In this era, it seems that everyone is saying "Love yourself" .
But how to love yourself?
What exactly is to truly love yourself?
We all know that we can't give others something that we don't even have.
If we don’t have money, we can’t give others money;
If we don’t have happiness, we can’t give others happiness;
If we don’t have love, we can’t give others love, and we can’t really love anyone.
So, if everyone wants to establish a good relationship with others and make their lives live a freer and happier life, you must learn to love yourself!
Next, we will tell you how to love yourself from ten aspects:
01
Love the body, not be confused by the head
Some day ago, someone asked me: "My head really wants to read books, but my body wants to sleep. Who should I listen to?"
My opinion is to listen to the body, because what I want to read is just a stubborn thought in my head, and the body is the root of a great existence. Love yourself and you must recognize the illusion of thoughts and the truth of the body.
Sometimes when I meet someone, my head is very excited but my body feels uncomfortable.
Note that this person and you will definitely have a problem in the end, because the body is more wise than the head (love yourself, stay away from him).
02
Let go of complaining and criticism
Friends who know some psychology or spirituality know that No matter how many criticisms and accusations we have about people and things in the outside world, it is a projection of dissatisfaction with ourselves in our hearts.
Also the first time I met someone. Some people were very happy to see him, some were angry to see him, some were scared to see him, and some people wanted to get close to her when they saw him.
Why is this happening? Because everyone projects the plot of their hearts, they have different feelings.
When we let go of our criticism and complaints from the outside world and begin to realize our hearts; when something appears in
, we begin to have the basic consciousness of loving ourselves.
03
Living like a baby
Just saw a 1-year-old child from the neighbor's house, and she cried without eating candy.
cried so sadly, her mother gave her a little toy, she smiled, and she smiled so brightly... The babies are as emotional as we do.
But they release it when they have it, and let it go after they have it. What do we look like?
Someone scolded me today and was still angry half a month later. If you love yourself, let’s learn to learn babies!
doesn't care what others think of me, nor does they care about what others are like, they are simply existence;
simply releases emotions and expresses themselves, and simply lets go of everything and returns to nature.
04
Pay more attention to the heart, pay less attention to the outside world
Pay too much attention to people outside, and you will definitely love yourself less; because loving yourself is the matter of your heart.
Be careful to be searching outside, who will pay attention to yourself and love yourself.
People who like famous brands and luxury goods often have many conditions for love for themselves.
Love yourself, then withdraw your attention to the outside world and enjoy the moments of being alone with yourself.
Cherish the moment you see yourself, be with yourself more, and slowly love begins to fill you up.
05
accepting your own imperfections
This is very important. Many people say that they love themselves very much, and then say: "My skin is very white, my face is beautiful, my culture is very high, and my husband is very handsome."
She only didn't say that she still loved herself despite being imperfect.
love, not this one is good, that one is bad, love is the same, love is unconditional acceptance, If someone tells me from the bottom of his heart:
"I love myself, my skin is bad, and my figure is strange.
My face is deformed, but I accept everything about me, I feel that no matter how others look at me, I feel that I am beautiful enough."
This person is loving himself.
06
cohabiting with high energy
Everything in this world is energy, and energy can be divided into high and low, landscape, plants, classical and elegant calligraphy, painting and music, awakened or conscious people.
Kind animals and film and television works have high energy. They are more in contact with them and more integrated into nature and beauty. If the energy is high, it will be better for yourself.
If a friend complains about the world every day, blames her husband, and attacks a cat and a dog, then her energy is too low.
You can keep this friend, but it is recommended not to meet frequently. To avoid falling into the negative energy circulation system.
07
often praises yourself and praises yourself
Someone invited you to a meal today, you thanked him, and then when you go home, are you grateful to your body for accompanying you out for dinner, and thanks for your charm that attracted this meal?
I often don’t have it because I always feel like I want to thank others, but I never thank myself for being with me.
If possible, remember to thank yourself, praise yourself every day, and even treat yourself to dinner and give yourself gifts to reward yourself.
Soon, you will find that you are becoming more and more beautiful and happy.
08
Do more things you like
From a spiritual perspective, doing things you don’t like is a kind of pressure, and doing things you like is a kind of motivation.
When there are too many things to do under pressure, then this person must have a lot of suppressed energy in his heart.
Love yourself, and in terms of how you live, you need motivation.
In other words, doing what you like is to love yourself.
09
Know how to reject others
There is a friend who is very kind and gentle. His wife wants to divorce him because he goes out to play games every day.
I asked him what caused him to play games outside every day. He said he didn't want to play, but his friend couldn't refuse.
Later I found out that in his life, his family once had experience of threatening him to abandon him if he was disobedient, so the subconscious idea of pleased people is profound and powerful.
Love yourself, must listen to your inner voice and not force yourself for the sake of others' likes. Knowing how to reject others is also a manifestation of loving yourself.
10
Not attached to
I found: sad people, fearful people, angry people are mostly persistent people.
If you are not attached, you will let those sad, angry, and fearful thoughts and emotions pass by. How can you get entangled in it and can’t extricate yourself?
I also found that people who like to argue for right and wrong are often more persistent. How can they prove themselves if they are not persistent?
Buddha said:
"All conditioned dharmas are like dreams, illusions, bubbles, and shadows, like dew and lightning, and you should observe them like this."
Everything will pass, and life will be eternal.
Truely love yourself, then you should be less persistent.
Many times, we always think about loving others, but we don’t know how to do it, because we are scarce, like an empty cup.
But when we are truly full of love, we will find that these loves are constantly flowing outwards. Inadvertently, they are already fragrant, full of love, nourishing everyone around us.
