The tendency to avoid problems and avoid pain is the root cause of human psychological illness. ——Scott Parker
Life is a process of facing problems and solving problems. problem is to inspire our wisdom and inspire our courage; the problem is the watershed between our success and failure.
We are in a process of discovering and solving problems every day. In this process, some people are unwilling to face reality, that is, difficult and difficult problems, and choose to escape. The result is that the problem is not solved, and life stagnates at that moment, so pain arises.
I have to admit that avoiding problems and escaping pain are convenient options that most people choose in daily life. We always believe that if we don’t intervene, we will always solve the problem naturally. This idea coincides with the laissez-faire idea of Western economics. A large number of experiments tell us that this idea of solving the problem can only be eliminated. The Marxist outlook on development tells us that the world is constantly developing and we need to change. Therefore, the policies adopted by most contemporary governments are basically coordinated by the government and the market. Moving from economic development to life, if we need to keep improving our lives, we really need to constantly change our thoughts, especially this kind of inaction thought, which is always applied to reality, will only bring us endless pain.
The story of Yue Wang lying on firewood and tasting gall must be familiar to everyone. If Yue Wang Goujian did not face the problem and pain of destruction of the country due to insufficient strength, then Yue Guo would not become a strong country, and Yue Wang Goujian would not become a generation of overlords.
Is the gallbladder bitter? The answer is yes, but in the eyes of Goujian , he does not think it is bitter. Compared to the destruction of the country, he and his wife were insulted by Wu people , it is sweet. If the bitter gall was not hung above King Goujian of Yue, and King Yue chose to avoid problems and escape the so-called "pain", then the rest of his life would definitely be extremely desolate.
Knows the source of pain and problems, so how should we do it? The following methods are for reference only, and the specific situation varies from person to person.
First, learn to self-discipline . There are many connotations of self-discipline. I won’t explain them one by one here. I will give you the simplest example to check whether you are self-disciplined, that is, whether you are procrastinating. Today's things must be done today. Just by being able to do this, most of the sufferings in the day will be solved.
Next, faces the problem . All problems can be solved. Even if you cannot get good results, you have to face them. A very famous treatment method in psychology is to constantly exert factors that they fear or cause psychological problems to the patient. Over time, the problem that was originally a very big problem for the patient has become smaller and smaller. The same is true for moving this concept to daily life. Besides, if you don’t face the problem, the problem will always exist, so, it’s no big deal to face it and accept it.
Finally, assumes responsibility . Those who know responsibility are the beginning of a real man, and those who perform responsibilities are the end of a real man. Living your own life and exercising your responsibilities will not appear in theory.
May all friends smile more and suffer less on the road of their lives.
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