Have you ever had the following experiences -
Do various reflections and summaries every day, but progress is slow;
sets various flags every day, but it is always impossible to complete;
cannot focus on one thing, and it started to get distracted after just 10 minutes of doing it;
has read a lot of books and mastered it There are many methods, but you are becoming more and more anxious;
want to make yourself better, but you look at a bunch of methods, but don’t know where to start;
...
Because there are too few changes, you begin to doubt yourself and feel that you are useless;
writes for a long time, but there is no significant improvement or improvement;
, etc.
These problems and situations plague almost everyone who wants to change themselves. No matter what the reason you are starting to change yourself, you are already trying.
Then why is this happening?
This has to start with the construction principle of the brain and the existing problems.
First of all, the human brain is a contradictory complex that is easy to deceive yourself.
Have you ever had this kind of experience? I have seen a good article. I just read one of the beginnings and thought it was good. I saved it and then turned it off. I thought I would continue reading it if I had time later.
doesn't know that from the moment you close it, this article may be hidden in your favorites forever, and you have also opened for .
Our brains can't tell which is actually implemented and which appears as imagined.
After you read this article and save it, your brain will automatically think that you have mastered it and start to turn on the self-reward mechanism. At this time, whether it is distracted, chatting, or doing other content, it is all to make your brain begin to receive a effortless reward.
Your brain deceives you.
Secondly, the brain has a limited memory of a lot of information.
Cognitive psychologists and scientists have done research. The memory block of a person is 7, which means that a person can only remember seven at a time.
For example, you can only quickly remember seven sets of keywords at one time, the first 7 digits of your mobile phone number are what you often remember, etc.
So, excessive information is fatal to brain load.
people's brains are born to like simple introductions. Too bloated and complex information and too complex content can easily overload memories and overload energy, which will affect a person's concentration.
Third, your energy has not been exercised.
Cognitive psychologists have divided energy management into four levels: physical fitness, emotions, concentration, and sense of purpose. The four aspects of
together form a tower structure, called the energy management pyramid model. Physical fitness is at the bottom and is the foundation of energy management. Upward is emotions and a trigger of energy management. Focus is a powerful tool for energy management. A sense of purpose is the operating system of energy management.
is linked together. If a person wants to completely improve his energy, he must coordinate from these four aspects.
Know these three habits of the brain, so how should we design targeted measures so that we can better change our behavior? To summarize
, there are only two words: action. How to do
?
First, take action immediately when you think about it.
When you have a good idea or idea, record it immediately to avoid loss. Here I recommend a gadget flomo notes, which is a lightweight fragmented information recorder that can be bound to WeChat without any output pressure, just as simple as sending messages on WeChat. At the same time, it can quickly organize your thinking and content with #.
Second, take action immediately when you see it.
See a good article, book, news clip, etc. Any content that touches you must trigger your own experience and experience to a certain extent. At this time, you must fully grasp your thinking and record your feelings as much as possible. How to do
?
For a good article or book, first ask yourself a few questions: What is this article or book talking about? What views and methods did the author put forward? How should I use these methods and opinions? How can I explain these views and methods to others clearly? etc.
Through this self-question and self-answer method, you can quickly grasp the essence of the content and focus your attention. Only in this way can you change something.
Third, use it three times immediately after learning the method.
I thought of an example I once read. A book introduces that a person is a big shot in a field and learns everything quickly. How did he do it?
33 principle.
means learning any point of view or method and immediately force yourself to use it three times on three different occasions. Through this use, you can experience the method in depth. Only this in-depth experience can you initially internalize the method and knowledge.
internalized into your own knowledge and methods is the real knowledge of your own. And just content stored in your favorites is just a message and is useless to you.
Finally, everyone wants to change themselves. No matter what the reason is, it is good to have a change of cognition and awareness, but it cannot always be limited to knowing this level.
From knowing to doing is a very important gap. Only when you step through it will there be qualitative changes.
I always feel that it is shallow, and I must practice it myself to know this.
Actions are always the most important behavior to resolve anxiety and inner confusion.
