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To be honest, I have suffered losses in this regard. I lent the money out, but I can't get it back no matter how I want it. And it has been more than once, many times. Then, when someone borrowed my money, I stopped lent, leaving others with the impression of being "stingy and stingy".
In fact, the psychology behind it is that "because I am afraid of borrowing, I will not borrow anymore", and it is because I have suffered a lot of losses from "borrowing but not repaying", so I become stingy.
2. Influenced by the original family, he became stingy.
If a person is stingy, most likely one of his father or mother is also stingy and stingy. He is influenced by his father or mother, so he also becomes stingy.
In particular, some parents do some stingy and stingy behaviors in front of their children, such as when neighbors borrow their own things, not borrow them, etc. When children see them, they will involuntarily imitate them and map them into their children's circle of friends, leaving others with a stingy and stingy impression.
There are also some parents who nag in front of their children all day long, "Our family is poor, it depends on how easy your parents make money...", etc., which will also make the children stingy and stingy.
From this perspective, the reason why some people are stingy is mainly influenced by their father or mother, so they become stingy and stingy.
3. Because of distrust, I am stingy.
There is also a type of people who are not stingy with everyone, but are selectively stingy. That is, some people borrow their things, and some people borrow their things, but they don’t.
In other words, although they seem stingy on the surface, they are not stingy in fact. It is just difficult to trust a person and it is difficult to be wary of a person.
This is most likely because they have believed in others, but they have also lost too much because they trust others too easily, so they become suspicious and become less likely to believe others.
There is also a type of bystander who saw how much money a friend lent to someone. He has not paid it back for a long time. When urging the other party to repay the money, the other party also used various reasons and excuses to rude.
I believe that when we see this situation, we will also be stingy and stingy with this person, because there is a problem with the reputation of this person, because we will instinctively believe that he is "unable to repay" to others, and he will not be an exception to us.
changyanchangyu:
What kind of psychology does a stingy person have? Generally speaking, stingy people have two kinds of psychology, one is distrust and the other is reluctant to let go.
It is easy to understand the first kind of psychology, because it is because it does not believe in someone's character, is afraid that someone will not repay it after borrowing something, or is very clear about someone's character, so it is stingy and stingy.
The second psychology, that is, it is reluctant to let go, which is mainly influenced by fathers or mothers. For example, some parents will only tell their children how difficult it is to make money, etc. Similar words will make their children become stingy and stingy when getting along with and communicating with others, which will affect their children's interpersonal relationships.
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