Psychological research shows that the junior high school stage is very special. It seems rebellious, but it is actually doing "revolutionary work" to explore oneself and develop social nature. Because many parents do not understand it for the time being, they are prone to conflict.
Let’s give examples of two children being disobedient.
HDD1: Pay attention to personal privacy and rights
Children arrive in junior high school and have their mobile phone locked, don’t like taking a shower or cleaning up the room. What kind of revolutionary work is hidden in
? It turns out that I am exploring "Who am I".
Children have clothes that they like very much, and they are unwilling to change them when they are dirty. This piece of clothing hides "Who am I". When you arrive in junior high school, children will advance "Who am I" from material life to spiritual life, and the focus will be to maintain personal privacy and rights. The mobile phone must be locked, and I have to decide whether to take a shower or clean the room.
Difficulty 2: Thinking about authority and rules
You give an order to your child, and your child is lip service and has a bad attitude. What revolutionary work is hidden in it? "Thinking on the rules."
No matter how naughty the children are, they still want to abide by the rules and be recognized by adults. However, as children enter puberty, they will regain their understanding of adults and think about the rules, rather than blindly obeying them. Some children will think that the rules are formulated by authority and are forced to abide by them, and they feel unfair. Although this kind of thinking is one-sided, it is a kind of growth for children's development.
After entering high school, no matter "who am I" or the sense of rules, they will enter more and more profound thinking.
After full exploration, children will develop the boundaries between themselves and society and become a person who adapts to society and has the ability to think independently.
