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A sentence that you like very much: "If you don't love yourself, no one will love you."
Whether you are full of people or poor, whether you are in a high position or an ordinary person, you don't even love yourself, don't expect others to love you.
He was born with a golden spoon in his mouth and owned a beautiful manor, a huge winery. He can enjoy a lying flat life and do whatever he wants.
He has no pressure on life and turns on crazy mode. He drives and causes a traffic accident. He falls in love with the feeling of speeding cars. He steals someone else's car and is sent to jail. After jailbreak, he could no longer be happy, depressed all day long, refused to socialize, and even thought about suicide.
Later, with the help of psychotherapist Heron, he gradually got out of the trough of his life.
He is Mr. Toad.
"Mr. Toad Goes to See a Psychologist" tells the whole process of Mr. Toad curing depression in humorous language. The content in the book
is easy to understand and very interesting. While enjoying the story, people understand: Only by learning to love yourself first can the world love you.
Pleasing others will make you feel wronged
I have heard a heart-wrenching sentence: "If you want to please everyone, you will only gain pressure, misery and setbacks."
The humbler, the more unscrupulous others, the more fearless they are.
The more pleased you, the less you are, the happier you are, and the more blame you feel.
Mr. Toad's past experience is exactly like this.
Once, the toad was hunted by a group of gangsters and escaped by luck, but fell into the river and was rescued by the river rat.
He wanted to tell the river rat everything he had experienced. Not only did the river rat not want to listen, he also accused him of embarrassing and calling him a complete bastard.
Toad took the initiative to apologize and admitted that he was a bastard.
The toad was scolded by the river rat, more than once.
Another time, the toad and weasel duel, and the weasel sank the small boat driven by the toad.
The toad was stunned because he and the river rat borrowed the boat.
He told the River Rat about the duel and promised to pay him a new ship, but the River Rat still got angry with him and called him "disgusting".
In order to get forgiveness, the toad begged and called himself a stubborn and willful guy.
This is the usual way of toad. He is afraid that others will be angry with him. As long as he can make others like him, he will do his best to please him.
More than once made the toad feel aggrieved not only the river rats, but also the badgers. He often put on a fierce face and criticized the toad severely.
He scolded the toad in front of everyone as an annoying bad thing.
He will only cry in the face of badger's abuse.
Toad dared not refute. He was worried that he would be hated because of this. In order to win the love of his friends, he was willing to bear all the grievances.
There is a noun in psychology called "pleasant personality".
People with "pleasant personality" are used to putting other people's needs first, often ignoring or suppressing their own needs, and they are willing to help others and compromise themselves.
They just want to please and satisfy others to win the recognition and attention of others.
If this continues, they will feel tired, wronged, depressed and even angry. Mr. Toad in the story is a typical pleasing personality. His pleasing was hated by his friends and made him suffer.
likes a sentence: "A person will meet many people in his life. There is no need to worry about gains and losses in the voices of others.
As long as his heart is clear, there is no need to please anyone."
Your pleasing and concession cannot be exchanged for respect and understanding; your humility cannot be cherished.
Don’t please others and feel wronged.
Pleasing yourself is the antidote to life
There is a saying that goes: "We live not to please the world, but to please ourselves with our own way of life."
Pleasing others will become a slave to emotions; only by pleasing yourself can you dominate your own life.
Badger asked the toad to resign from his position as the school director and he would take over.
Toad was very angry when he heard this request, because he liked the work of the school director. He was even more angry that the badger made unreasonable requests without discussing with him in advance.
After thinking, the toad decided to face his inner thoughts honestly.
He didn't want the badger to have the upper hand, and didn't want to compromise with the badger. He wrote a note to the badger, telling him that he really wanted to retain the position of school director and did not want to resign.
Toad felt an inexplicable comfort after doing this.
Toad didn't like the job of a brewery, nor did he want to continue to worry about the Toad Manor. He was determined to sell the industry left by his father, start a business, and run real estate. This is Toad's heart yearning.
Toad likes to act in dramas, he has always been Want to have enough plays on the stage, he likes to stand on the stage and become the target of the audience's attention. He finally mustered up the courage to join the local drama club.
Toad began to pay attention to his true thoughts in his heart, and he began to care about his own feelings.
He learned to refuse, do what he likes, and dare to express his needs.
You should know that you have no obligation to satisfy everyone, satisfy yourself, and not bother others, which is actually enough.
When a person tries to please himself, He has freedom;
When a person starts to please himself, life becomes happy;
When a person keeps please himself, life is wonderful because of himself.
In life, if others make you unhappy, say it boldly; if you don’t want to do, you bravely refuse; if you can’t do, don’t force yourself.
A very agreeable sentence: “Instead of having the energy to please others, it is better to manage yourself with your heart. "
When you make yourself better and better, many beautiful people will follow, and many beautiful things will follow.
please yourself is the correct solution to life.
Love yourself first, and the world will love you
Become positive and sunny toads truly gain the respect and attention of their friends.
After he finished his psychological treatment, his friends specially prepared a grand banquet for him to celebrate his recovery.
When he told his future plans, the badger cast a praise eye and praised him: "Good job, toad. "
When Toad told everyone that he was about to star in the next drama club's drama club soon, his friends praised him in unison: "Great, brother Toad. ”
has read this sentence: “How you love yourself is teaching others how to love you. "
Think about it carefully, it is indeed the case.
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Four-leaf clover is thinking about taking care of her family and completely ignoring herself.
My husband is getting colder and colder towards her, and even often violent.
My mother-in-law criticized her all day long, only knowing how to spend money but not making money.
My sister-in-law often mocks her.
Four-leaf clover was once depressed.
She began to read psychology books, wanting to learn psychology knowledge through , and pull herself out of the quagmire of depression.
Slowly, she began to read widely and she did reading sharing.
Two years later, she not only got rid of depression, but also earned a lot of income from writing.
She began to dress herself up, buy her favorite clothes and bags, go to the beauty salon for skin care regularly, and go to the gym three times a week to lose weight and shape her body.
She became more and more glamorous and more calm and confident.
Happy husband asked her about her well-being and took the initiative to help her do housework after get off work.
Mother-in-law is no longer picky, and even came to help take care of her children.
My sister-in-law also greeted her with a smile.
Four-leaf clover sighed: "Only if you have the ability to love yourself can you have the ability to let others love you."
" Non-violent Communication " wrote: "If we can feel the joy brought by nourishing life at all times and choose to act just to nourish life, we are truly loving ourselves and treating ourselves kindly."
love ourselves, pay attention to our inner growth, and make our spiritual world full and happy.
Love yourself, attach importance to your external changes, and make your external image pleasing to the eye.
Love yourself, focus on your real needs, and make your daily life comfortable and comfortable.
Love yourself from the inside out, and it is not only you who change yourself, but also the people around you and the environment you live in.
Your brilliance, shining, attracting more beauty to come to you.
Just like a classic saying: "How you treat yourself, the world will treat you."
What others treat you are actually taught by you.
Only when you first learn to please yourself, constantly improve yourself, and turn yourself into a worthy lover, will someone love you.
Just like Mr. Toad, in the past, in order to gain recognition and praise from others, he gave his initiative in life to others, making his life passive and aggrieved.
After awakening, Mr. Toad pays attention to his true inner feelings, sincerely responds to his current needs, and makes himself the master of life, while truly winning the love of more people.
May you and me learn to love themselves, live as a ray of light, and become people worthy of being treated gentlely by the world.
