Guan Zhong in "Guanzi•Chongling" wrote: The number of heavenly ways will reverse, and the prosperity will decline. means that when dealing with people and things, you must abide by the boundaries, know how to be sensible, know how to advance and retreat, know how to stop, and do not be greedy or pursue offside.
But there are always some people in this world who think they are Jade Emperor and Sherlock Holmes. Whatever he asks, others must answer him; what he wants to know, others have the obligation to tell him, otherwise he will be unhappy, make a statement, and think you are inappropriate. A typical mentality of looking at the sky from a well and a giant baby.
Tian Jing In his post on September 15, he had clearly answered several key questions that netizens paid attention to, and he was concise and affirmative in his words. Most netizens said that they understood, understood, understood, and felt relieved. But there are also a few so-called "spikes" with ulterior motives or giant baby mentality, which have issued a series of "soul questions" that are self-righteous, ignorant, and think that they are the Supreme Emperor, making people feel that their understanding has fallen below the horizon.
changed its name - why only changed its name? Why not change your surname? Shouldn't you change your surname? I dare not say it, right?
bought a house - Where to buy it in Jiangxi? Which community? How much square meters? Have you given Ma Xu the key? I dare not say it, right?
gave money - how much did I give? Cash or transfer? Is there any transfer record? Shouldn’t you give Xu Ma a little more money if you make so much money? I dare not say it, right?
did not block - just didn't block it? Supported? How is it supported? Why didn’t you see you standing up and speaking out (even if Tian Jing had already spoken out on September 15)? I dare not say it, right?
In their mindset, it seems that if you say you have paid a salary, you have to tell him how much he has paid; if you say you are in a lawsuit, you have to publish the indictment online; if you say you have bought a new house, you have to tell him how much money you have bought it; if you say you have a girlfriend, you have to show him the photos of your girlfriend; if you say you are busy, you have to tell him what you are busy with when you are free. Otherwise, you are guilty, dishonest, and have problems. The establishment of thinking like
is essentially an enhanced version of "self-surplus". The inner psychology is "you must give me what I want", and the outer appearance is "If you don't meet my rhythm, it's wrong for you." So they will be confident that you must answer all the questions he asked, and naturally think that everyone has an obligation to respond to everything he has. He regarded himself as the Jade Emperor.
But we know that everything has boundaries, and everyone has their own privacy and independent space. Everyone has the right to express and not express, or to express selectively. He/she can confide in Zhang San or silent to Li Si; he/she can only say one thing but not the other; he/she can also talk about it without saying it today. This right is protected by law and should be respected by anyone. Including the "giant baby" himself, he actually enjoys this right and will not inform passers-by about anything he has done at any time.
So those sluts who don’t understand Tian Jing’s posts will be more anxious to see the IQ of people. If you have time to ask questions, it is better to read more books to add to your brain capacity, or go to the football game to play Tai Chi. After all, you are very idle, and others may not be very idle either.
Everyone has their own life, and the same is true for Weijing. In this busy and progressive era, it is already very good that Tian Jing can spend time and effort to respond to the issues that netizens are concerned about. They have no obligation to answer every question of everyone, especially those that are extremely boring and have answers for a little move for three seconds; they have no obligation to follow everyone's rhythm, because they have their own rhythm and don't need to tell you. This is also the basic rule that most people in our world are consciously abide by, and it is also the basic mechanism to ensure that each of us lives independently and freely.
Only when the measure is reasonable and the actions are orderly can life be peaceful and the world will be peaceful. Everyone agrees or not.
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