Parents’ educational methods have a great impact on the development of their children’s personality. While parents blame their children for their shortcomings, they should also reflect on their own behavior. Sometimes, some unconscious behaviors of parents subtly affect the child's personality.
Parents should read this article carefully, and teachers can also transfer this article to parents to let teachers, parents and students grow together.
A comparison table of children's performance and parent behavior, are you hit?
Your today is the child's tomorrow.
If you shout to your child today, don’t blame him for calling you tomorrow;
If you are not patient with your child today, don’t blame him for being impatient with you tomorrow;
If you are not as good as others in your child today, don’t blame him for blaming you tomorrow;
If you are not as good as others in your child today, don’t blame him for blaming you tomorrow;
It is not as rich as other people's parents;
You demand that your child be perfect everywhere, don't blame him for being inferior and cowardly;
If you are used to beating and scolding your child, don't blame him for advocating violence;
If you have no clear boundaries, don't blame him for being irresponsible.
Therefore, true education should be a practice, which is the innocence, selflessness and agility of children washing away the impetuousness, skill and arrogance of adults.
Good education should be that parents use their children’s mirror to constantly discover themselves, correct themselves, explore themselves, and use this new self to demonstrate and set an example for their children.
We met a better self in the process of education.
The following three conditions indicate that your family education is in a "sub-health" state. If you have the following four conditions, you should always pay attention to your educational methods.
1. If your child likes to condemn others, it is because you usually criticize him too much.
2. If your child likes to complain in everything, it is because you are always picky about him.
3. If your child likes to fight, it is because you are hostile and compulsive to him.
4. If your child is not kind enough, it is because you are a person who lacks compassion.
5. If your child is timid and shy, it is because he is often mocked and insulted.
6. If your child doesn’t tell you what he says, it’s because you often bring up old accounts with your child.
7. If your child does not distinguish right from wrong, it is because you are autocratic and do not give your child the opportunity to be independent and think.
8. If your child is very inferior, it is because you are always disappointed with your child and cannot be patient and encouraged.
9. If your child is jealous, sensitive, and afraid of being hurt, it is because his family does not have tolerance and warmth.
10. If your child doesn’t like himself, it’s because you lack acceptance, recognition and respect for him.
11. If your child is not motivated and does not work hard, it is because you have too high requirements for him and he cannot do it.
12. If your child is selfish, it is because you spoil him too much and give him whatever he wants.
13. If your child does not understand the painstaking efforts of his parents, it is because you did not teach him to understand others.
14. If your child retreats or escapes, it is because he has been despised and attacked by you.
15. If your child is lazy and overly dependent on others, it is because you have too many things and decisions for your child.
16. If you are controlled by your child, it is because you dare not discipline severely and always beg your child.
17. If your child lies or cheats, it is because you are not tolerant enough and like to punish your child.
18. If your child is indifferent and attacks others, it is because you have too many sarcasm and cold eyes towards him.
19. If your child is violent, it is because you often use violence to deal with your child’s problems.
Educating children is a career that requires parents to work hard throughout their lives, and it is also the most important career for parents in their lives.
