Everyone has a love for beauty, and young people are no exception. But if you care too much about your appearance, you may develop heart disease and lead to appearance anxiety.
Which level is your appearance anxious?
Since childhood, parents and teachers have taught us to dress cleanly and appropriately. So, is normal love for beauty and neatness a person who is looking anxious about his appearance? Not to. Because our usual love for beauty and neatness will not be accompanied by strong anxiety.
As the name suggests, there is anxiety. It refers to an individual who is worried that his appearance does not meet the outside world's standards for beauty, and is expected to be negatively evaluated by others, and is in a mood of worry, trouble, tension, and uneasiness. Some people also call it appearance anxiety, appearance anxiety, etc. People in this state will often check and adjust their appearance and external image.
If you want to test your own anxiety level, you can refer to the "Social Appearance Anxiety Scale" compiled by Canadian psychologist Hart and others to give the following 16 performance scores. Each performance is divided into 5 rating levels from 0 (not in line with my situation at all) to 4 (very in line with my situation). The more you "shot" you are, the higher the score will be, which also means that the higher the level of anxiety in your personal appearance.
Worrying that "others look at me" will bring pressure
Maybe you have also discovered that when measuring appearance anxiety, many manifestations are related to "others look at me", such as worrying about not being liked by others and being negatively evaluated by others.
When others look at us, we are actually an object being observed. If we observe our people, comment on our appearance and define our appearance randomly, we are actually regarded as an object or tool for people to appreciate and evaluate, rather than a real and complete person.
Over time, if we are used to being watched by others, we actually put ourselves in an observed object position. Even if others are not present, we will still imagine the eyes of others looking at ourselves in our minds, that is, self-objectification. At this time, we no longer focus on our true selves, but on the outside world's evaluation criteria for perfect objects and the gap between ourselves and this standard. This gap will undoubtedly cause anxiety.
Maybe you only look at the text, and you will feel outrageous: I am a good person, how can I feel like a "thing"? But the power of objectification is indeed powerful.
First of all, because people around us often comment on us. In traditional society, the psychological distance between members of a family is usually very close and the psychological boundaries are relatively weak. Therefore, "seven aunts and aunts" are accustomed to commenting on others, from the "flat head" of a baby to the "white and fat" of a child to the "sharp belly" of a pregnant woman. Although these standards are not very consistent with our aesthetics, this behavioral pattern that objectifies people has always existed.
When we reach the Internet world, everyone will be even less "polite" in their evaluation of each other. had challenges before, such as touching the navel with his backhand and putting coins on his collarbone. Later, there were also sayings such as "Without A4 waist, what kind of goddess is a comic waist" and "Don't be a man without eight-pack abdominal muscles". Anyone who posts pictures online does not meet the "Internet celebrity aesthetics", will be ridiculed or even blasted online, but "Internet celebrity appearance" is also not "safe", and will be ridiculed "unique and unrecognizable"...
In short, human objectification is everywhere in reality and the Internet, breeding appearance anxiety.
See more value for yourself
Since appearance anxiety is born from self-objectification, If you want to get out of appearance anxiety, you must reject self-objectification and see the value beyond your appearance .In other words, there are so many important things in life, why do you have to focus on your appearance?
Each of us has many identities, such as children, students, friends, etc. In each identity, we have corresponding things to do and corresponding traits, such as being studious, being responsible, being kind to others, etc. These are our characteristics and values. And these values are much more important and more stable than appearance. When we believe in our value in the process of exploring our strengths and qualities, we will not be easily affected by the outside world's evaluation of appearance.
Of course, stays away from the environment and atmosphere of objectification, and can also help us become more firm in . Those who always evaluate our appearance and make us anxious may not have appeared in our social circle; true friends can help us more convinced of our value.
Beauty is the blooming of flowers, confidence, open-mindedness, calmness and happiness. Life is in a hurry, and it is really impossible to be anxious about the eyes of others. I wish you to get out of your anxious appearance and live confidently and freely.
