Do you know how hateful these celebrities are?
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th rich businessman, found da Vinci and wanted him to draw a painting for his wife, which was expensive. After Da Vinci agreed readily, he was slow to catch fish in the studio all day long. It was not until Jacondo could not bear it that Leonardo da Vinci finally drew the first draft and later revised it for 15 years before the painting became the world-famous "Mona Lisa".
Director Wong Kar-wai was initially edited by New Art City Pictures , but he was fired because he could not hand over the manuscript for several months. Later, after going to Yongjia Film Company, he was fired again because of the comedy script delayed for 9 months. After becoming a director, he was told by the entire film industry that "Wang Kar-wai, this director cannot be touched" because his slow pace can always drive the actors and producers crazy.
Like us ordinary people, many celebrities also have serious procrastination, and they have expressed their hatred for their procrastination on many occasions, but they still cannot change it.
Some foreign media once called procrastination a "some kind of innate evil gene" . What's scary is that everyone knows that procrastination has a great impact on personal life and growth, but there is no more effective treatment. Competing with it often requires strong self-control that ordinary people cannot achieve.
Have you ever thought about it? Maybe it is because your brain doesn’t want you to get rid of procrastination?
German psychological coach Jacqueline Cooper published a new book "Who Says I Can't" in August this year, which classified procrastination into our inner "self-destruction" of ourselves. She believes that the fundamental cause of procrastination comes from our hearts, and it is the self-destructive psychology at work.
And in this book, she proposed coping strategies for nine typical "self-destructive" behavior patterns, and we can compare them one by one through the standard scale in the book.
"Self-destruction" is because the brain is taking action against us
"Self-destruction" is a relatively unfamiliar concept. Its impact on us is simply: We really want to get something, but we will unconsciously obstruct our plans.
For example -
set up a weight loss flag with great ambitions, but it is always interrupted;
gave up the whole year plan formulated at the beginning of the year, and quickly did not give up;
is always self-doubting, worried that the goal you want to achieve cannot be achieved;
every time you delay the work until the last moment to complete...
Don't blame yourself too much, these behaviors are your own brain making decisions without your consent.
The book "Who Says I Can't" tells us a knowledge point: The personal growth we pursue is an act of escaping the comfort zone. The brain tends to classify everything that exceeds its own comfort zone as dangerous situations, and the main purpose of the brain's existence is to protect the human body and keep us away from danger.
Therefore, once we want to do things that escape from our comfort zone, our subconscious mind will determine that this is a danger and release resistance, making us think that it is safe to not achieve the goal.
The famous American screenwriter Steven Pricefield once said: "Most people have two kinds of lives, one is the life we are living, and the other is the life we have thought about but are buried deep in our hearts. There is a single-plank bridge called 'resistance' between these two lives."
Come on, fight with the brain
Although our brains are always preventing us from doing so-called "dangerous" things, our subjective will and our own pursuit require us to change.
Then, the essence of escaping from the comfort zone is actually to break through the "resistance" brought to us by our brains.
In the book "Who Says I Can't", the author believes that 's method to terminate self-destruction is to convert the resistance of the brain into the innovation of the brain through these methods.
For example -
is more accurate in our understanding of the world, which helps improve attention;
achieves clearer thinking through training, which helps us to liberate from psychological disorders;
carefully perceives our emotions and actively adjusts our emotional state, which helps to cultivate emotional control;
consciously trains language expression and obtains positive language styles, which will affect the institutions of our brains;
decides decisively and acts immediately is the best way to treat procrastination. Have you noticed
? The methods listed above are very similar to what we usually call "anti-human instinct". It's just that we have never really figured it out. On the road to becoming better, the most fundamental resistance is ourselves.
"Who Says I Can't" is a very guiding book. The first half of it teaches us to see clearly our hearts, telling us that behind lying flat, scattering, salted fish, and procrastination is actually a vicious cycle of negative thoughts in our hearts. The second half of the book teaches us to redefine our lives by listening, understanding, sharing and changing.
Although the resistance of the brain is our original sin of "self-destruction", isn't taming your own brain the easiest thing?
Finally, there is a sentence for people who cannot extricate themselves from "diseases" such as procrastination: No one can say that you cannot, including yourself. ”
