Many people are becoming more and more anxious nowadays.
Whether it is my email or WeChat, or the confidence of readers in the backstage of Shan Renxing, many people are anxious about their current life, work, career, society and future.
This kind of anxiety is not only the business owner, but also shows a kind of youthfulness. Through the words, I seem to see young faces frowning.
It is related to our current economic environment, but it is not entirely because of the environment.
As the older generation, it is often difficult to understand when facing this "anxiety":
You don’t have to worry about food and clothing. It’s better than our life at the beginning. What do you have to worry about?
There are also experts who are shouting that modern people are anxious because they are too fragile and have experienced too little.
In fact, each generation grows differently, and the problems they face are different, so naturally there will be different troubles.
The anxiety of youth is not because people today have become vulnerable, but because they have experienced too little, but because they have experienced too much and too fast. How to understand
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First of all, anxiety ≠ anxiety disorder, anxiety disorder is a disease.
Anxiety is a psychological activity, making bad expectations of what may happen in the future, falling into tension and anxiety.
Why is this generation becoming more and more anxious?
The first reason is that many people lack the content of "how to be an ordinary person" in the education they received in the past.
Most parents in China have "parent-class education", hoping that their children will become dragons and girls will become phoenixes, and use their past experience to educate their children, save money and let their children go to good schools and go to good tutoring classes, and tell their children all the time:
If you don't work hard to be "people are the best", you can only be "people are the best".
Many bosses are also using this "paternal method" to manage their team.
However, they ignored a problem: this society is originally an class society .
As long as it is a class society, there is Matthew effect at work. Most people only see the appearance of 20% of people's highlight moments, ignoring the law of doubling in the Matthew effect.
"Success comes from compound interest generated by continuous learning and accumulation and actions. Only by achieving small goals again and again, plus just the right luck, can great success be generated."
When most people cannot become 20%, they begin to doubt whether they are a good failure or a waste. When they want to act next time, they will be extremely afraid of failure, which will delay the action itself.
This is "catastrophic thinking". Once you fall into this kind of thinking misunderstanding, people's action will become worse and worse, and it is a vicious cycle.
Another reason is that our "threshold" for getting happiness is getting higher and higher.
What was our entertainment method in the past?
Read books, watch TV, and play computer games with better conditions.
These require at least several hours, dozens of hours, and even take the initiative to think to get happiness.
But today the speed of society is accelerating, and the myth of making wealth is also accelerating.
The original "happiness" was packaged into a short video joke that does not require brains, and "short, flat and fast" has become the myth of "I can get rich overnight."
Under this short-term and high-frequency stimulation, the brain will secrete a large amount of dopamine . It can make people feel happy in a few dozen seconds or minutes.
But this simple "happiness" is more exciting, and the "threshold" for obtaining happiness becomes higher and higher. The consequence of the increase in the threshold of
is to do things that take a long time and positive returns. Everyone has no patience to feel happy. Just like how many people can calm down and read a book and do something to the extreme today? Many people even don’t want to read it for thousands of words.
This is also why many people will obviously feel that they have become "impatient" after being addicted to short video jokes and dream of getting rich for a while.
Because everyone is eager for instant satisfaction, the threshold of happiness has increased, and they are no longer willing to accept delayed satisfaction. Do things that take a long time, need to think, but benefit more.
Of course, do you think I want to throw these questions to parents and social media?
of course not. There is a common background behind these problems: social acceleration.
What is social acceleration?
There are three types of social acceleration: technology acceleration, life rhythm acceleration, and social change acceleration.
technology acceleration is easy to understand.
In the past 20 years, technology has completely changed our lives, and the most direct experience is the explosion of productivity.
green train has become a high-speed rail aircraft, writing letters has become WeChat, and manual production has become a fully automatic production line . The results of
technology acceleration are obvious: The acceleration of our pace of life.
car is running faster and faster, but we do not save much time to rest and think, but instead go to more places;
sends WeChat much faster than writing letters, but we also have thousands of people on WeChat, and chatting has become a tired task.
Technical progress and the progress of life rhythm are not independent of each other, they will promote each other:
is the acceleration of technological progress, which prompts the pace of life to become faster and faster;
Life rhythm is getting faster and faster, resulting in the cycle time of production and life being shorter and shorter;
Production and life being getting shorter and shorter, forcing technology to be further accelerated.
Under the influence of the party, social changes accelerated, and more and more new things emerged at accelerating, but our feet, hands and heads are also inconsistent.
The old linear thinking can no longer solve the nonlinear problem today.
For enterprises and individuals, guiding ourselves away from anxiety is more conducive to our lives and careers.
First, recognize the reality of society and find the starting point of the virtuous cycle.
As long as it is a class society, 28 law will work.
Many times we will find that there are only goals in our eyes, but there is no way or action to achieve the goals, and it is difficult for us to cross from "8" to "2" even if we work hard and work hard.
At this time, recognize this and reduce your blame and anxiety towards yourself.
people cannot follow the environment and the problems brought about by social acceleration are one after another. What we need is not only to see the problems and blame each other, but to correct our mindset, learn to solve problems, start learning and accumulating, first focus on doing one thing well, and enter the benign track of nurturing success.
Second, avoid the catastrophic thinking model and find a means that can make you feel fulfilled.
It is not the only way to achieve success in "being a person is good at being a person". Even if we are lucky enough to become the "being a person" in the eyes of others now, we will find that there is a higher class above our heads.
The goal that truly allows us to achieve a sense of accomplishment is not to compare with others and be "people are the best", but to compare with ourselves and be "better people".
3, delay gratification, and look for "long-term happiness".
To achieve delayed satisfaction, one must focus on the benefits of the entire life cycle to make decisions, rather than just looking at the immediate returns. This is a kind of wisdom based on rational choice.
splits a long-term goal into short-term goals, and then continues to "delay" and "satisfies" in stages, and continues to give oneself positive feedback.
In the end, we may find that improving ourselves is never a utilitarian goal, but a result.
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Editor in charge | Luo Yingfan
