Interpersonal psychology, classic abstract, learn to communicate wisdom, cheating life is not a dream
first meeting, let the other party become the most familiar stranger. 1. Constrain narcissistic tendencies, 2. Control anxiety, 3. Show a bright mood, 4. Contact the other person's eyes, 5. Synchronize with the other person, 6. Compliment the other person in time.
Remember the other person's name and is popular everywhere. A simple and important way to gain favorable feelings is to remember other people's names. No matter who he is, his name is the most beautiful and important voice. Napoleon was able to call out the name of each subordinate accurately.
In any occasion, you have to say a few words of scenes. Scene words are usually praise and compliments on face. In most cases, it is just a matter of politeness and cannot be taken seriously. When facing other people's compliments, you must remain calm, so you cannot believe the scenes. If you take it seriously, you will be too naive.
Scene words are not lies, not for deception, but for a kind of communication wisdom. They usually involve issues of position and principles, and are the foundation of life in communication. The scene is not shameful, and it can also be said to make people excited, exaggerate the atmosphere, and enhance the sense of participation in the event. In real-life interactions, it is difficult to do without saying anything in the scene, but you should try to say something close to real life. This will be more sincere and you cannot just talk nonsense and run the train with your mouth.
Praise is like air, everyone needs it. When others hear your sincere praise, they will feel affirmed and recognized, so that they will feel good and bring the distance closer.
Extended thinking: Sincere praise is not a fake, it is not a fake, it is necessary to enlarge it according to the other party’s strengths and characteristics, praise others for being handsome, say that the other party has ideas, unique insights, etc. are very common. Remember to temporarily ignore the shortcomings.
The straightforward words in the textbook no longer belongs to your adult world. People who claim to be straightforward words are actually expressing their opinions in strategy, but they are unwilling to cause misunderstandings from others, not facts.
As the saying goes, diseases come from the mouth, disaster comes from the mouth, you have no immunity to speak freely.
Being able to speak is a science and an art. Language is an indispensable communication tool, and it is the externalization of thought.
language is power. The eyes can accommodate a beautiful world, and the mouth can depict a wonderful world.
If a person talks to you and what he says can directly lead to your heart and resonate with you, then I believe no one can refuse such communication.
A positive attitude towards life is to dare to speak and be good at speaking.
No one likes to look around and be absent-minded when they speak.
Listening means respect for others. Listening attentively, it is better than giving others a lot of praise.
The common feature of people is to focus on their own interests and hobbies, so listen and respond to each other in a timely manner, and you will have an excellent communication experience.
Only when resonating with each other can the conversation go deeper and more pleasant, and it is difficult to sing alone. It is impossible to complete communication with yourself. You must speak to your preferences and make others interested in your words in the shortest time before you can get closer.
Understand some humor and your world is more exciting. If you say things in a tactful way, everyone will like them.
Some people know how to look at the occasion and people’s words, and speak very well. They can not only get the likes of others, achieve the purpose of communication, but also protect themselves.
Too much words will lead to mistakes. Those real social experts don’t talk much, but they can talk about the point as soon as they open their mouths. This is the eloquent expert.
It is easy to struggle without saying anything, making the other party feel that you are not sincere or enthusiastic. Of course, the scene is not illusory, it is best to try to speak as close to life as possible so that it can make people feel real.
In communication, you must learn to see the person talking and speak to others. Talking to ghosts is a necessary response strategy, not hypocrisy, but a way of speaking with a meaningful meaning. The purpose of seeing the partner speaks is to unify everyone's communication methods and respect others, not to have ulterior motives or to have bad intentions.
Communication is two-way. If you only care about your own expression and ignore the other person's feelings, communication will become meaningless.
When communicating with dull and stubborn people, you should speak concisely and with a focus; when facing arrogant and rude people, you should be patient and respect polite, and at the same time speak reasonably, well-founded and powerfully. When speaking to people with high status, try to be polite. Don’t speak too casually. Show your special respect. Think twice before acting. Respect and politeness are the most important. When speaking to people with high cultural level, the language should be written and profound, and the language can be modified, which can be implicit. On the contrary, when speaking to people with low cultural level, you should speak brightly, simple and directly, and usually popular, and it is best to speak plainly. When facing vanity, you might as well praise and compliment more; when facing vanity, you should express yourself first, and then the other person will become proactive. When facing people with gentle personalities, you should control your tone and rhythm, don’t be too impatient, just be patient; when you meet selfish people, you might as well show your benefits first and mobilize the other party’s positive intentions. In short, only by varying from person to person, respecting the other party and building a good communication platform can one achieve one's own social goals.
Psychologists have said that not everyone can listen to the truth.
This is a world that looks at faces, and how can the image come from without a status. How much impact does a personal image have on career development? In "Career Development Research", Harvard Business School pointed out that in the long-term development of your career, the visual effect is 9 times that of your ability.
Character is the crown and glory of life. There is a gentleman inside the door, and a gentleman outside the door comes.
The most precious thing for a person is his personal charm. What shocks and conquers a person is not hypocritical attentiveness, but noble character. Hypocritical communication will only attract hypocritical likes, both in appearance and inseparable from spirit. Only those who have truly noble character and put it into action can win the heart of the other person. As long as a person has noble character, he can win the respect of others in any social occasion, and others will feel happy when they are with you, so that they can establish truly harmonious interpersonal relationships.
2021-4-10
