Procrastination has always been a very headache for us. It does not mean that we don’t know what to do, but we know that we have to do what to do and that we don’t do it will have negative results, but we just don’t do it. This will undoubtedly make us even more painful.
Let’s first look at what manifestations of procrastination are? Things always delay until the last moment before starting; I originally had clear work and study tasks, but I couldn't help playing games, watching TV series, and browsing my phone; I saw good articles and good courses and collected them, but I never read them; I was always busy with preparations, but the real thing didn't start; I was always late and criticized for lacking the concept of time.
What does procrastination bring to us? It is difficult to be happy because there is something in my heart. It is always heavy and I can’t have fun even if I play; I will also feel guilty, self-blame and self-denial.
Let’s take a look objectively first. Most people are procrastinating, and we must also dare to admit that we are procrastinating. But this is definitely not lazy or self-disciplined. It is a psychological and emotional problem that needs professional solutions.
In the past, we will try to set rigorous plans and high-intensity tasks to try to make ourselves self-disciplined, but you will find that it is difficult for us to persist without fundamentally solving our inner pulling power. After giving up halfway, we deepen our anxiety and self-blame, and then we doubt ourselves that we are not good enough, and we will further delay, which is a vicious cycle.
In procrastination, we must see: we may have the tendency to pursue perfection; we may also have the mentality of escaping and avoiding difficulties; we set too high goals, so that we cannot achieve them; the goals are far away, without feedback, and we lose confidence.
So today I share with you the method of allowing us to act, act relaxedly, increase self-confidence, and act more positively. Change procrastination starts with conforming to human nature. Everyone will be afraid of difficult things.
So the first method is called "5-minute startup method". means no matter what, please tell yourself, I will do it for 5 minutes and then act immediately. No matter how difficult it is, 5 minutes can still be withstood for our hearts. You might as well give it a try. As long as you start for 5 minutes, you will find that it is not as difficult as you imagined. When you feel it is not that difficult, your actions will continue, or your mood will be relaxed, and gradually, the delay will be less serious. As long as there is action, there will be positive feedback.
For example, if you want to read a book, pick up the book immediately and read it for 5 minutes. Instead of waiting until you have nothing to do, make yourself a cup of hot coffee and savor it slowly.
The second method is, we must feel sorry for our future self. We are procrastinating now, but in fact we are pushing the problem to our future self. I thought I could solve all this in the future. Little do we know that if we cannot act now, we will still be unable to act in the future. So when you think about your future self, you have to bear these difficulties that may not only be the present, because delays may magnify the difficulties. Then if you take a little action now, your future self will be easier. So, start to act.
The third method is to set the worst target method. Many people cannot act because they prepare for too long. For example, if you want to run, you immediately think of buying a pair of suitable shoes, searching online, and finally you feel that it is difficult to choose, and running may be left alone.
or too much pursue, you have to wait until all the conditions are met before starting. This method is to set yourself a "worst goal". Just ask yourself what the minimum standard for the result is before starting something. Then you find that this worst goal makes you very relaxed because it doesn't take too hard to achieve it. This worst goal is rough but complete. Only when we have a rough house can we start to renovate it. If we waste too much time on one wall, we may not even get a shelter for wind and rain.
worst target method, let us put aside the details of preparation and just the whole. Leave the local beauty and beauty, as long as it is complete. With this idea. Action is no longer difficult.Have you learned all the three methods of
? Remember to come back and tell me your practical results.
