I found that many people have habitual procrastination. Maybe everyone has a certain degree of laziness and is full of thoughts in their minds, but they are afraid of their actions and are in a state of anxiety and failure.

2025/06/2019:05:35 psychological 1905

Hello everyone, I am Jingbing.

Under the impact of the epidemic, news of large Internet companies laying off employees has been on the hot search. The employment situation of fresh graduates has become increasingly serious. People around them have begun to practice minimalist life and consumption downgrades... All of this is conveying the current survival dilemma, and "anxiety" has become the main theme of our lives.

I found that many people have habitual procrastination. Maybe everyone has a certain degree of laziness and is full of thoughts in their minds, but they are afraid of their actions and are in a state of anxiety and failure.

Next, I summarized 3 ways to improve my motivation, hoping to help everyone get rid of procrastination ~

adjustment target

acacity according to research in Harvard Psychological Laboratory: Most of the anxiety is related to the expected value.

When the gap between expectations and reality is too large, it is easy to make people anxious.

With my own experience, I started to study hard in my senior year of high school, fantasizing about being able to get into an ideal university, but because of the high expectations, when I got a report card that was not particularly ideal after the college entrance examination, I felt very disappointed. In my freshman year, I also lost the motivation to learn and indulged in various social media, and procrastination became more and more obvious.

Later I realized that I had not actually put in too much effort, and my personality is not suitable for being an efficiency maniac. If sets the goal too high, it will become resistant and it will eventually be difficult to persist.

Having the concept of "as long as you work hard, tomorrow will be better", will only make you anxious, especially when you find that reality has not changed after a period of hard work, it will bring greater backlash, such as starting to make a mess, or turning to the virtual world's nipples to escape reality.

At this time, you must consciously adjust your expectations, rather than rushing to change the reality and refuse to use all kinds of high expectations to demand yourself. Give up fantasy not to say that there is no goal, but to pay more attention to life every day and establish a suitable lifestyle, instead of fantasizing about tomorrow too much.

Reduce the use of social software

Recently I heard two very interesting words: "Internet neighbor" and "daily-selling netizens". The social platform has expanded our circle of friends and is easy to recognize friends with common hobbies. But at the same time, the Internet is full of boring and low-quality information, which requires us to have the ability to screen information, establish an information isolation system, and protect our attention.

According to research, the more frequent we use social software, the more likely we are to be anxious. The lowest cost way to reduce anxiety is to reduce the use of social software.

I found that there are too many people on Xiaohongshu who have been promising for many years. Many post-00s have better families than me and can make money better than me. I feel that I have too many shortcomings in ability, so I feel anxious.

Now I reorganize the desktop and put these commonly used software on the last page to reduce the frequency of use. In the lukewarm weather, take more walks, eat carefully, study hard, and spend time and energy on all good things.

First there is a "bad" start

I like the saying that Professor Lobster said: "You need a very bad draft."

When you first start writing, you must accept the fact that you "written badly", allow yourself to be very poor at the moment, and then write more and practice more, and slowly pass the introductory period.

You don't have to be all prepared to get started.

You must dare to act, life is friendly to you, but too much fantasy does not mean doing nothing.

I have seen a video of an elderly person visiting the street. Many elderly people want to advise themselves to be young, "Be brave in life, be brave when you are young, and you must dare to try and create opportunities for yourself."

Many times, the reason for our anxiety and procrastination is that we are afraid of failure, worrying about screwing up things, making others disappointed in ourselves, and thus fearing. Others denying you is not as much as your own negation in a day. On the other hand, those very powerful masters have one thing in common, that is, they never care about what others think, just be happy.

Thoughts will affect actions. How others evaluate you is someone else's topic. Don't feel ineffective and anxious about this. We must be our own protagonists and stop emotional internal friction.