During the National Day due to the epidemic in Shenzhen, my daughter did not come back. She said that there will be a week of reading on October 23rd and she can come back for a week.
On the evening of October 21, I asked her when she would be back? She said she was very busy recently. An art club she was in charge of had a competition on the 30th of an art club that she was in charge of had a design drawing and would not come back.
"The head hurts so much recently," said my daughter, and then started our hour-long chat.
In an hour of chat, I first analyzed the reason for my daughter's headache. It was because recently, from the start of school to the present, I have served as the ministers of two clubs, and there is also the deputy minister of one club. I have done more things than last year, and I want to do better, but I have not done better, so I started to be anxious. Another reason is that my grades are not good enough and I want to improve my grades. I have no more time, which leads to a lot of homework not being done. The more I think about it, the more I sleep, the more I feel anxious. If the affairs of the community are your favorite, then as a minister, you must do your best. First, you can exercise your management ability, and second, cultivate the ability to deal with people. In fact, it is a good thing, you just need to allocate your time.
Whether the score is good or not, whether the test score is beautiful is really not the most important thing. Here I will share it with my daughter from three dimensions of life:
The first dimension is: career latitude
Most people go to college from the future to find a job (high salary) to learn professional skills. I will learn which major is popular. This is the lowest level latitude.
Second latitude: career latitude
At this latitude, some people will choose to study with their future career as their direction? This is one level higher than the career latitude. Start to consider your subject and major from a career perspective.
The third latitude: the latitude of life
At this latitude, choose what you like to do from the point you love and are good at. Even if you don’t have that much money at the beginning and can’t make so much money, you are willing to do it. This is to do things from the latitude of life, just like Principal Zhang Guimei and Grandpa Yuan Longping.
Mom hopes that you can start from your love, find what you really like, and devote your enthusiasm and enthusiasm to go for it. Then you will bloom and the power of life will come out. Maybe you haven’t found this feeling yet, it doesn’t matter. You can try to find and try and make mistakes. Life is an experience. Only by trying it yourself can you not regret it.
When you do things from career latitude to career latitude to life latitude, you are naturally full of strength.
When we feel that our physical and mental state is not good, we must be wrong. We need to find the cause of the problem, why are we anxious, we want too much, and when people ask for it but cannot get it, we will be anxious.
If you do too many things, such as if you arrange 10 things a day and cannot finish them yourself, then you start to be anxious and anxious, at this time you can reduce the arrangement of things to 5 or 6 items, and do half of the things well, so that the anxiety will slowly disappear.
In Li Xiaolai 's book "Take Time as a Friend" said that recording overhead is a good way. To fully record the time of doing something in a day, you will find that the time for many things can be reduced. As long as you learn to observe and then complete something seriously, when you treat time as a friend, you will find that you can gradually grasp the time and gradually get out of anxiety.I think this book is particularly good for you. I send you one, hoping that you can find your own problems and solutions, truly get out of anxiety and move towards a beautiful and blooming self.
Quick success in "Take Time as a Friend". Don't think that there will be results in the short term. If you can treat expectations correctly, you won't have so many anxiety.
There is a good method in the exchange. Take a piece of A4 paper, divide it into the left and right sides, write "I want" and "I have", list "I want" and "I have", cross out "I want" one by one, and exchange "I have" for "I have". Even if you can't change "I want" for the time being, you can strive for it through hard work and diligence, and achieve it down-to-earth. We might as well try a good method.
We always think that time is managed. In fact, what we can manage is ourselves. What we can manage is people and things, not time. The passage of time is not transferred by our will. So let’s take a look at how to manage ourselves. There are six methods:
, estimating time
Most of us will miscalculate time, and there are always some surprises that come uninvited, and we are always caught off guard. This requires us to disassemble the task as fine as possible, so that we can complete the task during the process.
, act in time
act in time when receiving the task. The earlier the start, the better. Now, immediately, immediately, the reason why we delay is not to delay doing things, but to delay not to start doing things. We always feel that there is still more time and wrongly estimate the time to complete things. Another reason is that we are afraid of doing something wrong or not doing it well, so we simply delay.
, face difficulties directly
Why are you very busy and anxious? Because of your low efficiency in doing things, the fundamental reason is that you are always avoiding and avoiding difficulties and unable to face them, so you choose to procrastinate, anxiety, and fear all come out.
, pay attention to the steps
Any question can be answered in three words:
Content: What
Reason: Why
Method: How
When both the content and the reason can be determined, then there is only the method. Then the thinking method starts with understanding the content, constantly subdividing and disassembling, and the more specific the better, until each small task can be completed independently by one person.
, and also take into account
We usually say that one mind cannot be used, but in order to save time, we usually run and listen to the audio of a book. In fact, it is a good use of the function of an ear, otherwise it will feel a bit of a waste of time. This is also the so-called parallel connection and series connection are used.
, perceive time
to perceive time as it passes, cherish time and then make records of time, record every day: Event log
to the end: When we treat time as friends, you will find that time also treats you as friends, which is also the force and reaction force. We treat time friendly, manage ourselves and manage things from the above six methods, and you will find that time is used to value.
