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someone asked on Zhihu that children are in the first grade of junior high school, girl, I have strongly asked to lock the door every night to sleep, do you have the same baby?
Results The answer below is mostly to support the baby, not the parents.
I also wrote an answer, I said, I don’t know if there is a same model for , but I believe there are many parents with the same model for .
result Many people said in the comment section that because they locked the door, their mother smashed the door and said she was wrong.
Some people also say that they are already married and their parents still don’t knock on the door when they enter the room.
To be honest, my family atmosphere is relatively relaxed. When I was a child, there was no condition for each child to arrange a room for each child, so I mostly slept with adults. I never thought about whether to close the door.
But I was surprised by the answers from many people in the comment area. It turned out that some parents really couldn't accept their children closing their door.
In recent years, native family is a very popular word. It seems that many people think that their native family is bad and they are very hurt. I have answered many similar questions.
For trauma in youth, it will take a long time to heal. And some people can heal themselves, while others may need help from professionals.
No matter what, self-healing and growth are the topics of each of us throughout our lives.
Even the great psychologist Jung is not immune to the common sense. His life can be said to have been exploring and healing himself, and finally realizing his own self-nature.
In the book "Self-Healing and Growth: Jung's Life Story", senior psychologist Li Mengchao deciphered Jung's unknown pain, confusion, transcendence and growth by analyzing Jung's most important dreams in his life, and explored Jung's path of self-healing and growth. At the same time, this is also Teacher Li Mengchao’s own spiritual growth path.
01. Jung's bumpy and great life
1875, Emperor Tongzhi of China died, and Emperor Guangxu succeeded to the throne. This year, Karl Gustav Jung was born in Switzerland .
Jung is not the first child of his parents, but there is no definite evidence about having two older brothers or three older brothers.
Jung's father is a rural pastor and clergy, but his father is actually uncertain about his belief. He told Jung that he could write any major he liked, but not a theologian.
In reality, Jung's feelings for his father are very contradictory. He longs for father's love, but he is also very dissatisfied with his father's incompetence. Jung once said that he thought men were reliable, but men always let him down, which was not his ideal sexual object.
Jung's mother has a mental illness. Moreover, their parents had a disagreement, and when Jung was three years old, they started to have a divorce. For Jung, women are unreliable and an insecure attachment is formed between them.
For children, father represents men, mother represents women, and parents are the children's initial image of interpersonal relationships. Therefore, when a child is young, the impression that parents leave on his children will profoundly affect his interpersonal relationships and intimacy when he grows up.
But for Jung, his parents gave him the impression that men are reliable but disappointing, while women do not disappoint them but unreliable. These directly laid the foundation for Jung's personality as adulthood.
When Jung was a child, he had already shown his introverted perception. Introverted perception means applying the perceptual functions such as vision, smell, taste, etc. to inner image and body perception, which means that Xiao Jung is an introverted and sensitive child.
Thanks to his talent, Jung can record all the dreams he had when he was very young. In Jung's diary novel "The Red Book", a large number of Jung's dreams are recorded. In this book, the author, Mr. Li Mengchao, chose 30 important dreams of Jung's age group to reveal Jung's growth, hurt, struggle, self-healing, growth, transcendence, and rebirth of his life.
Because of the sensitivity of the family and Jung, Jung's childhood was lonely, while young people faced the problem of fear of phoenix men and poor students. Jung began to use his dream to heal his emptiness and become an injured healer. Jung began to rebirth and integrate sex, love and marriage in middle age. He had two lovers and had conflicts with his wife. Jung in old age began to face the cleanliness of life and death, showing the prototype of a wise old man, and completing his own self-nature.
And Jung can heal and grow from childhood trauma, which is inseparable from healing diaries, as well as healing methods such as painting, playing games, and yoga.
02, Healing Diary, Healing with Structured Writing
Healing Diary is the most commonly used healing technology Jung, and most of his works come from his own Healing Diary. Writing is a good healing method. It can help us closely combine the daytime self, the conscious self and the core content of the unconscious, and adjust our psychological healing through exploring dreams.
But writing healing may feel that it is impossible for novices to start. In this book, the author, Mr. Li Mengchao, gave a structured dream record worksheet to facilitate novices to record and think about their own dreams. The specific table is as follows:
In this table, the number is the number of the dream. When you record many dreams, there is a number that can quickly recall the entire dream. For example, in this book, the author numbered Jung's 30 dreams.
Dream story is to record the story in the dream, and you can get more detailed.
image is the most critical part of the entire dream record. Images are divided into two categories, one is a container, which refers to the time, place and space of dreams. For example, when you dream of returning to your childhood, you can record your approximate age in your dream, where you are in your dream, such as home, park, etc.
Another type of content refers to the main characters and main objects in dream stories. Contents can be divided into positive elements, negative elements and transformative elements. In a specific dream, these elements are not all necessary.
positive elements refer to men, bright colors, warm animals, etc.
Negative elements refer to women, dark colors, cold-blooded animals, etc.
conversion elements refer to characters or things that transform dreams.
For example, if you dream of chicken soup, chicken is a positive element, chicken soup is a negative element, and fire is a converting element.
It doesn’t matter if you can’t tell the difference between negative elements and positive elements, because yin and yang are binary opposition , and can be transformed from each other. The last personal understanding part of
is that the dreamer realizes the truth from the dream, forms an understanding of himself, an understanding of the meaning of life, etc. For example, if you dream of returning to your childhood, you can think about what happened in the past few days, which is related to the unfinished topics when you were a child.
03. Create a healing space between ideals and reality
As we said earlier, Jung had an imperfect childhood. In addition to recording and analyzing his own dreams, Jung had other ways to heal himself since he was a child. This method is to create a healing space between ideals and reality
The first method is game.
game is an important defense method for children and even adults to adjust their hearts.
Jung's game when he was a child was playing with fire. He thought the fire he lit would emit a sacred breath.荣格还喜欢搭积木。
When Jung reached middle age, his family and career were in a mess. He diagnosed himself with the eve of the outbreak of mental illness. While writing a healing diary, Jung began playing therapy.
Jeng can play games he played when he was a child and can use building blocks to build small houses or castles. Even later he actually built a castle and spent a long time picking up stones.
Teacher Li Mengchao wrote in this book: In daily life, if a person suddenly starts playing various games he liked when he was a child, we will know that he has started to undergo psychological treatment spontaneously.At this time we can encourage him or her to play more.
When we were young, we liked to play all kinds of games that seemed boring to adults, especially when playing with friends, which can help children understand the world and develop friendships. It is a rehearsal for children to leave their parents and enter society.
Grown up Many people may immerse us in the game through mobile games, online games, or figures, etc., games are like a refuge in real life, allowing us to temporarily escape from the high-pressure life of troubles.
Resurrect yourself in the healing space created by the game that is different from reality.
Of course, as an adult, you cannot regard the game as a tool to escape the beginning.
After all, we still have a lot of responsibilities as human beings.
The second method is to exercise.
exercise actually establishes a deep link between us and our own bodies.
Many times, anxious people are busy exploring the world, meeting more people, and making more money. When we often forget to care about our hearts and look inward.
And exercise allows us to truly feel our body, breathing, pulse, etc.
Especially the body aches caused by exercise will directly make us feel ourselves, care for our bodies, and establish a link with our bodies. At the same time, the secretion of brain dopamine brought by exercise will also bring us pleasure.
For example, Jung likes yoga. It can be said that Jung is probably the first therapist in the history of psychotherapy to introduce yoga to Westerners, and the first therapist to use yoga for self-healing.
Jung believes that yoga will calm him down, continue to pay attention to unconscious work, release his emotions and start talking to his inner voice again.
You can also choose some exercises you like and establish links with your body and your heart during exercise. For example, when you are in a bad mood, you can do some confrontational exercises.
In addition to games and yoga, Jung also often uses paintings, sculptures, etc. to fully mobilize the perception of introversion and extroversion to heal.
See this, you probably also find that Jung uses self-healing methods, including writing, dream analysis, games, yoga, painting, sculpture, etc. These behaviors can be done by one person, all of which need to be immersed in concentration, or isolate from the outside world. In fact, they are all looking inward, and establishing deep links with their inner self.
Just as Jung said: Those who look outward are the dreamer, while those who look inward are the awake ones.
You can also try Jung's method and find the way you like.
04, conclusion
From this book, we can see that Jung, one of the three giants of psychology, still cannot escape the fate of his parents' marriage breakdown, his mother's mental illness, being sexually harassed, fear of poor students, and midlife crisis. It is similar to the confusion, soberness, pain and joy we have experienced.
But Jung found the ultimate happiness through his lifelong self-healing and realized himself. He used methods such as analyzing dreams, games, sports, painting, sculpture, and finding prototypes to achieve his own life story.
"Self-Healing and Growth: Jung's Life Story" is Jung's story, Li Mengchao's story, and you and me.
Then let this book "Self-Healing and Growth: Jung's Life Story" open our path of self-healing and growth.
Author: Can't remember the normal distribution of rose color, a full-time mother who loves reading and studying, is often both Buddha and depressed, and occasionally proactive psychological counselor, the world and I love you. Some of the pictures are from the Internet and the copyright belongs to the original author. If you have any copyright issues, please contact me in time to deal with it. Original works may not be reproduced without authorization.
