We all think that the more confident the better, the better, but what is confidence? What does confidence look like? Where did you come from?
If you have been searching but never found it, maybe you have not found the right place. Confidence may be different from what you expected.
There is a difference between people looking confident and really being confident. Knowing what you are looking for may help your needs.
So, please allow me to share here:
Seven little secrets about self-confidence, not that ulterior motive.
1. Confidence is quiet.
When you think of self-confidence, you may imagine a person who will make as many voices as possible to maximize the attention.
But true self-confidence is quiet and does not require the attention of others, but only focuses on oneself.
The bragging and noise are not symbols of confidence, but just manifestations of insecurity. It originates from fear, fear that once they are silent, they will be forgotten, underrated, and used as supporting roles.
But as your confidence grows, you will start to let go because you understand that you already have everything you need to persist, improve and contribute. You no longer worry about whether others can listen to your voice. You will speak at the right time and you will come and listen when you understand that the person who needs to listen to you is ready.
2. Confidence is still.
You may feel that a confident person is like he is injected with blood every day, moving forward quickly, kicking the door open, and quickly getting things done.
But true self-confidence, I began to believe, more patient than that. There is no need to run around and compete with obstacles. Just like a good running back , he will take the initiative to take a step back to look for opportunities.
The best athletes understand this. They do not perfect their swing, throwing, or footwork by adding movements, but by reducing any unnecessary movements. Every move they take is purposeful, stable and utilizing all their strength.
After you have confidence, you will do the same thing. You no longer need to create a riot, but you will have the wisdom to use pauses to seek opportunities.
3. Confidence is humble.
Maybe you think confidence is equivalent to being arrogant and slapping your chest and talking big.
But confident know where they come from and how they reach the end. It remembers its humble beginnings and understands that there is always room for improvement.
Humble is a sign of self-confidence, because confident people are not afraid of exposure. They know their strengths and weaknesses and can accept their complete selves.
The more confident you become, the less you need to convince yourself, confirm everything you have, and don’t need to hide your shortcomings.
4. Confidence is generous.
You may believe that confidence only means victory. Defeat the enemy and collect loot.
In fact, the need to defeat others is based on fear of lack, because the honor, reputation, strength, praise, love and success you get are always insufficient.
Confident people are not shy to meet challenges or competition, but they also understand that success is not based on the failure of others. Even if they can do it, they will acknowledge their opponents, even appreciate and celebrate them.
When your confidence grows, your heart will also grow. You will no longer worry about sharing aura with those around you.
5. Confidence is inner.
When you think of self-confidence, what you think of may be an external symbol. A tall chest, soft muscles, and shining gold.
But this is just a material show-off. Some people show you their muscles, their mansions, a lot of things they collect to cover up their poor inner self.
Confidence is not something you should not put on your chest. It exists deep inside you and in your mind.When you ignore the size of muscle mass in your body and the weight of your wallet, it is with you.
6. Confidence can be converted.
Maybe you think you can only gain confidence when you are particularly familiar with a certain process and a certain process.
In fact, confidence is gained in one field and spread to other fields.
When you master one thing, you can see your potential in mastering other things. Once you have the experience of solving strange and mysterious things, you have the confidence to go deep into unknown areas.
7. Confidence can be created.
Do you think you can win confidence by pretending? You have heard of many such things, and it is indeed possible for a while.
But to truly win confidence, you need to do something clear. You need to show it, write it down, draw it down, continue it, plan and execute it.
Confidence is not something that can be won, it is created, not a day or two, nor a week, but it is created over the years.
The good news is that you don’t have to overturn yourself and start over. Just shift your attention to the right actions and to the actions that build confidence.
Are you ready to build confidence?
There is good news. No matter how much confidence you feel you already have or lack, you can always be more confident.
