What kind of cultural genes you choose to accept determines what kind of concepts you have, what kind of art you like, and what kind of skills you will have. These are important components of your self.
We all know that the "man outside and woman inside" model used to be the best choice for a family. In traditional society, more physically powerful men working abroad can maximize the family's economic benefits.
Emotional women are responsible for internal management of their families, which can ensure the healthy growth of their offspring.
However, the social environment has been constantly evolving. Nowadays, society has given families more choices for division of labor. The cultural gene of " equality between men and women " has emerged.
But we are still in the transition period of these two cultural genes, and our evolution is of course hindered by the contradiction between these cultural genes.
So, the so-called "self" is actually a set of evolved psychological mechanisms that coordinate your interaction with the outside world . It will collect processing information, initiate behaviors actively, and help you better deal with various problems.
However, to make yourself healthy, you must first handle the relationship with yourself. Self-evolution includes three important gene inheritances:
The biological genes in your body have helped human survival for hundreds of thousands of years; the personality genes in your body have helped you survive in the initial and most fragile stages of your life.
The cultural genes in you have helped our civilization survive for thousands of years. When these three levels of genes cannot match the environment during the evolution process, your self will face many troubles.
Self-evolution is to better help you solve your relationship with yourself, others, and the world. I also hope that your self can evolve.
So, in your life, what is the most trouble for you at the moment? Are you not brave enough in love? Don’t dare to seek opportunities in the workplace? Treat yourself too harshly? Or is it because you lack the ability to do things and always suffer from procrastination, so it is difficult to persist?
Although evolution has allowed everyone to form a psychological mechanism for self, the reality is that some people have relatively strong self-functions and are efficient in handling problems; some are relatively weak and are prone to losing links at critical moments.
The evolution of self is the same. Only by actively stimulating its growth can it become stronger. But how to stimulate it? It is necessary for you to engage in interactions with the world, others, and yourself, and to train yourself and evolve yourself by dealing with these three relationships.
