phenomenon: I did nothing all day, but I felt tired. A casual word from others makes me uneasy and always feel anxious when doing things, which means I have fallen into internal friction in the workplace. In the mild case, I am inefficient in procrastination, and in the severe case, I lose my job. Learning too many skills at this time is useless, because it is not that I am not good enough, but that I am exhausted inside.
Problem: Internal consumption.
1. What is mental internal consumption?
Mental internal consumption, also known as psychological internal consumption, refers to the need for people to consume psychological resources in self-control. When resources are insufficient, people are in a so-called internal consumption state, and long-term existence will make people feel tired. This fatigue is not caused by physical fatigue, but a psychological subjective feeling, and a state caused by the individual's psychological loss.
2. The manifestation of mental internal friction:
1. Hesitant, indecisive, and inefficient. This hesitation may miss many job opportunities and affect the future of your career.
2. It is easy to be influenced by other people's words, resulting in depression and ups and downs. As long as the other person shows a little unpleasant expression, his heart will become tight and he feels that he has said something wrong, and his emotions will be depressed, and even the whole day is not good. In severe cases, you will feel depressed and afraid of socializing.
3. I have no energy every day, maybe I have done nothing, but I just feel very tired, and I am helpless when I see myself falling.
4. Dislike yourself. What you are essentially disgusted with is yourself who is far from your perfect image in your heart. Set a goal for yourself repeatedly. As long as you fail to meet your goal expectations, you will belittle and give up on yourself in your heart.
5. Fear of being discussed and easy to think randomly, and it is easy to fall into the swamp of negative emotions and be unable to extricate yourself.
3. Reasons for mental internal friction:
1. Extremely unconfident in oneself.
Self-evaluation is very low, and often belittles yourself in your heart, feeling that you have nothing to do. I always unconsciously compare my shortcomings with what is particularly prominent in others, so that I belittle myself even more in my heart.
2. I feel very sensitive inside.
care too much about the people and things around you, and even feel that you can associate yourself and often get negative results.
3. Always put your thoughts on past or future things.
Recalling a small thing I did wrong a few days ago, I felt extremely upset. I kept thinking about what impact it would have and how to make up for it. In the end, I chose to avoid things, delay things repeatedly, and the more I procrastinate, the more anxious I became, and fell into a vicious cycle.
4. Set too high requirements for yourself.
sets a very ideal goal for yourself, and then force yourself to execute it every day. People with less mental internal friction will feel that life is becoming easier, while people with more mental friction will feel more and more painful.
4. How to deal with internal mental contamination?
1. Take action and do it for 3 minutes before talking.
When you are about to have a late stage of procrastination, force yourself to act for 3 minutes first. Complete everything in advance and then be perfect. Once you take the first step and activate the state, you will defeat yourself.
2. Don’t worry too much about the comments from outside.
Not everyone can understand you. Don’t care too much about the right or wrong of social standards. Making yourself happy is the most important thing.
3. Overturn negative emotions.
The emergence of personal emotions comes more from one's own beliefs. If you feel that you are in a state of mental internal friction for a long time and are easily affected by many things, it is better to try to change the beliefs you think about, so that you will be able to completely get rid of mental internal friction in a short time.
4. Learning to accept yourself
Face your shortcomings and appreciate your strengths is the key to reducing internal consumption. Everyone is not perfect. Don’t create a perfect benchmark image for yourself in your heart. This image is not you, and the two have nothing to do with each other.
5. Don’t have too high requirements for yourself
Just try your best in everything, it doesn’t matter if you can’t do it. Find the shortcomings and correct them, and you will be better in the future.
