I don’t know if you have this feeling:
Before you start your work, you are worried that you are not competent;
object does not reply to the message in time, you feel that he doesn’t love you anymore and is chatting with others;
When you are teased by your colleagues, you will care about his words and even go toss and turns.
All signs indicate that you are trapped in the internal internal friction of your own. If you repeat it for a long time, you will feel very tired.
The Italian short film "Saturday" tells the story of a man living alone.
On Saturday morning, he was eating fruit while thinking about what he wanted to do today.
He plans to do housework, pay bills, clean up, call his family, and have fun at night.
Most people may start doing it after thinking about it, but before taking action, he imagined all these things and repeatedly calculated them, hoping to get the best result, but he has been unable to get a result that satisfies himself.
You can imagine that he wasted a whole day and did nothing.
is visible. The internal friction of mentality is very terrible. It will block your movement, trap you in negative emotions, and be unable to move.
Highly sensitive people is often a common victim of mental internal friction. They always look back and forth, have a change in their emotions, and care too much. Simply put, it is just three words: think too much.
How to judge whether you are a highly sensitive group? Think about whether you have the following behavior:
Get used to speculating about something yourself, rather than communicating directly? When you get along with other people, you always care about other people's words and attitudes? Put your hope in the future, but never feel the beauty of the present? Waste time on a lot of details? Often denying yourself? Is the stress so high that my health is not very good?
If you have the above situation, don’t be afraid. The psychological self-help book "Delicate People: How to Get rid of mental internal friction among highly sensitive people" points out how to solve internal friction.
The author of this book is Tomoki Takeda, a professional psychological counselor of a highly sensitive Japanese person (HSP), and has published many psychological works.
She summarized her experience in psychological counseling and introduced various techniques to people who often have mental internal friction to deal with emotions when facing different situations for different situations. Help them accept themselves, adjust their interpersonal patterns, liberate themselves, and ultimately achieve the goal of enjoying their work easily.
Highly sensitive people are often tired of other people's emotions, the sounds and lights around them, and they are also easily affected by their physical condition.
book points out that we can keep ourselves away from stimulation.
First of all, we need to physically isolate these stimulating things. We must try our best to avoid occasions that are prone to stress and keep a certain distance from people. After
, we can choose the keenest sense of the five senses for training. Choose one from sight, smell, hearing, touch and taste, and the effect will be more obvious.
For example, hearing, we can choose noise-cancelling headphones , wear sound-insulating earbuds , and listen to wonderful music with headphones. This reduces the stress, and when you feel it’s noisy in the crowd, you can put on your headphones to isolate these sounds. One thing to pay special attention to is that people who are sensitive to sound must choose places with less noise in their living environment.
And when you want to rest, just rest. Don’t worry too much, and don’t think too much about other people’s feelings. At this time, the most important thing is to recover your body and mind.
In fact, what people with high sensitivity need most is to learn to be insensitized, not be too sensitive to things around you, and focus on yourself to be happier.
Don’t seek troubles on your own, and don’t let others influence your emotions, so that you can live your life happily.
Learn to reduce your mental distractions, and you will be more happy and happy.
