article | Yuan Yunlu (author of the book "Principles and Rehabilitation of Depression")
Qiushui Theory Workshop and Practical Psychology Auditor: Qiushui Theory believes that depression should be treated in the opposite way, and cannot lie down and guide the patient to go out.
But I think it is definitely very difficult, which means he can't do it. Although he knew in his heart that "I want to get up, I want to eat, I want to exercise", his physical transformation made him unable to move. That is to say, "My thoughts can no longer control my body, but my body controls my heart and controls my mind."
This is a very terrible and desperate mentality. Until now, I really want to know how Teacher Yuan drove away that mentality and inner demon?
Yuan Yunlu (creator of Qiushui Theory):
Why can't patients with depression move ?
It’s not that he doesn’t know how to move, but that he doesn’t want to move at all because he doesn’t have the strength and he’s completely disappointed.
Why are you completely disappointed or discouraged?
Because he was angry and angry, he didn't want to survive anymore, how could he move?
Just like the sewer on the main street of the city is blocked, the city's veins cannot operate normally. What to do if
? You can temporarily clean up the silted water, and the streets are cleaned up and returned to normal. But soon, it will be blocked again. Because the fundamental problem has not been solved yet. How to solve the fundamental problem
? Unblock the sewer, find the silt and remove it.
Perhaps the patient can also remove it himself. For example, if he figured it out, his past energy and spirit will gradually recover.
However, many patients lie in bed day and night thinking, but can’t figure it out. In the end, most of them are exhausted, exhausted, dark, unable to fall asleep, and exhausted in the end. In the end, they are exhausted, and their energy is exhausted, and people will think or go to extremes.
As a parent or family member, it is best not to encourage patients to think by themselves at this time, because lying alone in bed is like sailing in the vast sea, without reference objects, and not knowing whether your direction is right or wrong. If there is a reasonable person who guides him, he will get twice the result with half the effort.
Remember to remember!
Of course, guidance or guidance from others requires the premise: the patient wants to cure himself and has the desire to seek help from others.
What if the patient is unwilling to accept help from others?
We can also use emotional agitation method" (such as "annoyance method" and "guerrilla tactics", etc.).
To sum up, depression is caused by blockage of qi. Over time, it will cause all your thoughts to be lost, and naturally you will feel soft and weak all over.
The comfort and encouragement of others is useless (you can show your understanding and tolerance at most), unless a "Trojan horse" is implanted, it changes his thoughts, awakens the sleeping life with the passion of life, and uses the greatness to use the greatness of the people. The soul of the shore awakens the dark soul.
However, people only know how to seek the Dharma: encourage, cheer up, and ask patients to go out to exercise. Few people help patients to untie the pimples of their hearts - the paranoid thought of self-attachment and self-indulgence.
So the psychological healing of depression is thought enlightenment.
This thought is not that thought, Qiushui theory, not a political thought enlightenment, but a thought enlightenment that conforms to the laws of nature and is close to the breath of life.
When the visitor is exhausted and calm, he will naturally have strength.
is in a state of qi in his heart. How can he clear it? This is the key to the problem.
Qiushui theory also provides a large number of practical cases and experiences around this key issue (see my book "Principles and Rehabilitation of Depression", which is underway by Hebei Science and Technology Press).
In fact, people with depression are like broken hearts, I will be completely lost and have no other love, but as long as I understand each other (mostly someone needs guidance), I can suddenly realize it.
There is a young woman who went abroad to study because of her boyfriend. Before leaving, the man said: If you meet a suitable one, please find another one. I am afraid that I will not be suitable for you, so don’t wait for me. The woman was moved after hearing this and said: I will be willing to wait for you for a hundred years...
Two years have passed, and my boyfriend went there like Huanghe , but there was no news, but the young woman who did not give up.Later, clues were found in an email. She found ambiguous photos of her boyfriend having sex with several women at the same time, and it turned out that they were all played with by her boyfriend.
Young female can't believe it's true. Love and hate, and grief. But I can't give up completely. She hurriedly found her boyfriend's contact information and wanted to verify in person why her boyfriend abandoned her?
She hopes her boyfriend will say this is not true. When the other party admitted and knew the truth, it turned out that the man had already married the tutor's daughter, she gave up.
Young woman woke up like a dream and gave up her feelings for her boyfriend who had been reluctant to leave.
Although this emotional entanglement has ended, the feeling of being deceived and the hurt heart is very serious, which requires time to heal.
At this time, she only regretted that she was blind and found a heartless man, and felt deeply guilty for her ignorance.
After that, as long as you witness some scenery, you will be moved by the scenery. So she would choose to travel and relax to divert her attention.
At this time, if someone gives some advice to him and helps him untie his knot, the woman will begin to accept the outdoor spring breeze and start a new life.
A few years later, she found an excellent man who loved her again, and had a happy life, which truly healed the trauma of the past and obtained spiritual recovery.
Practical Psychology and Qiushui Theory Training Class Disciple: Teacher, I am really tired. Wouldn’t I lie down and rest when I’m tired?
Yuan Yunlu (creator of Qiushui Theory): It is a last resort, you cannot lie down and rest.
I also felt very tired after the lecture that night. I guess it was a bit tiring to teach a class to my child at Yuganmeigang Middle School during the day, and I taught another hour and a half at night, so I couldn’t get up the next day. After I barely got up, I felt exhausted and yawned all the time. Later, I lay down to rest. Although it was less than an hour, it restored my vitality and my usual spirit.
People with depression are different. No matter how long he slept, he could not recover his energy.
Because he is tired of heart, but I am tired of body. If you are tired, just take a break; if you are tired, the worse it becomes. This is also why thousands of people with depression just lie down and then lie down.
Therefore, we must have a clear cognition: patients with depression are tired and must not go to rest. The more you rest, the more tired you are, the harder you are to extricate yourself.
If the patient does not understand, the consultant or the patient's family member who is instructing him next to him must understand this meaning.
This is the experience and experience obtained by the author through tens of thousands of cases.
Remember to remember.
