Introverts and extroverts may not look much different, but if you look at the way they handle things big and small in life, you may find the difference.
Melissa Dahl, the columnist of "Scientific Man", reported on the latest personality psychology discoveries of psychologist Brian Jr. In his new work, "I, myself, us", Brian Jr. wrote: Introverts will not drink caffeine before attending grand meetings or important occasions.
Hans Essenk's theory of extroversion and William Revelle's research at Northwestern University shows that introverts and extroverts have different vigilance and responsive abilities in specific occasions. If an object or a scene gives introverts excessive excitement, they will not feel excited, but will feel overwhelmed and even feel a little tired.
Susan Cain repeatedly emphasized the definition of introversion in a TED speech entitled "The Power of Introversion" in 2012, where introversion is different from shyness.
Susan said, "Shyness is the fear of social interaction, while introversion is the inability to react to stimuli (including social stimuli). Extroverts desire more stimuli, while introverts are more comfortable in a quiet and low-key environment."
The famous Swiss psychologist Carl Jung believes that although people have an extrovert or introvert tendency, there is no complete introvert or complete extrovert. The introvert tendency of introverts will only appear in a specific environment.
The following are ten different ways for the introverts to live in the world
1. They avoid crowds
"We have crossed the 20th century and entered an era that historians call "personal culture." Susan said in her TED speech, "From the agricultural society to the commercial society, people flocked from small towns to big cities, and used to work side by side with familiar people, and now they need to prove their abilities among a group of strangers." "And this group of people are often chattering and noisy. Introverts are not adapted to this situation. They feel that they are isolated and would rather stay in a place with few people.
2. Group chat makes them nervous, and in-depth conversations make them talkative
Most extroverts are keen on a group of people chatting, while introverts will find this boring. Introverts often play the role of listeners in group chat. Sofia, the author of the book "The Way of the Introverts: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World", wrote in the book that introverts More like deep conversations, especially about philosophy.
3. They are full of energy on the stage - they are just not good at chatting off stage
"At least half of the people who make a living by eloquence are born introverts," said Dr. Jennifer Cavela (author of "The Power of Quiet: The Power of Introverts"). They use their strengths and prepare carefully. In fact, many successful performing artists are introverts. On the stage, being isolated from the audience is far more important to them. Internal communication is easy.
4. They are easily distracted, but they are rarely bored
If you want to test the patience of an introvert, just take them to a place they feel overstimulating. Due to their high sensitivity to the environment, introverts often feel upset and overwhelmed in the crowd.
However, in a quiet and comfortable environment, they can immerse themselves in their world for up to several hours. They can take this opportunity to "replenish themselves" ”.
5. They prefer creative, specific, and independently completed work
Introverts like to do their own things and devote themselves to the work at hand. When decisions need to be made or problems are solved, they always need to think carefully. Therefore, in a quiet and relaxed environment, they will be more efficient. Certain occupations—such as writers, field scientists and behind-the-scenes tech workers—can provide introverts with the environment they like and inspire them.
6. In the crowd, they are always closest to the exit
In crowded places, introverts not only feel uncomfortable in their bodies, but also try to move to the periphery to adjust this discomfort. They either approach the exit, or sit in the back of the concert or on the side of the corridor on the plane, in order to avoid being surrounded by crowds.
Cavila told Huffington Post reporter, "We like to sit in a position where we can retreat at any time."
7. They think twice before doing
Their introverted behavior habits have earned them the title of "listener". They always think about it before opening their mouths, rather than saying it out loud (this is often the case with extroverts). Because of this habit, they look quiet and shy, but it means that once they speak, their words will be more profound, more thoughtful, and sometimes more powerful.
8. They are not as susceptible to environmental infections as extroverts
A study published in the journal Frontiers of Science found that introverts and extroverts' brain "feedback" centers handle experience very differently. Extroverts usually produce a kind of dopamine due to their surroundings, while introverts do not respond. In fact, introverts have far less feedback on the environment than extroverts.
9. They don't like answering calls
There is a reason why most introverts refuse to answer calls—even if they are called by friends. Sudden calls will interrupt their work or disrupt their thinking. And most phone conversations involve content that they don’t like in the nature of the chat. Introverts may ask incoming calls to voicemail, so they will call back when they are ready for a conversation.
10. Time alone is the time that really belongs to them
Susan said, "For some people, being alone is very important, this is their own time."
When talking about stimulation, introverts will be cautious. Kate Bartorat, author of the Huffington Post, explained well, "Think of each of us as a cup of "energy". For introverts, socializing consumes energy, while for extroverts, socializing makes the energy in the cup more and more full. Most people like this energy. We are happy to give and share. But when the cup is empty, we need time to replenish energy."
