Two premises, two roots,
premise 1: Women are naturally sensitive and strong, which helps them easily detect the needs of their babies, give them satisfaction and comfort, and quickly adapt to the role of mothers. At the same time, they also make them easily affected by emotions
premise 2: Pregnancy and Lactation , women's psychology is affected by physiological changes, and they are prone to emotional instability and physical discomfort. Taking it can also cause irritability and depression, and women produce serotonin 52% slower than men,
(the function of serotonin regulates people's emotions and makes people happy) So you see that women are still angry when they quarrel, and men usually have nothing to do. This also makes them easily affected by physiological changes during pregnancy or breastfeeding and fall into negative emotions
Know these two premises, and then look at the two root causes. depression is a mental disease The cause of the disease is affected by the genetics and acquired environment
root 1: genetic factors
genetic factors need not be said, in fact, almost everyone has this potential problem. The genius is on the left and the madman is on the right. Sometimes it seems to be a thought. The key lies in the acquired environment. If the environment is good, it will not trigger. If the environment is bad, it will inevitably be
0 in the case I tutored. The more serious the acquired environment is, the more serious the acquired environment is. Oops, I have talked to many good friends of the original family and found that they are usually optimistic. I still remember a friend who said that sometimes he cannot feel the pain of others because she seems to have never experienced it before and cannot empathize with it. Well, what a lucky person
root 2: acquired environment
native family : parents are too strong in raising their parents, accusing, cracking, ridicuing, insulting, corporal punishment, suppressing the nature and emotions of their children, and making them Children often live in low-value and guilty feelings, as if everything is their own fault, and living is really worthless. Then when they are irritable during pregnancy, they are prone to these negative feelings and fall into it and cannot extricate themselves.
Rebirth of family: parents-in-law and husband are too strong, especially mother-in-law are prone to faults and deliberately provoke disputes. The husband is provoked, accusing his wife, or even beating and scolding him. In this depressing environment, it is easy to fall into depression.
By the way, a happy childhood heals a lifetime, an unfortunate childhood is healed in a lifetime, the same good marriage can heal each other, and a bad marriage brings more tear
original family misfortune, marriage is unfortunate, think about it, how desperate this person should be...
seems to be too negative, but the fact is that
also hopes to remind: If you are the parent of your child, please love your children well, I We can have no money, can be stupid, but we can't be without love
If you are your parents-in-law, please be merciful. If you don't like it, you can stay away from it and don't add fuel to the fire, because it's not just your daughter-in-law, but also your son and your grandchildren
If you are your husband, please don't pay too much attention to right or wrong, even if sometimes she is unreasonable and not a matter of principle, please turn a blind eye. Right or wrong is not important compared to happiness and happiness
If your mother always raises trouble, you have to tell your mother that this is your marriage and it can not help, but don’t hurt. The marriage that anyone interferes with will ruin you
However, pregnant mothers, you should also face it positively and deal with negative emotions in a timely manner, or ask three or five friends to complain, but they can’t handle it. If you want to find professional psychological counseling, you don’t understand psychological counseling, or if you want to know what the process of psychological counseling is, please refer to Mr. Toad to see a psychologist
