school, you should consider adjusting to moderate learning goals.
ninth. The above content is a relatively ideal requirement. If you can do more than half of it, it will be great. Even if you can't do it, you can try to work in this direction.
Leave school is actually a god-given opportunity, allowing you to slow down as expected, reshape yourself, have the opportunity to reflect, and have the opportunity to live in a healthier way. Speaking of this, it’s not a gift if you are sick?
——Xia Yuhan (Nanjing Pufan Psychological Counselor)
